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Thread: Went wrong somewhere but don't know where or she lost interest

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    Default Went wrong somewhere but don't know where or she lost interest

    I've known this girl for a few years now and and been really good friends with her. I know she liked me because when she was going out with her bf she said she did. We did make out a few times when she was going out, but I know she felt bad about it (this is like a year ago). Recently we started seeing each other more and would hookup more often and what not. She wanted to have sex, but I did not want to and she knew I didn't want to before saying it. After we have been hooking up more, I feel like she is just losing interest or playing hard to get. I would try to make plans to chill with her, but she often comes up with an excuse. It kind of pissed me off so when she asked me to hang out I said I was busy with something else. A few days later we made plans to chill last night so we could watch a movie and she was going to sleep over, but at night she gave an excuse about her roomies being with her so she couldn't and that she wanted to go to bed soon. Pretty much the same excuse she has been using for a while now.
    I'm not really sure where I went wrong, but things haven't been the same between us. Txting wise, she would usually reply within an hour of any txt, even if I were to reply to hers hours after or even a day after. Now she will always take a few hours even the whole day to respond back. She does however respond to my txts from the previous night really early in the am when she wakes up.

    In our most recent txt exchanges I had something of hers so I said:
    Me: If you want it you have to come get it
    Her: Haha I don't need it right now
    Me: I never said to come right now (sent it pretty early at night)
    Her: Okay goood (she sent that early in the am)

    I'm not really sure on how to handle this as I have never quite been in this situation before. Any tips?
    I was thinking I can just leave it at that and ignore her for a few days and see where it goes or I will talk to her and try to straighten out w.e is going on between us. Thanks

    I just have a feeling that she is talking to someone else. If that is the case I don't care, but she should be straight up with me about it which is the only reason why I was thinking about the second option above.

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    Default Re: Went wrong somewhere but don't know where or she lost interest

    Are you trying to sleep with her ? I think, I'm as confused as she is. What are you trying to get from her ? You can't be mad at her for wanting her sexual needs fulfilled. And if you're not interested in being the one to sleep with her, accept you are just going to be friends and not the one she wants to cuddle and make out with.

    I would love to give game advice, but I don't know how to give advice to someone whose intent is not to sleep with the girl.

    Good luck.

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    Default Re: Went wrong somewhere but don't know where or she lost interest

    Im with Cd here, theres something amiss you either left out or havent made clear. when you denied that booty, you became the one in the driver seat, when you couldnt hang out when SHE wanted to im sure that gave her some type impression that she had to counter balance. Im not going to say move on until you give some type of update, but this may turn into a battle of power between you two, good thing for you theres this community here to help put you back in control.
    You can't miss something you've never had, but I can be sure she will regret her opportunity...

    Better known as Debauchivalrious...

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    Default Re: Went wrong somewhere but don't know where or she lost interest

    I'll take a guess that she is just bored.

    I don't think it a bad thing to refuse sex. Very risky yes, but not necessarily a bad thing. It's possible that she no longer feels the excitement she had before and has gotten comfortable. Which could also mean bored.

    You want the excitement back? Then you need to realize that women are emotional creatures. A woman doesn't fall for the nice guy. (If she does it's only because she had a bad boy in her past. And those feelings are usually temporary if he is always nice.) She falls for the guy that can make her experience different emotions. The emotional rollercoaster. This includes so-called "negative" feelings as well. It's an art form in itself, but I think it's a good option to get you two back on track.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Went wrong somewhere but don't know where or she lost interest

    She likes you sort of.probably realized you were cold thus her shooting her walls up.avoid the whole powerplay(cancelling on her too) might have caught on in dyn.there are other ways..


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