I'm 19 and never had a girlfriend, getting desperate..

Hi guys,

Im 19, almost 20 in july. I have never had a girlfriend and am still a virgin. I think I am good looking, 5'8 and a lot of girls think I'm cute. I don't know what it is but I think that I'm pretty shy. I have aa and I suck at talking to girls (hitting on them/flirting). I want to lose my virginity this year of college, I am becoming desperate. I don't want to be 20 still a virgin and girlfriendless. Any tips on getting started guys? Thanks, I appreciate it.

What have you done thus far? Where are you living?

Im currently in college, going to The Ohio State University. So far I haven't done anything. There was this girl in my math class last quarter who I was definitely attracted to and I didn't even have the guts to try talking to her.

The best tip I'll give you is to gain more confidence! Conquer your Approach Anxiety at your own pace and start talking to more women. Not only will you be more confident but having a lot of women who know you will increase your social value. Go out to parties, chat up the girls in your classes, and get to know them.

Now as for defeating aa, just do as I say and go at your own pace. Start with the small (directions, what time it is, a small compliment) and if you see any IOIs proceed and escalate. You will get better and better with every approach and soon enough women will lose their frightening factor.

If the virgin "issue" (I say issue with quotes because it's not really one) is your main gripe: Being a virgin doesn't matter because you can still be confident and alpha without having had sex. If you act like the sh1t and surround yourself with people then no one cares if you've had sex or not. In fact, you'll get more women drawn to you if you ooze confidence and status. Despite if you're nervous or not just appear confident.

Cheers

Poet

Hey Rodo123,

Buy Neil Strauss's "Rules of the Game". Follow the plan's for each day. If you run into sticking points, discuss them on this board. It is a brilliant self-help book.

rs5096

Well, what have you done, now?

Must be 40 characters.

Getting past the aa seems like the biggest issue here, every guy has somthing some girl will like about them, its just being able to lay your cards out in front of you and seeing which one's she picks up. If talking to the girls your attracted to seems to be where you get stuck, just start making friends with who isnt on the top of you list and from there work your way up, no journey ever started at its destination