Hi there is this guy that reconnected with me via facebook who I knew from my childhood. He messaged me asking if I am so and so sister and I had no clue who he was. This is going back almost two months ago now. From then on we added each other on facebook and a week later we started speaking on the phone. We got along really well and we hit it off really quickly. He was always calling and texting me. Whether it was in the middle of the day or calls till late at night etc. He was the one always initiating them. I never took it as anything more then a friendship. He was divorced very recently from a suffocated marriage in his mind its been over for a long time just not official. He has two kids so a lot of the times he would open up to me about his problems with his. Anyhow two weeks later he had his friend visit him from another country I started to see him let loose a bit and wasn't calling me as much as before. He started going out more and partying etc I think he was making up for lost time from his marriage as he got married pretty young. I started to feel like he was brushing me off a little and one night I sent him a text saying pretty much I get the feeling you've been brushing off lately which is fine you don't owe me any and I'm not complaining but I'm just letting you know I don't hang around where I don't feel wanted. He replied by telling me his been busy lately with this friend down and also that he has been going out a little more letting loose and that his not ready to offer anyone anything more then a friendship he needs time for himself and that I hope I can I understand that. I took offense to it because I never ever showed me I'm interested nor was I the one making the efforts and it offended me because I felt rejected when I didn't ask for anything more anyways. So I rang to make him understand my point of view we sorted it out and sent each other text msges about how we really value our friendship etc...now the next day I found out from a random girl via facebook that he only met for like a week that he told her he wants to get to know her for something serious and that he would like to meet her in person. She wasn't interested in him he was 11 years older then her. Now I don't know how to take that I mean at the time I could clearly c he wasn't ready for anything serious. Was he just not into me or was he playing her. When she told him she wasn't interested he didn't like it and he said something that offended her. A couple of weeks after that I find out he starts dating a real skank like a big time skank (lets just say she was in sexpo) lol..i knew he wasn't taking her seriously probably just wanted a good time I know she is definitely not the type he would settle for...a week later that ended. A week ago we had a big dnm via facebook and it let me to ask him as a friend to a friend and for him not to freak out by question. Do you c me as a potential...he said yeah for sure your attractive, intelligent and we get along really well I guess I never thought of you in that way.
ong story short he lives in a diff state and he said he will be coming down in a weeks time which is next weekend to meet me and we can better assess the situation then if there is no fate for us we both decided we will stay good mates because we value the friendship. His been really nice and every time we speak he started addressing me like he did again wen we first started talking sweety, hun, babe etc because at one stage it was always sis and sista...
i msged him 4 days ago just to see how his going and he was nice and we mucked around abit then he said he would call me the next day...he didn't ring...the day after that I sent him a text saying I think someone forgot about me he didn't reply which is very odd he always replies his very prompt most of the times with his replies. Later afternoon I rang him he didn't answer. I noticed he updated his facebook saying his out with the kids at some show.
The next day I sent him a text saying are you upset with me or something its unusual that you don't reply to text msg. Plz let me know what's going on. 7hrs later he replies say hey been flat stick and its school holidays il buzz you tomorrow mate...he ended it with mate he never calls me mate and 3 days ago his text message were all hun and sweetie. I didn't reply...he also didn't ring me the next day like he said. How do I take this... know his been busy with the kids and busy training for a fight he has coming up but you can't be that busy to sent a text msg? Was me asking if he sees me as a potential make him go all funny on me..but at the time we had a great discussion he seemed to enjoy it.
He was meant to come down 2 weeks ago like he said, he didn't end up coming and he didn't even bother to let me know he won't be coming. I had to call him days before and he didn't answer. I caught him online 2days before he was meant to be coming and I said I have to talk to you its so hard to get a hold of you lately. He rang me he didn't sound his usual self. He sounded depressed he said his been going through a lot with his ex giving him a hard time and playing dirty when it comes to the kids.
I was really devastated that he wasn't coming and I did make him aware I was disappointed. I felt hurt that he didn't bother to even let me know not even a simple text. He told me he never confirmed it 100% that peed me off even more because the plans were set. I didn't want to make a big fuss of it and push him away. I mentioned that I felt his been distant and different with me and I feel its because of the potential convo we had. He said I'm not immature I liked the conversation.
This has nothing to do with you and he started getting into the story of his ex giving him a hard time etc and how his been feeling down because of the kids and how his son is attached to him and doesn't want to go back home to his mum etc.
He hasn't been the same with me he hardly calls or messages. Most of our chats are online if we catch each other on Facebook. I mean when we do have our chats online there great we are always laughing and having really good conversations he isn't ignoring me.
I don't know what to do or how to take all this. I mean I can see his been very focussed with his fight coming up he hardly goes out all he does it train so his lifestyle has changed. He mentioned that he will most likely come down after his fight which is in June he'l make his way down eventually. He also said he just needs sometime for himself because of all the sh*t that's happening around him. Do I just give up on him? Do I make him aware that I'm not happy that he never answers calls or text messages anymore or hardly like he used to and to let him know I'm disappointed that friend does that to me and to be alittle more bitchy with him like perhaps delete him of Facebook or something to wake him up alittle? I don't want to give up on him apart of me does like him not sure how or in what sense but I do think about him a lot.