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Default The simple message I've been using to get #'s online!

Hey guys,

I have been giving the online dating thing a shot for some fun. I'd rather meet girls in real life, but it's kind of easy in your free time to pick up some extra numbers sitting on your couch...

Been having pretty decent success with it. Obviously the KEY is a solid profile and pic's. Ever since I got that refined, I've been getting messages daily, and when I send one out, I'm getting like a 90% reply rate or better. Dosn't always go somewhere... but obviously a good start.

I really havn't been having a problem getting girls to give me their number during my short conversations. Pretty much just chat a bit and ask! If on chat I'll just say:

"well hey, I've got to get going but we should continue this conversation later, whats your number? I'd rather text, so much easier!"

If its in a message, I'll use something similar "I'd like to chat with you via text, so much easier, what's your number?"

Now usually I've generated enough interest at this point already, but I feel like just saying about the "easier" part and being confident when asking helps tremendously. I also feel it is important to go for the number SOONER THAN LATER, hopefully within a day or two of first talking to a girl. Obviously use judgement, but this goes back to the rule that attraction has an expiration date.

Thought's guys? I know it isn't anything really new, but just wanted to share what's been working great for me!


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Default Re: The simple message I've been using to get #'s online!

I absolutely agree!

When I was refining my online game, I discovered it was a lot easier to get a girl's number than one might think.
(A lot of times within the first couple email exchanges).

But after 2-3 days tops, I would end up getting the number.

Also- about 50% of the time they gave me their number without me having to ask.

It's all about making the interaction FUN. Because if the girl is having fun, she's probably not going to be hesitant to give up the digits.

The way I made it fun for her was, being playful & flirting constantly. Simple as that.

Build attraction & continue the bantering/teasing... that's really all there is to it.

Also- when you have several girls at a time that you're messaging, you really don't care if a couple new prospects end up as a bust.

You lose the outcome dependency & realize that you're ALWAYS gonna have girls that don't work out, so no big deal.... there are still plenty more.

Anyway, nice work man!!

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I absolutely agree!

When I was refining my online game, I discovered it was a lot easier to get a girl's number than one might think.
(A lot of times within the first couple email exchanges).

But after 2-3 days tops, I would end up getting the number.

Also- about 50% of the time they gave me their number without me having to ask.

It's all about making the interaction FUN. Because if the girl is having fun, she's probably not going to be hesitant to give up the digits.

The way I made it fun for her was, being playful & flirting constantly. Simple as that.

Build attraction & continue the bantering/teasing... that's really all there is to it.

Also- when you have several girls at a time that you're messaging, you really don't care if a couple new prospects end up as a bust.

You lose the outcome dependency & realize that you're ALWAYS gonna have girls that don't work out, so no big deal.... there are still plenty more.

Anyway, nice work man!!
Thanks! Exactly... the flirting, cocky/funny, and maintaining a "I'm the great catch here.." attitude in a fun way is key.

And yes... actually last night (as well as other times) this in my book HB10 just threw her number at me. "We'll I've got to go, so text me ***-***-****". Nice!

This brings up a question on my end though.. I can usually keep the playful teasing and banter going when moving to text with most girls, and I've had a couple actually ask ME out really quickly because of it.... but I'm finding that with the REALLY HOTT ones it can be a bit trickier to keep the teasing going and maintain an interesting convo...? It's like they are more used to guys flirting with them and are good at defending against it, or turing it back on you!

For instance this HB10 that threw her number at me last night. I followed up with my usual first text back:

ME: "these are my digits. treat with care "
HER: "I am always careful "
ME: Good. And I promise not to sell your number to any telemarketer lists or the sex slave industry.. "
HER: "LOL you wouldn't dare, I would hate you!"
ME: "Haha. I'll ttyl, have a good night"
HER: (No response)

Not gonna lie the no response threw me off a little.. Not the biggest of deals, but usually girls shoot back "you too!" or something. And I'm thinking how should I play this one today? She lives literally a block from me, and we have a ton in common, so I want to get her out for a drink asap! (then back to my apartment of course..)


 
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I never worry about whether she sends the last text or not.
Reason being, I treat each new day as a "new day".

Just like going to work or school... whatever you were talking about the day before, is OLD. Nobody picks up where they left off; They start fresh with new topics.

So, it doesn't matter who texted last.
It also doesn't matter if you sent the last one yesterday AND the first one today.

Besides, her "no response" could just be a little Sh1t Test to see how you handle it & whether or not you're persistent.... OR... she set her phone down after HER last text, & got busy & fell asleep.

Whatever the deal was, it's not an issue.

Just re-engage again with something completely new. That way you don't run the risk of making things get stale by forcing one particular subject.

Keep it fresh, new & fun.
(And flirt like a Mo-Fo!!)

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I never worry about whether she sends the last text or not.
Reason being, I treat each new day as a "new day".

Just like going to work or school... whatever you were talking about the day before, is OLD. Nobody picks up where they left off; They start fresh with new topics.

So, it doesn't matter who texted last.
It also doesn't matter if you sent the last one yesterday AND the first one today.

Besides, her "no response" could just be a little Sh1t Test to see how you handle it & whether or not you're persistent.... OR... she set her phone down after HER last text, & got busy & fell asleep.

