Im brand new to this site.
I just turned 40, which possibly puts me in a different demographic from many of you. I dont see much on here that relates to the struggles us older dudes go through when trying to pick up (please direct me to the threads on mid life pickup, if im off base here). Hopefully over the next few weeks I can help change this and provide my own insights into the 36+ game.
While I am 40, I am new at this, but surprisingly good. I was in a relationship that began in my teens and ended when I turned 39. My ex is a very beautiful woman. She was a 10 when I met her and for a woman of 40 she is still extremely desirable. This has helped my validation, as I live in a small city and many people know me simply because I was the long term husband of the town hottie.
I still use my ex for validation. We have two kids, so whenever I can I arrange to have coffee with her to 'discuss sh1t.' I choose coffee shops where I know I will be seen by several of the gossip girls in the town.
My ex mentally abused me for much of the relationship, and left me completely lacking in self confidence and depressed. I have to say, I was more than an AFC at first, I was THE AFC. I would sit in bars and watch the sports, ignoring the girls so I wouldnt appear creepy and hoping and praying that a girl would talk to me.
The Stealth Attraction system is what got me started. I was amazed by how simple and true this system was and it gained me immediate results, which I may post later. I promise I am not plugging the system for Richard, although I think he deserves it.
After my initial success I was literally gobsmacked by how many IOIs I was generating, just walking through town or grabbing a drink at the bar. Id been blind to these signals for years, but now it was if I was a different person in a different body. I have discovered an aura of awesome that is influencing not just girls but everybody into treating me positively.
It actually makes me angry sometimes (although I have discovered that showing anger is dlv at the max) because many of these techniques and skills I have known instinctively for many years, but have suppressed them or misinterpreted them because my conniving ex would actually point out the people she found attractive or smooth and tell me how unconvincing and genuinely slimy they were. She would also tell me she hated the clothes I actually look good in and stuff like that. My ex by the way, also uses manipulation techniques. They are known scientifically as 'controlling behaviour techniques' and are a thousand times more sinister than anything that pua do because the objective is not to 'use' or 'conquer' but to destroy and dominate.
Ive joined this forum because I intend to share my experiences and insights as a 40 year old pua (although i do dislike the term, these awesome powers I have discovered are much further reaching than pickup, they work in business and general society like a charm.) I will do this once I have established myself a little more on these forums.
thanks to Bill and co for this forum and all the insights that come with it, see you all soon.