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    aoutherner13 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Want a second date, Need advice

    so I met an incredible girl for drinks last Friday, we had a ton in common, shared a drink. When we parted ways, she initiated the hug and said lets we "should definitly get together again sometime." She gave me plenty of signs, played with jewelry, kept putting her hair over her ear to show earrings, mirrored me.
    I tried to call Sunday, no answer. Saw her at the gym briefly but had to leave before she was finished to head back to work. So I tried calling later, no answer, then sent a short text message to her, asked how her weekend went and she texted me back a couple times. I asked the last question last night but it was kinda late. She didn't call or text me today, Tuesday, I left my phone at home accidentally and didn't get home until late.
    I really like this girl, and want a second date, when should I or can I call/text her to try to set one up. What should I say? Been outa the game quite a while even though I'm young. I don't want to act needy/wussy/desperate.

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    studmuffin52 is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: Want a second date, Need advice

    It's great she had some IOIs presented to you, and I feel you already acted needy in the situation. She MAY be busy, but if she doesn't respond to one call or text, you leave it at that for a while. There's no point in trying over and over again.

    I think you appeared as a really nice guy and treated her well, but may not have been what she's looking for. So she'll be nice and text you maybe a few times in one sitting, but don't expect more than that.

    The solution is instead of trying to set it up, go right there .. "Hey ____, I heard there was an awesome drinks menu at Whiskeys and Tequilas Bar, let's check it out Tuesday 8pm." and wait for a response. Trust me, every girl gets texts almost immediately, if she WAS interested, she'll jump at that opportunity. Like reverse the role, imagine you are a guy with 8-9 girls after you, if girl 3 was 4th on your interest list, you probably would wait before accepting her ideas, whereas if girl #1 offered you drinks, you'd respond almost instantly like a kid getting cake for birthday.

    You should look at excuses to why previous conversations didn't work, you need to look into the messages you exchanged with her and go from there....

    Hope that advice helps this and future cases for you.

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    aoutherner13 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Want a second date, Need advice

    So this girl finally got back to me 10 days after I last called her. Her text was really long and sounded like she was really into be she also said she just ended a long relationship and didn't want a bf right now. Then she said she'd love to be friends for now....

    I've got this before. It's obvious I'm getting thrown into the friends zone,

    What would be the perfect text back to this girl to let her know I'm still interested in her if she changes her mind?

    I've gone out with 2 other girls I've met since and I'm not that desperate but I'm genuinely interested in this girl. Thinking I'm going to wait a day or so to get back to her anyways. Any help is welcomed

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    studmuffin52 is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: Want a second date, Need advice

    haha, there's no response that would make you stand out..but there is a scene from Friend's with benefits where the girl goes.. "I just need a friend to support me emotionally and listen to what I have to say" .. guy: "yeah, I'll listen while you give me a hand job" .. hahaha

    I'd say give her time to heal then attack in a month or so ... if you push it, you'll only be a shoulder she cries on, and if you word things wrong... then you may NEVER be an option. keep dating the 2 girls you're already seeing... the world's not ending yet.. so take your time.

    If she really wants to be "friends" .. she'd text again soon.


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