*I know I wrote a book but I dunno how to explain my situation.
Whats up everyone, new to the forum but I think I prob. have a different problems than a lot of folks here. I'm already a very confident person in general; well spoken (was awarded "Mr. charisma" in my large public speaking class last semester, my style was the prototypical cocky funny though I didnt know what that was at the time), I'm already the alpha male, in terms of body language and the way I speak. On top of that, I am a good looking guy, a stereotypical "hunk", or as most have said, "stud". Good skin square jaw high cheek bones ect. I'm a bit of genetic freak; or I guess I should a major underperformer in that sense. I have a horrible diet, hardly ever excersive outside of the occas. pick up football game but yet dont gain a lbs (infact Ive experienced crazy-prob. unhealthy-weight loss in the 2 periods of my life Ive actually attemped to lose weight); never lift but still outllift most of my friends (several of whome play div. 1 sports in college) , never run but still torch them anytime we play pick-up whatever. I'm in the process of changing my diet but its tough (the folks who say mcdonalds is addicting are 110% accurate) and working out again to my improve my body, which isnt bad, but could. prob. better. But that asides-
Because on the surface I guess I have a lot of things in my favor, I have never really had to *try* with girls. I'm 20 and I've never a real girlfriend (but I come from an upper middle class town where everyones parents married in their 30's and there were very little couples, so I never even really thought about it) but I've never had to make a real effort to pick up girls; in groups at parties and what not Ive pretty much been myself: I'm loud but not obnoxious, funny, ect. I guess from reading the forums here I would be "flirty" but I always looked at it as being a d1ck as a joke (never really picked up that this is what girls like), my most frequent and effective way was to always say the opposite of what pretty much any girl would say....i.e. "This is the best part of the song"-I would talk over her "Yeah this is def. the worst part of the song"...so I literally had chicks constantly coming onto me; one of my buddies girlfriend literally had a new friend wanting my # (I've only asked a chick for her # once in my life, every other time its been given to me) every time I saw her. That said, I have very high standards, so much to that I was honestly kind of offended one of her friends thought I would hook up with her. So even though I had a large # of girls I knew I could get with, I really didnt take full advantage of it (I fully-closed one chick last summer, and they dont come easier: she was visiting a friend of mine (her cousin), was all over me, dropping the most obvious lines like "We might never see eachother again!"...) but the reality was these girls, while by and large being fine girls, were not what I wanted. They were prob. 6's while I wanted 8's and above. My thinking was and always has been, "If I exert zero effort to get them, I could def. get what i want if I actually knew what i was doing". I had never wanted a girlfriend or even a real friend with benefits (because honestly girls arent that important to me at the moment as Im up to my ass in school work)...but that was until now.
Enter this fall: en route to a party I run into some legal troubles (Massachusetts laws are absurd, I couldnt have gotten more screwed) and my ability to party is done until I am 21. Not putting myself in a situation to get screwed again...but the prob. is outside of these group settings I have ZERO game. For some reason, in one on one conversations with girls I am interested in (to be blatantly honest I don't really talk to chicks I'm not interested in) all of that stuff is out the window. Its like talking to a door; and I know it too and have no idea why I am acting so disinterested but at the same time efforts to sound interested come off either awkward or weak. Confidence in 1 on 1 scenarios isnt really *low* but not really *high*; I have girls I would gladly pursue flirt with me but Im just no good at flirting back. Im totally out of my element and have no idea how to get back in. But at the same time...I want to be getting with these girls. I dunno what the deal is; I went on a school trip a month ago and the best looking girl of the 24 person group was totally into me and I knew but I was just out of my zone. I do not know what is up; she is touching me the whole way up, facing me, nonstop eye contact laughing at everything, putting her # in my phone, texting me all night, ect. all this stuff you guys say are IOI's...but I just have no idea how to escalate. Honestly, I am complete beginnger; I dont even know a real effective way to ask a girl for her #.
I think with some help here I could a damn successful pua, but the problem is, I am clueless. I.e...wth is "day game", and what is "night game"? Whats the difference? And what is this "mystery" Sh1t? Act mysterious? I was looking at the list at the top and couldnt find anything...it seems like I am missing some huge starter piece that you guys are are in. Can yall help me?