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Thread: 2 GIRLS! 1 is PSYCHO! NEED YOUR HELP! DOUBLE TROUBLE!!

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    Cool 2 GIRLS! 1 is PSYCHO! NEED YOUR HELP! DOUBLE TROUBLE!!

    I was seeing this girl I went to high school with 10 yrs ago. We reconnected on facebook and we've been fck buddies for 7 months. We hung out a lot because we both have mutual friends from school. I explained to her several times that this is what it is and I didn't want to commit to anyone at this time of my life. Although I told her she still caught feelings for me. I told her about 4 or 5 weeks ago I needed space and don't want to be tied down. So I stop calling and hanging out with her. She text me a few times and ask how I was doing..I answered fine and that was that.
    Then, I recently met a new girl that I really like. So my ex-fckbuddy, textes me while I'm at work, and asked why I haven't contacted her and if I've been seeing someone else. So I thought I was doing the the right thing by telling her I was seeing someone now. She start texting me like crazy. Leaving voice messages crying. I felt really bad so I explain to her that I didn't intentionally mean to hurt her and I would like to remain friends. She stop texting and calling me. So I told the new girl what happen and I told her she's the one I want. lol She understood and was cool.
    It's been a week since I told her and this weekend, the new girl and I went out to the beach this saturday and she spend the night at my place. We both woke up today by the alarming sound of banging of windows and yelling outside. It was my ex-fckbuddy yelling "Fck you bitch! Come outside! He was with me!" I could tell the new girl was straddled so I went outside and threaten to call the cops and she left. I ask the new girl if she's ok and she said yes but that she'd like to go home now. I told her I completely understand and I apologized. She kissed me and left.

    Now, psycho bitch is texting that she hates me and all this crab. And that I hurt her feelings...She wants to know why? Smh
    I'm not sure the best way to handle this ? I feel bad though.

    And, what about the new girl? How should I continue gaming her from this point? She texted me that she's not mad. I really like her and we already had sex twice and it was amazing! Help Me Out My Fellow PUAs

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    Default Re: 2 GIRLS! 1 is PSYCHO! NEED YOUR HELP! DOUBLE TROUBLE!!

    First off I want to say that I'm not a professional and this is just an opinion.

    You did everything you're suppose to thus far. Don't think that you could've done anything different. You can't control people's emotional maturity level.

    Usually I'd say to just ignore her until she gets over it. But that's if her harassing was limited to texts and calls. She crossed the line by coming to your home. Now it has to become a legal issue.

    From now on save and/or lock any messages she sends you. That's your evidence. You need to say verbatim "Stop harassing me." It'll make getting a restraining order much easier. Don't try to convince her or have a full convo about her behavior. It's essentially rewarding and reinforcing it. Simply tell her to "Leave me alone" or "Stop harassing me."

    I know you would rather avoid this stuff and wish it would go away on its own. But if you really like this new girl or any new girl down the line then you have to put them as a priority. It also builds rapport by making her feel safe. Attraction switch: Protector of Loved Ones.

    It still may very well go away on its own, but you should still take those steps in case you do have to bring things to court to get a restraining order. Hope this helps and good luck.
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    Default Re: 2 GIRLS! 1 is PSYCHO! NEED YOUR HELP! DOUBLE TROUBLE!!

    WHAT THE ...you have sex with a girl 7 months..you go ahead and treat her like this.

    the other girl is loosing attraction towards you.notice how she left when she was not supposed to.don't even go there she knows she will be safe.

    if this girl hasn't told you she likes you yet as an executor of affairs be careful how you treat the other one.if girls can observe you at a social event to determine your character they may be observing how you treat another girl too.rem she was your f buddy GIRLFRIEND treat her right.its ok you must take legal precautions.

    its best to treat them as friends.cause thats what they are in the first place.take it slow with the other.do put too much pressure she may run.resist that urge.knoe you wont let that fall

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    Default Re: 2 GIRLS! 1 is PSYCHO! NEED YOUR HELP! DOUBLE TROUBLE!!

    Dude

    This is right up my alley, been there so many times.

    First of all, congratulation on getting women to fight over you. Most guys here are seeking that here.

    So first of all dude, Women cannot separate their emotions from sex. No matter what they say, ever. There is no exception to this rules guys.
    Someone remind me to write a thread on sex buddies.

    Do know how to deal with this, you will need to imagine that you were having sex and spending time with this girl, and you like her. then one day she tell you she does not want to be serious and starts sleeping with another guy. This will break you a bit.

    Now here is what you need to do.

    Reassure your new girl that the last "relationship" is over and its just an disgruntled ex partner or what ever and you get her to stop bugging you.

    Then you need to do the following.
    Arrange your ex to meet you at a public place. Tell her you need to talk. You know, the kind of tone of voice you do when you want to end things with someone.
    Why? you see, everyone wants closure and doing it like this will give her closure. So its almost like your acting. Hope this makes sense.

    Meet her at a coffee shop or deli or something, a public place, and a place where you can make a quick escape.
    *tip: always pay cash for your drinks upfront so you wont have to wait for the bill.

    When you meet her, "apologize" to her for been an insensitive idiot and explain to her that its time you both move on and that you have now met someone you can see spending a future together kind of thing and you wanted to talk to her about it cause she is your friend.
    Let her down easy.
    Keep your cool. This is important, this will convey a message that you have made up your mind. If you don't, she will think otherwise.

    She will understand and give you space most likely. if you this correctly.

    I assume this is the first time she has gone "psycho" on you and that is normal when someone is desperate, so forget about it and do not bring it up.

    Make her feel as if she has molded you and you have learned a lot from your time together and its time to move on.

