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    Default 30-something Aspie newbie reporting in

    Hello everyone,

    To begin, I want to say that Iím an anomaly. At once Iím completely new to the whole thing, and yet Iíve discovered the whole PUA scene back in 2006 (I feel old now! HA!) . I had a lot of issues with anxiety (not social anxiety though) throughout the years and I constantly got too preoccupied with school and finding a job to really date. So I could never fully apply what I learned outside of some social RPGs on the internet (the girls liked it, but I couldnít date them), and I havenít done much in years. I did a lot of mistakes, like going to bars and clubs, places where I really donít like to be in, and it never felt natural to me.

    I got a job, not the one I want, but it pays enough for me to stash away a good amount, and Iím back in school at the same time (self-study) to try to further my chances of finally getting the job I want. This leaves me with less time to think about girlsÖ but Iím 31 years old, I really want to get this handled. Iíve also been recently diagnosed with Aspergerís syndromes, and that actually answered most questions I had as to why I felt the way I did and just why certain interactions went awry, both online and offline. This is possibly the biggest revelation I ever had, and itís going to be a challenge I need to work with.

    So here I am, posting for the first time. I still have some of the old material DVDs and computers, but for all practical purposes, Iím starting anew. Letís see what I can learn from the experts here.

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    Default Re: 30-something Aspie newbie reporting in

    I know the feelings,

    The Aspergerís syndrome is first of all a name to giving to you by a psychiatrist because people like to put other people
    in little boxes. That's how we humans work and i hate it.

    Don't let that name get in your way, It is still you!
    Besides its just a name. They gave me the names PDDNOS with a trace of ADHD and if that wasn't good they gave me the name dyslectic to, So what?

    I had social problems to, And now at 20 years old I laugh at the psychiatrist that gave me the names. I am a Mentor/Social Coach in my spare time.
    I TEACH the psychiatrists now! anything is possible if you want it to be.

    I am gracefully welcoming you here friend!
    Teaching yourself is one of the most powerful things in the world.

    Stay natural,

    Gotcha


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    Default Re: 30-something Aspie newbie reporting in

    Quote Originally Posted by Gotcha View Post
    I know the feelings,

    The Asperger’s syndrome is first of all a name to giving to you by a psychiatrist because people like to put other people
    in little boxes. That's how we humans work and i hate it.

    Don't let that name get in your way, It is still you!
    Besides its just a name. They gave me the names PDDNOS with a trace of ADHD and if that wasn't good they gave me the name dyslectic to, So what?

    I had social problems to, And now at 20 years old I laugh at the psychiatrist that gave me the names. I am a Mentor/Social Coach in my spare time.
    I TEACH the psychiatrists now! anything is possible if you want it to be.

    I am gracefully welcoming you here friend!
    Teaching yourself is one of the most powerful things in the world.

    Stay natural,

    Gotcha



    I get what you mean, but the major problem with girls and even other PUAs online is miscommunication. I'm a fairly confident individual and consider myself aggressive to get things going with people, but I don't come off that way, people just believe I come on too strong or something like that instead of being confident. I always went out to get what I want, but it's the impression of everything that counts. I just had no idea what the issue was. I also struggled with other anxiety issues.

    The biggest problem I have is finding the way to get the girls I want. Like I said, I don't want to go out to bars and clubs since they're really not my thing. During college, I often spoke to girls during the first few days of every semester and I had no problem getting phone numbers (like I talk to 7, get 4 numbers, stuff like that) only thing is I really had no idea how to follow up, and I constantly misinterpreted the information found in PUA books. That's the kicker and that's what I need to solve.

    Also I'm 31 and I still want to date girls 18-23. I just want to have that experience. Ironically many of those girls might actually be (likely be) more experienced than me.

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    Default Re: 30-something Aspie newbie reporting in

    Build some condifanice around strangers.
    Also find a outlet for your aggression, I do kravmaga as a outlet for that.
    Ill PM you a topic that could you get started.

    Lets go all the way to basic very basic,

    Check your pm
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    Default Re: 30-something Aspie newbie reporting in

    Perhaps my thread that I started about a week ago may be of assistance. In it, I'm basically covering what I view as the basics of PUA.

    https://www.puaforums.com/general-qu...up-thread.html
    Hypnotist, NLP geek. I've done: Tao of Badass, Hacking Attraction, How To Date Multiple Women (Pellicer's stuff), Get the Girl, How to Talk to Hot Women, No Strings Attached (Mehow's stuff), and now I'm getting into RSD's stuff. I don't go out a lot, but I kill it when challenged


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