Hardcore gamer trying to get a life

Howdy, I'm a 22 year old in San Diego trying to get my head out of video games and into the pickup game. I've always been a bit socially awkward but through highschool I had some decent opportunities to nut up with some 6-8HBs but due to my own fear or bad timing the best I got was a blowjob. After highschool I focused solely on video games and kept out of the social scene altogether. I eventually lost my virginity about 2 years ago to a girl I settled for because I knew she would say yes and I wouldn't have to fear rejection. After that brief relationship I went right back to video games. Where I'm at now, I see how poisonous my activities have been (not knocking casual gaming, just where I was at playing 40+ hours a week) and I'm trying to strike for some girls I am actually attracted to.

I'm here with the goals of curbing some of my anxieties about approach and rejection, working on conversation and confidence, and the end goal of sex with beautiful women and eventually a healthy relationship with one.

When you ready to go Sargin. let me know because I could use a wing man. I live Temecula.

Glad you've decided to CHOOSE LIFE friend. Last thing I'd want to see again is another geeky lost soul prowling the Nvidia Forums or some sh1t. The first thing you gotta do, is make friends with guys who know lots of women. You can have them introduce you to the averag-looking ones, and then later on the hotter ones. Go out with them, learn from them, enjoy activities with them, and soon, you'll know how to pick up chicks just like them.

Hey Marbles, glad you decided to put those Marbles to good use!

My suggestion is start out small, with insignificant approaches such as guys/girls w/o hitting on anyone, and build up your social Comfort.

Finding a guy that knows lots of girls is harder said than done, at least for me, but if you can, Amorphous has a good point. Otherwise, do a little reading, and don't be too hard on yourself, but do whatever you can to get out there.

Good luck man!

Oh and, you should search these forums for a bit. There should be lots of stories regarding guys' experiences with girls. Both their failures, and their successes. This will give you some pretty good grounds as well on the kinda stuff you usually ''should'' or ''should not'' do.

Franky: Wine country, nice. I'm going out with my ship for a couple weeks but I'll be back after that, would be great to get some perspective on the spot.

Amorphous: Thanks man. I've been prowling the forums for about a week now its a lot of good stuff (most are entertaining to read too).

Prescriptions: Thanks for the advice. Tomorrow I'm going to start up a working field report on talking to strangers.

I'm 22 and an ex-video game addict as well. I used to work half days and thus play up to 12 hours a day. I had no social life starting at 5 years old until 21 (though when I was 18 I rarely played). So I missed out on a lot. It's still hunting me at times, especially during holidays when school doesn't fill up half my day. But salvation through PUA is possible! Good luck, mate!

Thanks Virgil. I've already put a bit of the advice into use with good effects so I know I'm heading in the right direction