    Now she will most likely not speak to you for a very long time, but at least she wont go psycho on you again.

    If she does, then maybe talk to her friends to talk to her and if that fails, call your local loony bin.

    Good luck

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    Thanks Guys! That's really good stuff. All the post are helpful. As of now I have my ex fckbuddy calm. She stop calling and texting but I have a feeling it won't be the last time I hear from her. My new girl is acting weird though. I notice she posted pics of some guy on facebook doing stunts on a motorcycle and it read good times with so n so's name just a couple hours after the incident at some parking lot. I didn't expect this from her. We had such good time together. I didn't mention it to her. Then today, I didn't hear from her and it's memorial day, so I text her to meet up and she didn't respond. Hours past so I hit her with this line
    " You seem busy right now, so I'll leave you alone so you can do your thing."
    and she responded right away with in minutes with
    " Not busy at all enjoying the weather and talking to friends on Fb." I responded to her with
    " I'm more fun than that."
    And she said" You have some kind of damn nerve. Now I'm just annoyed."WTF Lastly thing I texted her was
    "Annoyed?"

    Funny, it's been hours it's now midnight and while I'm typing this, she just text me "Yea.." How should I respond. WFT This chick is running game on on me... What do you think??

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    Default Re: 2 GIRLS! 1 is PSYCHO! NEED YOUR HELP! DOUBLE TROUBLE!!

    Very odd behavior on her part. I don't think this is her reaction to the whole ex f-buddy thing. But not sure what to make of it.

    Whatever it is you definitely need to fall back for a bit so she can sort out her thoughts. Whether you want to make it known to her that you are available when she's ready is up to you. Risky to do that because she seems to be playing games instead of being open and honest. Nonetheless you still need to give it about a week. Re-engage like nothing happened and gauge her receptivity.
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    Yea I don't know either..this is getting out of control. I spoke to the new girl briefly at 2 in morning and she thinks I've been lying to both of them and leading them on. I explain to her that my ex is no longer in the picture and she the one I want, I cut the conversation short because I told I had to work in the morning. Today I check facebook and she got 2 post tat read I wish it was so simple and stop your bullsh1tting. I feel like these post were ment for me or something. To top it off the dude that she was hanging out with on Sunday with the motorcycle liked both her post. WTF

    And now my ex is texting me she's pregnant. UNREAL!
    SMFH
    Whatever I told her get a second opinion and then get back to me.

    Should I ask the new girl who's this dude or should I just keep it cool?

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    Default Re: 2 GIRLS! 1 is PSYCHO! NEED YOUR HELP! DOUBLE TROUBLE!!

    That's really good stuff. All the post are helpful. As of now I have my ex fckbuddy calm. She stop calling and texting but I have a feeling it won't be the last time I hear from her.
    I hope you didn't blatantly apologize to her as in im sorry for what went down but i like ex. i wish to move on with x..if you did anything along the lines of that take your tools and sarge elsewhere why?its either the other girl became friends with with her and she knows you went ahead and did that which turned her off.. rem was said that she may be loosing attraction...

    You were playing this sort of vibe and they both didn't want to work with that.if the other girl has let yur ex on that trust me she has closure so there almost nothing you can do..she may not be contacting you soon.

    And she said" You have some kind of damn nerve. Now I'm just annoyed."WTF
    This is evident of The Vibe you put across like your full of yourself .next time before you support or take sides make sure that other girl agrees too.Never do that to a woman ever.

    Am on you like this becos of how you treated that girl.moving on?theres a way.

    Girls competing over you does not pertain to this situation.you didn't pursue them at the same time.they were both attracted you turned them off somewhat.

    reply her text stating that you have misinterpreted signals in the past.you thought in was just casual,you never ever knew that it will come to that.when it happened you wanted her to be safe.but bet she can kick ass..you have straightened things with her and she is just a friend as she is to you.

    girl 1 the one (7 months)
    tell her you never knew it would come to this. you thought you were just friends.sometimes people misinterpret things and it leads to.. you valued what you guys had so much that you had to just coast(continue)when you are exclusive you are exclusive, even in an open relationship.we never got that on.
    there are times its been open and you never did cause both parties specified.

    This may get her attracted you need her.if it doesn't at least 2weeks down the lane you guys can hook up.

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    Default Re: 2 GIRLS! 1 is PSYCHO! NEED YOUR HELP! DOUBLE TROUBLE!!

    The pregnancy could be just a ruze. It happens more often then we think. It's even been done to me before. Cold shit man. Just keep your cool and get her to show you proof.

    As for the new girl it's good you two communicated. It's important if you're really serious about her and want to take it to the next level. She may need reassurance from you. But she has to stop with the games. You're both adults and can/should be able to discuss things. Posting on FB is high-school shit. (honestly I don't trust women who post on FB too much anyways. They're usually immature) If you don't see it going anywhere then who cares and just game other girls lol.

    So definitely show her that you're putting her as a priority, but be careful to not kiss her ass or you'll just be feeding her ego and looking needy.
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    Default Re: 2 GIRLS! 1 is PSYCHO! NEED YOUR HELP! DOUBLE TROUBLE!!

    And now my ex is texting me she's pregnant. UNREAL!
    Shitest. if you haven't impregnated her actually.Be non reactive but don't accept anything thats not yours.but a the same time don't get mad or insult decline politely.

    Whatever I told her get a second opinion and then get back to me.
    Get right with them first.

    Should I ask the new girl who's this dude or should I just keep it cool?
    Not really necessary that guy comes of a bit AFC sort of.its like the girl might have shared your story and he is blindly following.control the frame by handling this situation properly.if you keep communicating you like her you may chase her away.it salvageable.been there.. minor issue


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