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Thread: Trying to get this aspect of my life in check

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    Default Trying to get this aspect of my life in check

    Hey guys,

    Definitely new to this PUA scene. Just found out about it not more than a week ago from reading The Game by Neil Strauss when I found out my best friend was texting one of his friends that I have no game and I can't get any girl over him, even though I winged him for any girl he got somewhere or even nowhere with.

    Anyways, I am not talking to him anymore but I definitely feel like my self esteem and confidence has reached an all-time low since then. I definitely feel like I have something to prove to myself and him.

    Just a little background on me, I am not an ugly guy and Im far from being antisocial. I dont really find myself that attractive but I was voted most handsome back in my senior class of high school and I'm now in college. I had very conservative parents so they didn't allow me to get much exposure to woman growing up and I've always been socially weak in that aspect.

    So yea I'm just hoping I can improve myself from getting in this community and get over some anxiety I have about trying to talk with the girls I find attractive. Happy sarging and thanks for the read haha.

    Wayne

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    Default Re: Trying to get this aspect of my life in check

    Welcome to the community.
    Quote Originally Posted by Bruce Wayne View Post
    Anyways, I am not talking to him anymore but I definitely feel like my self esteem and confidence has reached an all-time low since then. I definitely feel like I have something to prove to myself and him.
    This is not the Mindset you need in the long run. Its very toxic and it will ruin your life. Just believe me on this one. So get rid of this mentality as soon as you can before you get attached to this mindset.
    Quote Originally Posted by Bruce Wayne View Post
    So yea I'm just hoping I can improve myself from getting in this community.
    This is the kind of mindset you will need the most. Don't do it for Validation. Do it for yourself.

    Just one more book for inner beliefs I'll recommend you to read. SO:

    1. Read "Models by Mark Manson". Its for Inner Game.

    2. Start taking action as soon as you can, whether it be a simple 'Hi' or 'Hello' to any one.

    Best of luck.

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    Default Re: Trying to get this aspect of my life in check

    Quote Originally Posted by Sam981 View Post
    Welcome to the community.

    This is not the Mindset you need in the long run. Its very toxic and it will ruin your life. Just believe me on this one. So get rid of this mentality as soon as you can before you get attached to this mindset.
    I agree with you definitely not the right mindset that I should have. You aren't the first to tell me this either. It's just that I feel somewhat insufficient but you're right that I should do this for self betterment and not validation.

    Quote Originally Posted by Sam981 View Post
    Just one more book for inner beliefs I'll recommend you to read. SO:

    1. Read "Models by Mark Manson". Its for Inner Game.

    2. Start taking action as soon as you can, whether it be a simple 'Hi' or 'Hello' to any one.
    I'll look this one up and try reading it as soon as I can I read a little bit about Inner Game and definitely think thats an area I am lacking in. I'm a college student so I've been very busy with work to be able to finish The Game yet so I will finish that one then move on to Models after that.

    Again I greatly appreciate the welcome and the advice!

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    Default Re: Trying to get this aspect of my life in check

    First of all, welcome to the forums, your position is great, due to the fact that fear & pain are the 2 fundamentals for motivation. Here's my little story for you - I started learning PUA after I got dumped by a girl I really liked, without even an explanation, I started learning PUA because I was afraid that I'm never going to have the skills & Mindset to attract someone I really like again, and because I was hurt obviously. It helped me strive on fixing this part of my life, on which I spent a shitload of time everysingle day, practising on people, learning new material, aplying the mindset I wanted to achieve. I was driven by pain & fear, yet the progress I was making helped me heal and I'm better than ever, each acomplishment I had was building my confidence and began driving with not with self loathing but with love for myself and the wish not to change myself, but to improve. These newly profound skills in PUA and the gained confidence made me want to not only seek perfection in my game, but to improve ALL aspects of my life which I'm still doing, I've been at the game for 7months now and there is completely 0 thoughts about wanting to go back in ANY WAY. People say I've changed a lot, I can sense it a lot also not only in my actions but in the way I think aswell. Anyways, the moral here is that you shouldn't keep your head down, use those negatives emotions not for self-loathing, but for motivation to improve yourself! I can assure you if your words to learn PUA will be congruent with your actions, you'll do just great, especially with the help of your fellow PUA forum members,

    -Alergy

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    Default Re: Trying to get this aspect of my life in check

    How many girls have you fucked in those 7 months?

    Have pictures?

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    Default Re: Trying to get this aspect of my life in check

    Quote Originally Posted by Alergy View Post
    First of all, welcome to the forums, your position is great, due to the fact that fear & pain are the 2 fundamentals for motivation. Here's my little story for you - I started learning PUA after I got dumped by a girl I really liked, without even an explanation, I started learning PUA because I was afraid that I'm never going to have the skills & Mindset to attract someone I really like again, and because I was hurt obviously. It helped me strive on fixing this part of my life, on which I spent a shitload of time everysingle day, practising on people, learning new material, aplying the mindset I wanted to achieve. I was driven by pain & fear, yet the progress I was making helped me heal and I'm better than ever, each acomplishment I had was building my confidence and began driving with not with self loathing but with love for myself and the wish not to change myself, but to improve. These newly profound skills in PUA and the gained confidence made me want to not only seek perfection in my game, but to improve ALL aspects of my life which I'm still doing, I've been at the game for 7months now and there is completely 0 thoughts about wanting to go back in ANY WAY. People say I've changed a lot, I can sense it a lot also not only in my actions but in the way I think aswell. Anyways, the moral here is that you shouldn't keep your head down, use those negatives emotions not for self-loathing, but for motivation to improve yourself! I can assure you if your words to learn PUA will be congruent with your actions, you'll do just great, especially with the help of your fellow PUA forum members,

    -Alergy
    I really like your outlook. Definitely gives me hope that I can improve down the line if I put in the effort. I'm going to try out some of the stuff I've been reading about this weekend at the local bar and I'll definitely post a field report afterwards! Thanks for the advice bro

    Quote Originally Posted by redstar1324 View Post
    How many girls have you fucked in those 7 months?

    Have pictures?
    Not sure if this is directed towards me or not but I'm a virgin lol

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    Default Re: Trying to get this aspect of my life in check

    No, it was towards Allergy.

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