How much patience should I have for flakiness. This one cute very stylish blonde I met on the train a few weeks ago pretty much asked me for my number. She's been nice in her communication, but flaky about actually following through with the dates. We tried 4 times now and each time something comes up for her and she apologizes and postpones. She even said "I don't want to seem flaky, sorry, etc.
If I let a girl keep playing games with me and making me jump through hoops, doesn't that show that I am desperate? Last night after we got off the phone postponing yet again, I sabbotage texted later that night saying "don't worry about monday. you seem pretty busy. it's fine" which was maybe a little dark. She didn't respond.
Why did I do this? I just didn't want to seem like I am so desperate, and frankly was ready to throw in the towel b/c it bums me out when I get blown off. The truth is I am desperate so I get bummed out by flakiness pretty hard.
I know, I know, the really savvy PUA has infinite patience and never shows he's upset.
I feel I might be able to save this though by continuing with the non-neediness you-seem-busy-no-sweat approach. maybe? I do have other prospects so that should keep me chugging along.