How I became a PUA. You might see yourself here.

OK, so up to the age of 16, I was a huge ugly nerd. Never knew what to do with girls, only played games all day, and got nervous and did stupid things around them.

Around 16 years, I got to college, and started working out. That caught a girl's attention and she pretty much picked me up when I was 17. We dated for 2 frigging years. It was nice, but I always knew something was wrong. But hey I was getting laid, so I didn't care much until we broke up.

Up to this point I only had kissed 2 girls counting my ex, and only had sex with her.

So I wondered, what went wrong? How could I improve this area of my life? Then I stumbled into the PUA society, with things like "The Game" and "The Flow".

Quickly a lot of things made sense, and I realized why I was having so much trouble with women.

In the next 4 months right after my breakup, I had sex with 6 girls. Something was right!

At this time, I had to quit my university because of money problems, so I joined the Brazilian Army, so for the past 2 years I had a tough life, rarely going out, mostly on holidays and vacations. And on that my friends, I had huge success.

My guy friends didn't really understand what I was doing, and mostly annoyed me because of the new me, even though I tried to explain.

So my group changed, instead of going out with the guys, I go out with the girls. I mostly hang out in a group of 5 women, which I have dated ALL OF THEM for a short while, but there are no real hard feelings for most part. (at least for 4 of them :P )

They are great wingmen! HAHA!

I also had a long distance relationship with this girl, the msot amazing one I have ever met, for quite a while. You know, she's one of those girls that everyone wants, all the time, she gets just no break from men, and she was absolutely crazy about me.

Unfortunetly, for fear of getting hurt or whatever the reason, she got cold to me all of a sudden (she said it was fear herself), a little before it she cried and said a lot about how deeply I affected her and she was afraid of being so in love that she'd become dumb and completly dependant on me. *sigh*

Too bad really because I love her. Most amazing girl ever.

BUT... No better way of forgetting someone than MEETING someone!

As of now, I'm going out with these female friends a lot and having a really great time. Guys want to be me, girls want to be with me. I've heard this before and it felt great!

Now I'm trying to get over this amazing girl I told you about, so I'm improving my game. Changed and improved my looks as social skills as well. HA! I might learn even how to dance!

I'm 22, Brazilian Army Sergeant (chicks dig military men, something about the uniform, the manliness of the occupation, and I like my job, didn't choose it because of this), living solo on a apartment close to the beach.

I swear, if I could go back in time and talk to myself, I wouldn't belieeeeeeve I would become who I am today.

And there's always room for improvement. ALWAYS.

That being said, I still love that amazing girl I told you about, and would do anything to Get Her Back and I'll also never forget my first ex for many number of reasons.

My advice to you all, please understand this:

1 -> Be happy with yourself, love yourself, because without it, no one will love you.

2 -> You can change and still be yourself. Although a much more attractive version of yourself.

3 -> There's nothing better than self improvement.

4 -> There are billions of women in this world. If one didn't work, another one will.

5 -> Until you find the right woman, have fun with the wrong ones! But please, don't ruin other men for them. They're still human beings with feelings.

This is me, pleased to meet you all!

Remember, there are a lot of fish in the sea!

Your friend, Shark.

thought this was a really great post shark. im in america and just turned 30 a week ago. when i was your age, i had all my friends crazy wanting to be around me, because i dated a dancer. we were monogamous and in love, she was as perfect of a 10 as ever, and the dancer parties caused jealousy that drove her crazy when her dancer friends hit on me...(most of them dated pieces of sh1t- these were the hottest girls at University, and most of them were real pieces of garbage-coke heads-anything they could get up their nose- the dancers i mean). this opened my eyes to hot women in those positions - dancers, strippers, models, ect.

but she passed and since then, my luck with women has hit bottom. i had the best and since then only been laid twice. so let me ask you this. is 30 too old to get into the game? i dont feel any different, but its something that has crept up for me to be insecure about. i dont know how i lost all my game when it was golden in college- girls were drugging ME with GHB daterape and im not jooking it happened on 2 different occasions. i wish I could get that game back- that confidence. but i feel like a.)ive lost the mojo or am curse because of so much sex early on b.) i might be too old at 30. any advice?

Oseman, nice meeting you!

Ever heard "better late than never"? As long as you're dedicated to getting back into the field, it's all good!

You're not older, you're better. Think of yourself like fine wine. Better with age.

I can't really give you advice on strippers, because I've never tried one. But I've had a few models and dancers haha!

OK, so here come advices.

1-> Confidence. You did it before, you can do it again. Never forget this.

2-> I don't know what you look like, or what you dress like. But consider a visual change. Get a nice grooming. It's not about being an extremely good looking guy, but making sure women realize you take good care of yourself and have good taste.

3-> Take it easy, don't take a bite bigger than your mouth. What I mean is, go easy, baby steps on your gaming. Congratulate yourself on every victory, and take notes whenever you don't score, and figure out what went wrong, lift up your chin and chest, and move on. Sometimes it isn't your fault, bad luck happens. Practice makes it perfect, right?

4-> I'll say it again. Confidence. Not only that makes you feel good about yourself, but it's also very attractive to women.

5-> And like I always say: There are a lot of fish in the sea! And that's the fun about it! One might escape, but there's another one just around the corner!

Best of luck! I'll help however I can