Whatever the deal was, it's not an issue.

Just re-engage again with something completely new. That way you don't run the risk of making things get stale by forcing one particular subject.

Keep it fresh, new & fun.
(And flirt like a Mo-Fo!!)

Good advice! Will text her later on (if she dosn't text me) and flirt away.

I think that also points out the reason why they hottest girls are a little more tricky to banter with.... they throw in a lot of sh1t tests.. or in some cases it might be mental on our end... I wind up putting more weight on the outcome the hotter the girl, which has to stop! lol. I think with this one I already established enough report that I can fairly quickly go to asking her out for a drink soon anyways. Will do it tonight, and post the result!

Also what did you think of my line "I promise not to sell your number to any telemarketer lists or the sex slave industry.. "? I've used it a few times to set a flirty/fun tone for the conversation.... however I've sometimes thought if it could come across wrong and scare the girl..?


 
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Good advice! Will text her later on (if she dosn't text me) and flirt away.

I think that also points out the reason why they hottest girls are a little more tricky to banter with.... they throw in a lot of sh1t tests.. or in some cases it might be mental on our end... I wind up putting more weight on the outcome the hotter the girl, which has to stop! lol. I think with this one I already established enough report that I can fairly quickly go to asking her out for a drink soon anyways. Will do it tonight, and post the result!

Also what did you think of my line "I promise not to sell your number to any telemarketer lists or the sex slave industry.. "? I've used it a few times to set a flirty/fun tone for the conversation.... however I've sometimes thought if it could come across wrong and scare the girl..?

That's actually along the lines of something I would say. hahaha!

What I usually do first though, is drop a few innuendos to gauge her reaction.
That way I have an idea of how receptive she'll be if I start increasing the sexual topics in conversation.

If she has an extensive vocabulary, I might point out how impressed I am with her choice of words, and mention something about having to get my "***tionary"...

And, something else I've discovered: the more intelligent & intellectual a girl is, the more explicit I can be when I talk to / text her because, she "gets it".

But I don't think your text about selling her phone number was too much. Just don't make a big deal out of it & don't bring it up or ask her if it bothered her.

Just be confident & secure with your humor.
If she questions it just say, "Don't tell me you have NO sense of humor...? I thought YOU of all people would get that! " (or something along those lines.)

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This just worked for me

ME: corndogs look legit
HEr:It was so delicious. Totally a good idea on my part
ME: Would you consider it find cuisine?
Me: *fine
please excuse my hellen keller'ish style of typing.

On a serious note tho. Have you ever had a bacon wrapped corndog stuffed with jalapenos?

HER:No I have not! Sounds pretty tasty though!
ME: Whats your name corndog girl?
HER: I am Caroline. How about you?
ME: Hugh Jass
her: Your parents have good taste!
ME: For the most part. My mother still tells me she wishes she wouldnt have swallowed.
ME: For real though my name is Evan. Whats your go to cake to make?
HEr: Oh Vanilla is just the best Sent from the OkCupid app
ME: I have never had a gf who was a cake baker. I really like our relationship already. Too bad I will have to dump you if you ever make me carrot cake
ME: We could message on here all day, but I pay for my text plan and might as well use it. Whats your number caroline?
HEr: 256226xxxx I'm heading back into work so I won't be able to text till later this afternoon. But I'll be looking forward to hearing from you!


 
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THAT my friends, is how it's done!

That was rock solid! I recommend that everyone pay attention to this interaction & the flow of the message exchange.

"Corndog Girl" was simply brilliant! *Two Thumbs Up*
And getting her number was textbook Alpha!

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THAT my friends, is how it's done!

That was rock solid! I recommend that everyone pay attention to this interaction & the flow of the message exchange.

"Corndog Girl" was simply brilliant! *Two Thumbs Up*
And getting her number was textbook Alpha!

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# 2 today

hot little bright red haired HB 9 with tatoos

me: your bright red is hair farking sweet

HER: Lol thank you (:Sent from the OkCupid app

me: Your welcome it got you 3 points on my totally nectar scale. I can take them away at any time however. So whats your deal are you an internet stalker, basket case , boring as hell, or an axe murdered of any sort?

her: Boring as hell I guess you could say. I just haven't found people worth going out with. I don't drink so I don't go clubbing. I don't sleep around. And I don't smoke.Sent from the OkCupid app

her: I enjoy bowling going to the movies stuff like that. Haven't found anybody with similar interest.Sent from the OkCupid app

ME: Ill kick your ass in bowling.
Under one condition though we have to play with bumpers

Her: I suck at bowling. And I STILL have gutter balls with bumpers Sent from the OkCupid app

ME: Are you required to wear helmets in public environments too?

HEr: No but I'm obligated to kick your ass for that rhetorical question (:Sent from the OkCupid app

ME: OOOOOOhhh we got a fiesty one. I can admire one who wears big girl panties. Whats your number I pay for a text message plan so I may as well use it.

her: Who says I wear panties?? 205422xxxx Sent from the OkCupid app

me: hmmm the power of imagination. Luckily I can controll myself

her: I'm just a smart ass reallySent from the OkCupid app


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