Okay, so first off, I'm brand new to this forum. I remember a few years ago I read Neal Strauss's book "The game" and liked the idea of it however never really took it on or gave it a go. Now I am wishing I had. I am starting to notice a common theme with the girls that I meet. Not all of them, but only the ones that I actually like. I'm hoping you guys can set me straight.
Firstly, I'm a reasonably attractive, confident 25 year old living in Sydney Australia. I have no issues having a conversation with people and can often be the life of the party. Once I meet someone I usually always get on well with them. This works well with meeting girls too, however lately I've noticed that the ones I like are very quickly putting me in the dreaded friendzone. I pick up the usual amount of average women, but it seems the ones I actually really like always do this to me.
The most recent attempt occurred to me last night. I met this girl at a nearby office for the company I work for. We spent the week working together and we hit it off really well. There were two other guys working with us and both of them were falling over each other to try and pick her up. I just focussed on my work and eventually over time became more familiar with her. We have exactly the same sense of humour, common interests and when we're talking the hours just fly by. She even said to me that she hasn't met anyone recently who she gets on with as well as she is with me. I forgot to mention that this girl is an 11/10. Smoking hot!
Anyway, I get her number and suggest we go out. We agree to meet up in the city (last night). All went well and my friends and hers all got on well too. My friends ended up leaving early so I stayed with her group. We had a heap of drinks and had an awesome time. There was a decent amount of cheeky flirting involved and we got on great. I ended up going back to her place with one of her other friends too. At like 5-6am we were sitting on the couch talking and watching a movie. She kept saying how well we were getting on and how she doesn't normally "click" with people like she has with me. She ended up laying on me and cuddling sort of. I basically assumed that I was in for sure and that we would be going to her bed soon.
I can't remember how it started, but without warning she got onto the topic of being friends! She said that she doesn't want anything to come of this but definitely wants to keep hanging out with me! WTF?? I have absolutely no idea where this came from and it's really knocked me about. I know it's hard for you guys to go off only a few paragraphs of writing, but I was so sure that I was in with her. Even guys who had seen us at work commented on how well we were getting on. This is the third time this sort of thing has happened to me and I would LOVE one of you guys to be able to suggest why? The only thing I can think of is that we became too familiar. As in, during the week at work I passed the point where it would have been appropriate to act and she became too comfortable with me, seeing me as a friend? Oh and another thing. During the week she was complaining to me about how guys don't chase her at clubs and that she hadn't picked up in such a long time. I'm really at a loss as to why this has occurred and any advice would be greatly appreciated.