Re: How is being a PUA going to help me?
Seems like you know a lot of your "don'ts." But what about your "do's?"
Here at the community we know how important it is that our minds play tricks on us. The issue is really about changing your Mindset. That comes with time and effort. Because you can't suddenly behave as if you have a lot of friends when you don't. But you have to change your mindset to get friends. It's a cycle. That's why we came up with the phrase "Fake it til you make it."
Understand a few basics and you'll be fine.
- Everyone has a story to tell. Become genuinely interesting in getting to know who people are as a person and let them tell you their story. A lot of the time you only need to nod your head in agreement to what they say and they think your the coolest person alive!
- This...takes...time. For the first 6-10 months I was going to clubs and bars BY MYSELF. You know how scary that shit is for a beginning PUA? But I pushed myself and made it through. And it was well worth it. I started having people invite me out EVERY weekend. To the point where I had to choose between groups of people and sometimes got tired and didn't want to go out. But usually did it anyways to stay consistent or they'd guilt trip me into doing it lol. Be patient and push your comfort zone. "How do you expect things to change if you don't change?" Good quote right?
- Look at this entire learning process as a game. It helps take the pressure off and makes it more fun to try new things you haven't before. When you go to a bar or cafť you'll see it as recess. A time to play and practice your skills. And that there is no failure. Only learning experiences.
- Accept the fact that you WILL fuck up. You WILL make mistakes and you will occasionally have that awkward moment where you wish you never said or did something. And that's perfectly fine. Everyone goes through it. You are not alone. Shit , I'm not perfect and still screw up. So what! Life goes on so live it. Not spend time regretting it.
Hope this helps and good luck.
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