The total unfairness of the dating game.
I want to write this little blog post to express a very clear idea that came to me tonight as I was discussing relationships with a female friend of mine. The basic understanding I have reached is that the dating game is totally unfair. I developed this opinion after thinking about the different roles that men and and women play during the dating process and the choices that are avaliable to men and women as they play the dating game.
First lets look at the role of women. Women basically are expected to allow men to come and approach them and make a move. In the dating phase of a relationship women really are not expected to drive the relationship forward or make advances on men, and as a result women are only left with two choices. These choices is the choice to say yes and accept the advance of a man or the choice to say no and reject the advance of a man. Thus a women can only make this yes or no choice from among the men that are willing to make advances on them or make themself available to them. The woman can choose how much a man needs to do in order to earn advancment to another stage on the relationship for example sex ect. But at the end of the day the only choice for a woman is yes or no to what ever is on offer in their life situation. Perhaps they have dozens of guys hitting on them all the time so the choice abundant, but perhaps it could just be the occasional advances of some looser they know.
Men on the other hand have a different choice. It is who they are willing to make advances on and who they are willing to make themselves available to. Then from among these group of women they are willing to make themselves avaliable to the woman they will be able to choose from are the women who accept their advances and say yes to their offers. Therefore the question for a man is how many people is he willing to make himself avaliable to? And does he have the skills to get a “yes” from the women that he peruses.
There for the man has much more choice. He gets to choose who he creates the possibility of a relationship with, and all the woman can do to his advances is either say yes or no. The next thing is once a woman says yes to a man, she then hands the power to choose and control the relationship to the man. Now the woman has said yes it is up to the man to decide if he wants to continue any further. Take for example a man who hits on a girl and finally wins her phone number. Now the man has her phone number it is him who will make the choice if he calls her or if the relationship goes any further.
If we really consider this we realize the game is totally in favor of men. Yet, because of the shitness of so many guys there are still so many AFC’s and loosers out there, who just refuse to develop the basic skills needed to be able to be able to get a woman from amongst the thousands of opportunity that present themselves every day. Or men that throw themselves and their dignity at the feet of one woman just because they haven’t realized the opportunities that are out there for them, if they just wanted to execute a bit of game.
At the end of the day, the game is totally in favour of men. We have all the power and woman only have one choice, and if men develop the skills they need they can take that choice away from the woman and make it their choice.
I have the highest respect for women, but I believe that this is true and I guess it is unfair for woman, but that is the way things are.