New to PUA scene; ready to learn

Hello all,

I'm Funtimes. I am new to the PUA scene having just stumbled into in reading this article ( The Point Magazine ) that introduced me to the concept.

I am 24, fairly fit (edge of 'athletic' looking), and white. Fate smiled on me, I know.

My score is 2. An 8 and a 5.

I am also a social retard. My social development was stunted, severely, by an eight and half year relationship with my Ex-GF. From 16-24 I was with one girl and never so much as thought of other women as people I could be anything more than friends with. Watching porn was like watching a cartoon; characters that literally were not real. No idea how to flirt. No idea how to know if a girl was into me.

I won't go into the details of our breakup, but in short: I left her. There was no big fight or event. It was a gradual 'growing apart' thing combined with me feeling that I had missed out on a crucial part of my development (fooling around with multiple girls).

I have considered myself quite unattractive for most my life. This last year, however, I got into the gym (big time), got a better hair cut, got contact lenses, and got on anti-depressant medications. Self image shooting through the farking roof. Now if only I knew how to project this confidence onto my targets.

While I don't understand how to approach, talk to, or close with with women I have other assets going for me. I am quite intelligent. I have a very lucrative career. I am reasonably physically attractive. I am willing to change (both physically and mentally). I ride a motorcycle (09' Kawasaki Ninja 250r). I am about to relocate to the University of Texas Campus area which will give me as many opportunities as one could ask for.

Most to my advantage, however, is that I am motivated by my desires and dreams more than my fears. I can shove those into the corner and stomp them to death.

I have been sarging for weeks before even knowing what a PUA was. My instinct was that this was a 'pain wall' I was just going to have to break myself against until I found a crack. I suppose if I kept at it long enough I would have, but since discovering the science of PUA I now know that there is a better way. A guided/focused way.

So that is me. I hope it is clear why I am entering this community. The PUA lifestyle may be looked down upon in many circles, but it is precisely the lifestyle I changed my life to achieve (without even knowing it existed).

If anyone wants a Wing in Austin, TX contact me. Don't expect me to be of much help yet, but I promise that I will learn quickly.

edit: Currently educating myself through regular field practice, reading "The Game" and "What Every Body Is Saying"

welcome to the community. Do you know where your sticking points are and what we can help you with yet?

Lets see.. I have the courage for the approach, but once I engage I fall into lame talk (which is especially toxic for me since my job and hobbies are nerdy and uninteresting). I also have a very strong tendency to fail to give off intention of attraction (have had 3 instances in the last few weeks of girls I thought I was going on a date with, only to find they had a man and considered me just a friend).

I will think more about specifics of sticking points. In comparison to the behaviors I am reading about in "The Game" I have been the total opposite (showering my target with attention, never negging, using lame talk and failing to dhv) and I haven't had a chance to 'try out' basic PUA concepts yet.. So I think my sticking points will be shifting wildly in the coming weeks.

good job sir. welcome to the community. yeah if you are having trouble with only basic PUA concepts and not Approach Anxiety. your already ahead of where most people are in ur situation. it usually takes time for the aa but now we can move into learning. the first thing is learning the types of approaches, how to dhv, how to reach the hook points, keno and then how to be funny playful and different. you have to be better than every other guy orbiting her vagina.

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Well there are tons of computer programmers in the community! No one is too nerdy. Trick is to find you nitch and expand it. By this I mean go do some new things, jump out of a plane, go travel a bit, rock climb something that you can do that will give you some cool stories and fun times.

For now if I were you I would focus on getting locked into sets. Try not to worry so much about the end result as much as you do the Opener, and the hook point to where they don’t want you to leave. When you can master this is when your game will expand.

If you conversations are running dry what are yall talking about? All this stuff is important and the more info you give us the more we can help.


Trick is to learn to be fun a different !

sounds like a great new addition to the community. keep working with tcomea

if you want let me know how you are going with the game. i am reading it again atm at the bequest of my melbourne wingman Melbstud and i would very much like to study it. i am up to where style is working with Sin and has met Ross Jefferies. Style at this point as an emerging creation; Style the PUA, is really interesting me. I wonder what i could do to further define my image... then more peacocking.

Melbstud who has lent me the book is in a good position also to define his image and when he and i have got chatting i have a few ideas for my leading wing.

you sound like you have plenty to work with and i am sure once you are rolling with a few other sarjers you are gonna have plenty good game in Austin, Texas