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Thread: Fresh out of 6-year LTR

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    Thumbs up Fresh out of 6-year LTR

    Name's Erik - 23 y/o guy living in Vancouver, BC. Getting out of a relationship with a girl I've been seeing since 17, so I'm excited for the opportunity to start ethically adding notches to my belt.

    I'm more comfortable with pick-up than most. I've worked in sales for 5 years, and a lot of the skills and tactics carry over - it's also thickened my skin considerably to rejection. That being said, I know I'm still very green. I'm quite comfortable with approaching, starting conversations, there are a few scripts I've used, but I'm equally comfortable with natural/observational set openers. I've also worked part-time as a magician for a few years, and magic can be an effective opener as well.

    Where I really want to practice is learning how to consistently convert leads into actual relationships, and especially k-closing at the bar/club. I can #-close pretty consistently, and though it's a nice little ego boost, I know I should be doing better. (I also am not a big fan of texting back-and-forth; just find it boring). Often, when I go for a k-close it just feels like an unnatural jump in the interaction - even when it works, I know it's just because the girl was into me anyway, and it still makes me cringe to think of how un-smooth it is. For someone who is not especially well-read in the pick-up arts, what would be a good starting point for learning more consistent closing methodologies, and smoother transitions into k-close?

    Thanks for anyone who took the time to read this, and especially for those who take the time to respond. Looking forward to your recommendations!
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    Default Re: Fresh out of 6-year LTR

    I wouldn't worry about methodology behind it. You just get the feel for the interaction and know when to go for it. Then it happens more smoothly. I think it's just the fact that you haven't done anything like that for so long since you've been in a LTR. Honestly, I've kissed over 100 women and I STILL get nervous the first time I go for it (unless I'm drunk then I don't give a shit). That anticipation doesn't go away. You just have to jump right in there.

    Another thing. If you Kino allot the transition into the K-close is allot smoother and more natural.

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    Default Re: Fresh out of 6-year LTR

    Hey a local!

    Sales definitely helps in a big way! You mention converting leads into actual relationships... do you mean you want multiple long term relationships? Or FWBs? Or just another monogamous relationship? Your strategy will vary depending on what you want.

    Whatever you end up doing, have fun with it.

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    Default Re: Fresh out of 6-year LTR

    Don't put the "Kiss Close" on a pedestal.
    Getting kisses (& numbers) will become SOOOOOO common before you know it.

    It's just a matter of teaching yourself to stop being intimidated by women.


    The more confidently forward & bold you are, the easier it is to make a girl WANT to kiss you... not just get her to "let you" kiss her.

    Seriously, the big secret is to be FUN, exciting & confident/relaxed.
    No matter WHAT you do... even if it's a total goof up, OWN IT.
    Learn to find humor in everything & you'll be amazed at what kind of stuff will start to "Roll Off your back".



    Need one on one private coaching? PM me for details.

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    Default Re: Fresh out of 6-year LTR

    @DirectIsBest:

    Thanks for the input, dude. W/ respect to Kino Escalation, is there some specific way I should go about it? I should clarify I'm like okay freestyling it, and don't mind making an ass of myself, but if there's a right way to be doing this, I want to head off bad habits where-ever possible.

    @psychoactive:
    I guess I mean FWBs. Definitely not looking for anything monogamous or committed, but I've also found that I'm not a big fan of one-night-stands - I just find the sex I have on them is often less than stellar, and that as I build relationships, the sex gets better and better. So that's what I mean.

    @ T-Mal:
    Nailed it! That's what I want. Like the situations where you know a girl is just waiting/aching for you to kiss them - that feeling of power/control is awesome, and I want to learn to get there consistently instead of just kinda lucking into it every now and then.


    Thanks for the input guys - I'm pretty excited abotu the single life.
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