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    Default Getting game while retaining the things I care about?

    Hello there,

    I'm a BAFC who hasn't gotten laid in years. And I really need to change that, I'm going up the walls here.

    But... I am also really passionate about the things in my life and I actually like who I am (apparently unlike a lot of people trying to become PUAs). Which in a nutshell is a thoughtful, idealistic non-conformist who enjoys things like film, philosophy and art and has no interest in e.g. drinking, dancing and sports. Maybe you can see the problem?
    Anyway, I am usually all about honesty but since my dry streak has been going on for so long, I'm at the point where I'm like "Fark it, I'll tell them whatever they want to hear". Personally, I find that a lot better from a moral point of view than paying a woman who doesn't really want to have sex with me. Because at least a woman I would put on a show for really wants to fark that character.

    But that's just the thing... even if I learned all the things that make them more likely to perceive me positively - the point would still come where she would ask about me. And I could tell her the truth and likely repel her - or lie. But even if I would lie, I would have to have enough knowledge to lie even more if she decides to dig. And I don't want to spend 2/3 of my free time researching things I actually have no interest in to prepare myself for gaming women - which I'd spend the last third on.

    I want to get laid to live, not live to get laid - in a manner of speaking.
    And I don't know whether that could even be possible for someone like me. Can anybody here imagine it being possible to game women in a way that it doesn't really matter how unusual your interests, views and tastes are?

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    Default Re: Getting game while retaining the things I care about?

    If I can talk about smartphones and video games and still get laid then it's not your interests that are your issues. It's how you present them.

    When I talk about those things I focus more on the emotional impact they have. I may throw in a couple of technical details, but tend to stay away from that since they will likely have no clue what I'm talking about. I really just focus on how exciting it makes me feel to talk about technology.

    P.S. I also don't care for sports and am not afraid to tell women that.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Getting game while retaining the things I care about?

    That's reassuring to hear and some great pointers right there, thanks!

    And just to clarify - it's not like I've been trying to approach women in random places already. I don't go out. But... obviously, I'm thinking about changing that.
    I was just worried that it would get in the way because there have been many occasions when I would talk to people and it would just be awkward silence because there was simply no mutual interest in anything.

    I also may still be traumatized from the only time I ever went to a pub (alone, about 5 years ago when I was 25) and those two HB9s were sitting down left and right to me so close they were touching me and saying they want to drink tequila with me. Didn't even completely kill the mood that I refused to (one of them just said "Alright but we will"). But then they asked something else I forgot that I didn't reply to in a positive way. After that, I didn't know what to say myself, the DJ kept giving me the stink eye from the point they sat down and I wasn't too sure about their age anyway (looked mature enough to me but you know...), so I fled the scene.

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    Default Re: Getting game while retaining the things I care about?

    Getting out of the house and meeting people is the very first step you have to take. Theory can only take you so far before you have to put it into practice. That awkward silence will go away once you get better at keeping the conversation rolling

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    Default Re: Getting game while retaining the things I care about?

    Actually, you have a good Mindset. You're passionate about something: that's great!

    Now, what's important is to learn how to share it. Can you speak about it emotionally? Can you make someone else interested in it?

    Don't refrain yourself because you think you have to make the other person interested. If you know how to present it, how to sound passionate, anyone will share your interest and passion.

    That's the difference between:

    "I love jazz music, jazz music is awesome! Every time it reminds me that you know, only the present moment matters, and what's important is just to be happy. I found this band actually that..."
    and:

    "Hmmm, I don't like pop, that's stupid, not even music. Rock is repetitive. Nah, RnB, seriously? Yeah, maybe I like jazz, you could say that, at least it doesn't suck."
    First case is more positive, and enthusiastic, and emotional, and that's something that people feel when you are talking to them (and not only women)
    Seduction is a martial art. Reading books and talking to experts is important, and helpful. But you won't progress unless you go out there and fight.


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