Re: befor knowin the game...
Well you have to be the exception to the rule, eff that gift giving crap it is also very AFC. You just have to find out how to strike a nerve with her. Best way is to snub her as being shallow call her out on the liking gifts, and then pull the I bet you are deep down a nice person but people seem to take advantage of that don't they card. Likewise, I don't just give people things because they must earn my affection.
Set yourself up as the challenge, show her you have self respect, you have interest in her, but unlike everyone else she hasn't won, thusly you are different.
Still more info would help better tune this plan.
Learn to be a better person not a better player.