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    Default /Wrists (not serious)

    Found out the wife cheated about a month ago, today. Itís been a roller coaster ride for sure.

    Anyway AFC to GPUA here in a day or 2. Really excited to get going and learn some of this stuff.

    34 years old, most of my buddies are coupled up, parenting or expecting. Iím actually expecting as well (jesus Christ, this is my life). I need to find some wingmen or get some courage and address my aa own my own.

    Iíd like to use this as almost a journal. Document my journey to superstardom. More posts to followÖ

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    Default Re: /Wrists (not serious)

    Welcome mate!

    I like your positive outlook on an otherwise shitty situation! I think you'll find all the help you could ever need in here, I know I have and still do today.

    Good luck!

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    Default Re: /Wrists (not serious)

    Thanks for the welcome Kvn07

    First I’d like to say that I’ve seen a lot of stuff on here about stealing girlfriends. I think this is totally benign, maybe even good. Better for the AFC to know if his girl doesn’t really dig him before he goes any further. But hopefully people here respect the institution of marriage. In my situation, maybe I was a sh!tty husband. But a lot more lives got completely farked up more than mine, or my wife’s. My daughter did nothing to deserve the life she’s going to have to live now. My unborn child is never going to know what a having a real family feels like. My wife’s affair partner has 4 kids, who’ve grown up learning from a total scumbag.

    All that said, after my wife disclosed her affair, I went and confronted the man she was sleeping with (non-violently of course). After that I went to this guy’s house to talk to his wife. Turns out she’s filed for divorce already. Guy had had lots and lots of affairs and she finally put her foot down. This woman is attractive. I’d like to F closer her. I wouldn’t call this 1itis; I don’t want to date her or have any kind of relationship with her. More like a conquest. I’ve been in communication with her sporadically and I’m ready to turn up the volume. I’m gonna post my conversation and if any of you want to post advice I’m very grateful. If you don’t, that’s cool too. I understand I’ve got to figure most of this stuff out on my own.

    Last week sometime, Me: How’re you hanging in there

    4/14 - 2:12 Her: Hi, was on spring break yesterday with my daughter. Was great to be gone
    2:21 Me: Hope you had fun. Beach or mountains?
    2:34 Her: Beach. St Kitts and Nevis
    5:06 Me: Do you have a kittician tan or a dacari hangover?
    5:08 Her: Ha! A little tan and not too many drinks as to have a hangover
    5:10 Me: next time you need to have more fun!
    5:11 Her: I got much needed rest
    5:11 Her: And escape from Reality
    5:11 Me: I can feel you there


    That’s where it ended. I’d like to get her to my place. But that leads to my next problem. My Place… More to come.

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    Default Re: /Wrists (not serious)

    Quote Originally Posted by KMB View Post
    First Iíd like to say that Iíve seen a lot of stuff on here about stealing girlfriends. I think this is totally benign, maybe even good. Better for the AFC to know if his girl doesnít really dig him before he goes any further. But hopefully people here respect the institution of marriage. In my situation, maybe I was a sh!tty husband. But a lot more lives got completely farked up more than mine, or my wifeís. My daughter did nothing to deserve the life sheís going to have to live now. My unborn child is never going to know what a having a real family feels like. My wifeís affair partner has 4 kids, whoíve grown up learning from a total scumbag.
    Try not to dwell on the past too much! Right now your situation is what it is, and there's not a hell of a lot you can do about it. Maybe it was your fault, maybe there's nothing you could have done about it, maybe there's a divine reason it's all happening the way it is. My advice (and I have no experience with this, so take it as you will) focus on being the best dad you can for your kids!

