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    Unhappy Much needed advice with an ex (sort of)

    Hey guys i'm new to the forums but have always had success with females due to natural aesthetic and charm. My weak spot, however is texting, partially due to the fact i can't here tone, or see body language/reactions.

    Anyways, there's this girl whom i dealt with 3 years ago for i think 3 or so months, when i was a freshman, and this girl adored me, right from the first time she saw me. I thought she was cute, so i went along with it, eventually breaking it off to venture with other girls at the end of the school year.

    The next year she didn't speak a word to me, and basically wanted nothing to do with me. Cut to now, we've both matured, and she's only gotten hotter, and we began talking again a year ago. I don't know when it happened but i began having feelings for her again, and it's weird because before she was the initial one who crushed, not me. So with that role reversal, i'm in unfamiliar territory with her.
    Also, I studied with her for exams this past january, and it went well, i caught many ioi's like the eye-contact, mirrored movements, leaning in when talking, and a general cute-nervousness about her. At the beginning of february i asked her if she wanted to go out for a coffee that friday , and she gave the standard "i'm busy then, but i'm good saturday". I decided it was in my best interest to freeze her and let the seed i've planted sprout rather than drown it; essentially standing her up. She never mentioned it or anything, and continues to say hi to me whenever we see each other, but on multiple occurrences when i've texted me friends during the day, i got texts like saying i lubjew, using , and calling me sexypants, which they then told me that it was her. Mixed signals galore eh?
    The last time was two days ago, and i just used the "stop" technique and her first text was "What? D:" and her reply to the punchline was around a half hour later, reading "lmfao evan, you're cute" now initially i thought fark chalk that one up as an L, then i thought more into it and noticed how her second message didn't begin capitalized, perhaps meaning she wrote something (maybe multiple times) and deleted it before deciding on what to write. I concluded that i had to reply something, so i decided to type a blunt "Thanks." after being convinced i got rejected by a friend of mine. But i'd like to get some better insight on this from you guys. Like to be honest, I'm not sure if what i received was good or bad, but bear in mind the history, and the fact she might have a defensive wall up because i hurt her before. I have fully accepted this bringing out my inner AFC.

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    Default Re: Much needed advice with an ex (sort of)

    Quote Originally Posted by evanthomson View Post
    Hey guys i'm new to the forums but have always had success with females due to natural aesthetic and charm. My weak spot, however is texting, partially due to the fact i can't here tone, or see body language/reactions.
    I share your same reservations about texting and that's why I don't use it as much. I keep texting simple and usually only for logistics and setting sh1t up with girls.
    Quote Originally Posted by evanthomson View Post
    Anyways, there's this girl whom i dealt with 3 years ago for i think 3 or so months, when i was a freshman, and this girl adored me, right from the first time she saw me. I thought she was cute, so i went along with it, eventually breaking it off to venture with other girls at the end of the school year.

    The next year she didn't speak a word to me, and basically wanted nothing to do with me. Cut to now, we've both matured, and she's only gotten hotter, and we began talking again a year ago. I don't know when it happened but i began having feelings for her again, and it's weird because before she was the initial one who crushed, not me. So with that role reversal, i'm in unfamiliar territory with her.
    Dude, have you ever actually gotten physical with this girl (kissing, touching, sex) or is this just an old school crush?

    Quote Originally Posted by evanthomson View Post
    Also, I studied with her for exams this past january, and it went well, i caught many ioi's like the eye-contact, mirrored movements, leaning in when talking, and a general cute-nervousness about her. At the beginning of february i asked her if she wanted to go out for a coffee that friday , and she gave the standard "i'm busy then, but i'm good saturday". I decided it was in my best interest to freeze her and let the seed i've planted sprout rather than drown it; essentially standing her up. She never mentioned it or anything, and continues to say hi to me whenever we see each other, but on multiple occurrences when i've texted me friends during the day, i got texts like saying i lubjew, using , and calling me sexypants, which they then told me that it was her. Mixed signals galore eh?
    Don't ever do that sh1t again. If you ask a girl out and she turns down the day you suggest but suggests another, that means she's interested but that the day suggested just doesn't fit into her schedule. Unless the day she suggests doesn't work for your schedule you take her up on her counteroffer (unless you're not serious about seeing this girl and are just bullsh1tting her.)

    Quote Originally Posted by evanthomson View Post
    The last time was two days ago, and i just used the "stop" technique and her first text was "What? D:" and her reply to the punchline was around a half hour later, reading "lmfao evan, you're cute" now initially i thought fark chalk that one up as an L, then i thought more into it and noticed how her second message didn't begin capitalized, perhaps meaning she wrote something (maybe multiple times) and deleted it before deciding on what to write. I concluded that i had to reply something, so i decided to type a blunt "Thanks." after being convinced i got rejected by a friend of mine. But i'd like to get some better insight on this from you guys. Like to be honest, I'm not sure if what i received was good or bad, but bear in mind the history, and the fact she might have a defensive wall up because i hurt her before. I have fully accepted this bringing out my inner AFC.
    Stop dragging this sh1t out. Set up a date and then make a move. It's that simple. If you really like this girl then you need to stop procrastinating and make a move. I can remember several quality chicks from my late high school/early college years that I thought would hang on to me forever but they didn't. After a few months or years they eventually found guys that didn't fark around and moved on. It sounds like this girl moved on once before and you're getting a second chance. Seize the day and make a move on her.


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