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  1. #1
    hereforfun Guest

    Default need desperate help!

    hey guys

    just need some sort of advice desperately! i havent been on here for a while because there have been no problems at all with the women in my life, but last week i managed to hit a snag!

    i was sorta seeing this HB8 from uni (girl 1) for a month, just going out for lunch and movies and whatnot, we werent farking but it was getting there, and she said it would happen soon.

    one night at this party i was with girl 1 and we were hooking up and she tells me that her really close HB9.5 friend (girl 2 - just got out of a 3 yr relationship) thinks im cute and wants to go me. im trying to get in with girl 1 and theyre all a new group of friends so dont really wanna cause turmoil, so i go and laugh about it to girl 2.

    couple days after, i see girl 2 at a party where girl 1 wasnt there, and we were just talking and stuff and she asks me to the city with her and girl 1 during the week, and a halloween party on the weekend. she asks me to the city that night but i had just got off work and wasnt in the right clothes so couldnt go.

    during the week, girl 2 asks me to the movies with her and her other friend to see a movie which i had already planned on seeing with girl 1 that week and all is good. we talk alot during the week and she calls me things like handsome and cute and funny and is definately giving a ton of ioi's.

    i see the movie with girl 1 the day before we planned on going to the city, and all is great, we are hooking up and she drives me home and all is well. when we meet up in the city the day after, girl 1 is being very standoffish and is flirting with her ex who shes been telling me she hates, and hooks up with some guy in my face so im kinda cut and leave the club to go to one around the corner. girl 2 sends me a message telling me to come hang with her and her other friend at another club and so i was them for the rest of the night.

    girl 2 saw i was cut and started buying me drinks and offered a kiss to make me happy :P from then on we are making out like crazy in the club and she tells me how much she likes me and how it feels different from the other guys shes been with since her ex. she cant stop telling me how much she wants to jump all over me and how she wants to take me back to her place. she asks me back to her house and throughout the night she continues to tell me how much she likes me and making sure im not being with her to get back at her friend. i do really like her and she is a really sweet girl. i asked her if she was only saying all this stuff coz shes drunk and she insists shes not drunk (it was 4am by this time and heading home so i doubt she was)

    the morning after she seems a bit cold towards me and after dropping me off home, we exchange messages and she tells me that she really thinks im a great guy but cant get into a relationship at this time because shes just got out of one (which i can totally understand, 3 yrs is a long time!) and she can see us being really close tight friends.

    its been about 5 days since i slept with her, and weve messaged eachother just a bit - we usually see eachtoher around uni - but no real conversations have happened like the previous week. i know she really likes me because her friend was even telling me she likes me, and i really like her too.

    i was sorta wondering what i can do? should i ask her out in a couple of months when shes sort of gotten over her ex, and weve learnt a bit more about eachother, or should i just tell her how i feel and ask her out now. she has stressed how she 'cant' do a relationship now, and just wants to be great friends with me, but i know deep down she wants more!

    sorry for the rant, this girl is killing my mind!

    any help would be deeply deeply appreciated. i wouldnt be able to thank you enough

    -hff

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    Default Re: need desperate help!

    haha ok well girl 1 for some reason is just fucked up and being dumb. i mean she is hooking up with you but telling you that her friend is into you. i think girl 1 is losing attraction. freeze her ass out hardcore for like 2 weeks.

    ok and as far as girl 2. yeah its going to be hard to keep something going for the few months until she is ready to date if thats what you want. best thing i could maybe think of is to freeze her out for a little while and then come back to it. or you could do a stop and go kind of thing. keep seeing her on and off. but everytime you need to show her a great time and you need to escalate or fuck her each time so you stay intimate with her.

    oh and stay out of ur damn head bro. start talking to other girls or hang out with ur boys and stay busy. you dont want this chick on ur mind all the time cause then she will definitely drive u crazy and ur game will go soft
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    Default Re: need desperate help!

    Some tough love here but could it be that you sucked in bed? Just being honest

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    Default Re: need desperate help!

    i made her cum several times within 25 mins, i didnt suck in bed.....

    crob thats great advice and personally what i was thinking of doing, but i doubt she would be up for the fark close every time. your idea of showing her a good time though hit the nail on the head though and im sure i can think of things which arent too forward but do increase her interest in me.

    the thing is man, im so over just talking/farking other girls. im usually a bit of a man whore and its just not satisfying anymore, especially when a HB9.5 comes along who is damn sexy and she thinks im pretty good too and i get along like a house on fire with her. i dont want any pussy i want hers :P

    oh and yea i know about not letting it fuck with my mind, its so hard during the week to not think about her though - all my mates have full time jobs and im just the guy at uni trying to make friends so cant really hang out with anyone but uni peeps during the week. again though good advice.