    Quote Originally Posted by KMB View Post
    All that said, after my wife disclosed her affair, I went and confronted the man she was sleeping with (non-violently of course). After that I went to this guyís house to talk to his wife. Turns out sheís filed for divorce already. Guy had had lots and lots of affairs and she finally put her foot down. This woman is attractive. Iíd like to F closer her. I wouldnít call this 1itis; I donít want to date her or have any kind of relationship with her. More like a conquest. Iíve been in communication with her sporadically and Iím ready to turn up the volume. Iím gonna post my conversation and if any of you want to post advice Iím very grateful. If you donít, thatís cool too. I understand Iíve got to figure most of this stuff out on my own.
    I wouldn't call it one-itis either! One-itis, as far as I understand it, is when you're hung up on a girl because you have no other girls around and you're more afraid to be alone then to lose her.
    It's not that you have to figure it out on your own - we're all here to help each other progress - we just can't have your conversations for you!

    The biggest thing with texting is to make sure it is congruent with who you are in person. This isn't too bad for someone of your experience.
    I would have been a little bolder and flirtier, but that's just me.

    Her: Hi, was on spring break yesterday with my daughter. Was great to be gone
    You: Nice!! Thanks for the invite btw lol!! Actually, I wouldn't want to show you up on the cool factor in front of your daughter haha

    Her: I got much needed rest
    You: Pfft!! Amateur lol.. who goes on spring break and rests?!

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    Default Re: /Wrists (not serious)

    Good stuff Kvn07

    Wife came over last night to file an extension on our taxes. She says snidely ‘you’ll never get a girl over here’ – Challenge accepted, bitch!

    During the 2008 real estate meltdown I bought a very old duplex in a really interesting neighborhood in my (about a million population) metro. Shortly after that we got married and shortly after that we bought the single family next door.

    Fast forward a couple of years and we’re living in the hottest part of town. I’m in the middle of tearing down and redeveloping these properties. I phased the project and started with the single family.

    After construction began my wife dropped her little bombshell. My duplex is still standing, so I said fark it, I’m moving back into it.

    First problem, I didn’t fully winterize it. I spend a weekend with a plumber friend fixing the plumbing problems. I ripped out the dishwasher and didn’t replace it. There’s a hole in the cabinets where it used to be. There’s also a little bit of water damage in the bathroom from a leak that we eventually fixed.

    Second problem, I had already cut the natural gas line – so no heat. It will take weeks to get it reinstalled plus cost about $2,500. I’m a little squeezed right now, what with the divorce and a construction project going on, so I’m not going to re-connect it. I bought some electric heaters. This solution works fine, but it’s a little ghetto.

    Third problem: my daughter’s room. There’s got to be a few PUAs here with little kids, is this an objection that you need to overcome? Obviously I’m not planning on hosting any ladies when I have my daughter.

    And lastly, I’m basically living on a construction site. The lawn is gone. There is farking dirt everywhere.
    I can’t really do anything with these last 2 problems. I’m asking how big of a problem are they going to be? Really, what I’ve done is kind of interesting, but is it going to be enough to overcome any hesitation in the ladies? Please tell me what you think, thanks.

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    Default Re: /Wrists (not serious)

    Quote Originally Posted by KMB View Post
    She says snidely Ďyouíll never get a girl over hereí Ė Challenge accepted, bitch!
    Let her be the one to be negative and snarly about everything and be careful not to let revenge become the motivation for picking up girls and getting laid.

    As for the housing, I wouldn't let it be too big of a concern. I'm sure your situation will come up in early conversation anyway, otherwise you just steer it that way, but talk about it with passion and something you're really enjoying doing and it won't be an issue.

    Have some fun with it and have a camp out style date night at your place.

    I bought my first apartment last year and I'm still waiting for it to be built, but I'm organising a pizza & camp out party for the first night I get my keys (and before I get tenants in). Everyone will bring their own camp chairs, we'll order pizza and anyone that wants to stay the night will bring sleeping bags. The response I've had from girls since I came up with the idea really surprised me.
    They seriously love it lol

    Frame it the right way and you'll be golden!

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    Default Re: /Wrists (not serious)

    Great attitude Kev! And congrats on your apartment purchase!


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