just need some sort of advice desperately! i havent been on here for a while because there have been no problems at all with the women in my life, but last week i managed to hit a snag!
i was sorta seeing this HB8 from uni (girl 1) for a month, just going out for lunch and movies and whatnot, we werent farking but it was getting there, and she said it would happen soon.
one night at this party i was with girl 1 and we were hooking up and she tells me that her really close HB9.5 friend (girl 2 - just got out of a 3 yr relationship) thinks im cute and wants to go me. im trying to get in with girl 1 and theyre all a new group of friends so dont really wanna cause turmoil, so i go and laugh about it to girl 2.
couple days after, i see girl 2 at a party where girl 1 wasnt there, and we were just talking and stuff and she asks me to the city with her and girl 1 during the week, and a halloween party on the weekend. she asks me to the city that night but i had just got off work and wasnt in the right clothes so couldnt go.
during the week, girl 2 asks me to the movies with her and her other friend to see a movie which i had already planned on seeing with girl 1 that week and all is good. we talk alot during the week and she calls me things like handsome and cute and funny and is definately giving a ton of ioi's.
i see the movie with girl 1 the day before we planned on going to the city, and all is great, we are hooking up and she drives me home and all is well. when we meet up in the city the day after, girl 1 is being very standoffish and is flirting with her ex who shes been telling me she hates, and hooks up with some guy in my face so im kinda cut and leave the club to go to one around the corner. girl 2 sends me a message telling me to come hang with her and her other friend at another club and so i was them for the rest of the night.
girl 2 saw i was cut and started buying me drinks and offered a kiss to make me happy :P from then on we are making out like crazy in the club and she tells me how much she likes me and how it feels different from the other guys shes been with since her ex. she cant stop telling me how much she wants to jump all over me and how she wants to take me back to her place. she asks me back to her house and throughout the night she continues to tell me how much she likes me and making sure im not being with her to get back at her friend. i do really like her and she is a really sweet girl. i asked her if she was only saying all this stuff coz shes drunk and she insists shes not drunk (it was 4am by this time and heading home so i doubt she was)
the morning after she seems a bit cold towards me and after dropping me off home, we exchange messages and she tells me that she really thinks im a great guy but cant get into a relationship at this time because shes just got out of one (which i can totally understand, 3 yrs is a long time!) and she can see us being really close tight friends.
its been about 5 days since i slept with her, and weve messaged eachother just a bit - we usually see eachtoher around uni - but no real conversations have happened like the previous week. i know she really likes me because her friend was even telling me she likes me, and i really like her too.
i was sorta wondering what i can do? should i ask her out in a couple of months when shes sort of gotten over her ex, and weve learnt a bit more about eachother, or should i just tell her how i feel and ask her out now. she has stressed how she 'cant' do a relationship now, and just wants to be great friends with me, but i know deep down she wants more!
sorry for the rant, this girl is killing my mind!
any help would be deeply deeply appreciated. i wouldnt be able to thank you enough