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    Default Doctoral student at counseling center- is it possible to meet up with her

    I've seen a therapist for three sessions. I need to end the sessions but I also want to meet up with her in a different context, how best do I Set this up? should I do a pattern before I tell her what the deal is with my attraction and how the therapy won't work?

    I had some personal and law school issues and the counseling center can be helpful. I was attracted to her from the beginning, she is an HB9. Also I can tell some personality traits; not necessarily by what she's saying but how she is acting. For example, articulateness, social intelligence, nice smile.

    She's a doctoral student, around my age at the same university. This is definitely a natural attraction (not some psychological relationship). The sessions are frustrating and I must end the therapy for practical reasons. It's hard to be candid when the dynamic is one of a girl I'm potentially interested in and not effective therapy.

    It isn't unethical yet for she and I to meet up, how do I best bring this up? I'm not implying she is "the girl for me"; but i'd like to maybe grab coffee with her or play tennis. She played in college and I'm a good player. She knows vulnerable things about me so I'm not expecting anything but wanted to give it a shot. Do I just say soemthing like: i'm attracted to you, something i can't control, you're prob. gonna try and convince me it's some psychoanalytic stuff, i'd rather we forgot these sessions and played tennis sometimes, here's my number, if I don't hear from you I won't really think about it, you're good at your job and have a bright future. or should i try to set up a date at the session?

    Should I try to create attraction before I tell her all this or rather tell a story or something?

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    Default Re: Doctoral student at counseling center- is it possible to meet up with h

    Hey lastpioneer, I'd keep it straight forward and honest. Tell her you're ending your therapy sessions. Then tell her you're attracted to her and ask her out. By you stating up front that you're going to end the therapy sessions she won't be able to use that as an excuse to reject you because of some "patient/therapist ethics code".


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