    would you at all consider i just tell her how i feel and sweet talk her into changing her mind a bit. its been a couple of days now since weve spoken so i can bet she's probably thinking of me

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    Default Re: need desperate help!

    ok well i trust you on this. if u find a attractive girl, that is fun, meshes well with ur personality, is way interested and you then i trust you on this. she is probably dating material.

    i actually just looked at another post and had a great idea. if you want to date her, she has no problem dating a great guy. girls always just give that excuse when they feel they dont want a rebound. so if anything i would give it some time but what u need to do is take her on some great dates. i mean mindblowing dates and show her a fucking amazing time. then after getting to know her, having fun, and a couple times worth of sex. then she will have warmed up to the idea of dating you and wont give you much resistance. but u need to be straight with her after those dates. just say something very direct "ok we have been talking for a while. and i find you to be a great girl and i understand the whole take ur time before another relationship. but i want to date u cause i could see myself having tons of fun with you." but u also need to try and make it less intense though. so after saying that and maybe talking you could be like "ok well if were going to date, i dont like cheating, i have a Stripper problem, i drink way too much and im going to let myself get really fat after about 5 months so u can see my dead sexy body at the silly little six month anniversary thing :P"

    but yeah go for it bro. personal i advocate for the dating side. i joined this to find the girls i want to date, not just fuck all the HB's. but make sure u have to show her like at least 2-3 really fun dates before u bring up the talk of dating. so maybe text her and say something like "hey i want to take u out this weekend!"
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    Default Re: need desperate help!

    cheers buddy that sounds great!

    the money question though, is whats appropriate for a two 20 yr olds who dont have much cash and its sort of near finals exam time :S

    and yea, any chance i could just come out and tell her how i feel? she already thinks im a really sweet guy so it might be the straw that breaks the camels back if i tell her i like her for who she is type thing, and not just objectify her like everyone else

    as always, as much help as you can is greatly appreciated. i manage to get girls to fall for me when i just want to fark them and thats it, i think i need a bit of spoonfeeding on actually dating/ideas for dating

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    Default Re: need desperate help!

    also, is there any chance shes waiting to see if i jump through her hoops? probably not a direct reference to me but her facebook status reads 'anything thats worth having, well its sure worth figthing for' haha

    how ironic :P

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    Default Re: need desperate help!

    well idk about the whole facebook thing and the telling her u like her. come on is that what alpha's do or the beta guys who hit on her all the time. "oh hey since u like me and i like u lets date". haha hell no its way more than that. and ur not objectivefying her at all. ur just getting to know her and show her a great time so she gets even more attracted. if u have looks, smarts, sense of humor and she has fun and can be herself around you, the girl is pretty much in love. so u need to hit those points. she find u cute and funny and as long as she can have lots of fun with you and be herself, her attraction with go thru the roof. so just show her some fun nights while still being sexual and u should be set.

    have u ever wondered why girls fall for u when ur not looking for a relationship and ur looking for just sex? think about it for a second and try to tell me how this could help ur current situation
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    hereforfun Guest

    Default Re: need desperate help!

    nah nah i wasnt planning on telling her over fb, that would be totally wussy haha. i was just saying maybe this would be one of those moments where telling her would be the best way, but there are pros and cons to both sides.

    update!

    today i sent her a message and heres how the convo went:

    me: you at uni today?
    her: haha i love that you still come up in my phone as Jordan Awesome lol makes me smile. umm i am at uni but only for a 1 hr tute 4-5 and im probably gonna stay and do work after that!
    me: oh right well ill be at uni around then so if you want we can grab a coffee after your class? ps its coz im awesome youre just plain old (insert her name here) in my phone. be good if you could change that to something not as boring :P
    her: haha yea that sounds good if you dont mind sticking around lol but only for a bit, ive got so much uni work to do :P
    me: sounds great

    that was about 2 hrs ago, im meeting her in another 2 hrs. i dont know if theres anything around uni we can do which is fun and exciting but if she already likes me this much from just being around me then i guess its working

    oh and most of the time girls are the instigators when they wanna just fark me, they tend to get annoying and i show them less interest so thats probably why i do get laid :P

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    Default Re: need desperate help!

    not bad. there u go. yeah just have fun. i mean dont just sit there and have coffee. make it different. make her laugh, keno her, use some sexual inneundos, use some thats what she said, play some games. do whatever you can to show her a good time.

    but yeah look at that. they chase you, so when u chase them like every other guy, then she wont get as attracted. u show her an amazing time and get her really interested in you then u might date her. just get her chasing you and u should be good.

    lets look at it this way. if you just say "hey i like you and we should date" what fun is that? i mean personally if i was having fun and a girl said that, it would be like a buzz kill. give her a good time and if she is attracted then she will think about dating you and when u finally bring it up she will be primed for making a decision of dating u or not
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