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    Cool Coworker!! Failed kiss!! What next!?

    I started this new job as a sale rep for at&t 3 weeks ago and it's an 8 week training course in a classroom. Perfect for pua practice. Lot's of ladies and I've been gaming this girl in the class. She's an 8 HB, black 21yr old girl, but really clean cut, speaks proper english, church girl and I'm 28yr old Puerto rican. I love Pua and have been very successful with women but I'm still learning.
    Long story short, her and I been vibing real good in class. I neg her, I've disqualified myself and had lot's Kino Escalation(touching) . We played the truth game in the class during break, some girl ask her if she likes me and her answered was that she thought I was cute. The trainer invited the class to karaoke the second week of class, so we went, and danced. This week she invited me to church so I went and again we vibed out good. I even stopped at this book store at the church and bought this cool looking necklace for like 20 bucks to give to her so she can think of me.
    On the way home she started qualifying me, asking me 21 question. She ask if I would ever cheat on someone? I was like no. Everything seemed cool. When she pulled up to my drive way I gave her the necklace and she refused at first. She said she doesn't except gifts like that unless it's from someone she's dating. I explained to her I picked it out for her and I thought she would look wonderful with it on. And so she accepted it.
    At that point I went in for the kiss and she turned the other cheek. She ask me why did I try kissing her and I just got out of the vehicle and told her I'll see you at work tomorrow and smiled. She text me she wants to give me the necklace back. Now what? Am I still in there? What's next? I got to see her at work/training class for another 5 weeks...

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    lookout is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Coworker!! Failed kiss!! What next!?

    I say, no contact for a couple days- let her start chasing you a little since she seems invested and not the type to have a rotation of guys.

    But that is a bad mend to an awful situation. She basically told you she wants a relationship! You didn't need to k close and from the way you describe her im not surprised she backed away.
    (side note- your not expecting to fark this girl anytime soon are you)

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    Default Re: Coworker!! Failed kiss!! What next!?

    Don't do the necklace thing next time. I know you wanted to give it to her but it was a bit too nice of you.

    You said: "I wanted to give her the necklace so that she can think of me." That's a false attitude. If she likes you, she's thinking about you anyway. You don't need to force this thought by giving her a necklace.

    Overall it looked good to me, but that necklace thing really turned things off. You picked an early time to give it to her. In my opinion, it implied that it's a symbol that she belongs to you. And that implication freaked her out because she just barely knows you.

    I can see that the attraction is there, but I can't see the comfort I'm looking for. Sometimes 2-3 weeks is not enough to build comfort. It often depends on the chick but it usually depends on your pace and your intentions. I think you got caught up with the idea of kissing, kinoing her too much, that you forgot to build some friendly comfort, which is actually essential in your case since it's not night game and there aren't any time constraints.

    Hope you get the idea, good luck,
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    It's about who I am. Do it right here, right now.

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    Default Re: Coworker!! Failed kiss!! What next!?

    There's a lot of details missing, but the necklace thing was bad. You should not buy her anything at all. At least I don't. Not until after we have slept together and I'm a bit nicer to her.

    Also you said she qualified you. That's a bad spot. She asked a silly question about if you would ever cheat. Seriously?...who asks that? I would've said "Yes, but only on Thursdays." just to be a smartass. You need to flip the script and qualify her instead. Get her to show you why she would be a good fit for you. Not the other way around.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Coworker!! Failed kiss!! What next!?

    Personally i think i the necklace thing was not that bad even though you could have avoided it.As a pua you may focus on the job before maybe you could implement other things if you may.She liked you before you bought her a necklace and you should take it back if she insists why?to turn things around so you may establish a better ground for a relationship.

    You framed the fact the you bought a gift for her as the seige to go in for the kiss.Now that was bad.where to go from here.?
    If she is insisting on giving it back take it.then run game on her and escalate.
    Taking it back will flip the dynamic where now you are using "raw" game to garner attraction, which is the best since you actually like her.you may buy her gifts later.

    She got offended because she felt like you did that to kiss her which may have been manipulative and damaging to her feelings since i think she liked you.handling this aspect may be another matter but then...i starts with retracting your gift if she wants or implying that she doesn't seem like she want the necklaces she may return it.do this in a cool calm tone..


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