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    Default TEXTING BLUNDER! RECOVERY?!

    Hey all,

    Girl I've been seeing/talking to informed me this morning (after a night of OVER TEXTING until about 3 AM with no response which was poor form on my part) after I said "Good Morning, give me a call" that I should not have done so. Anyway, here's what she said:

    "Please STOP bombarding me with texts, it makes me want to ignore the shit out of you and makes you look crazy. It's 8 in the f***ing morning, I'm not calling you right now."

    Recovery ideas?

    I really like this one and I blew it BIG TIME.

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    Default Re: TEXTING BLUNDER! RECOVERY?!

    Before anything, I highly suggest you read HighTower's "Text Game Rules."

    If she's texted you THAT, I'm not sure if there's a recovery for this one.

    If anything, YOU should be the one giving no response. Texting over, and over on a frequent basis gives you dlv, and makes you look needy. Since she didn't reply, and you kept texting, the situation is now worse.

    Perhaps your morning text woke her up as well.

    I would leave this one alone. If there is any chance of a recovery.. it'll be possible when this situation dies down.

    Read HighTower's thread, and keep those facts in mind for next time.

    **Sidenote: If you're able to post the conversation, or more details of what happened... We can provide more help.
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    Default Re: TEXTING BLUNDER! RECOVERY?!

    Sure...

    She texted me "call you later?" yesterday afternoon, before I had to go to work. I came back with "sure, working til 9, call after that." I get a text around 7:30 saying that she's out to dinner for her best friend's birthday and wouldn't be calling right at nine. I said, around 9, (when I actually got the text because I was at work), "OK, almost home." then I said about an hour later "just finished eating, call whenever." She comes back with "Still at dinner..."

    This is where I get twitchy and send the next 3 drivel texts every hour that pretty much all say "feel free to call", the last one at almost 3 AM....then, this morning: "Good Morning, Call me."


    I have no idea how I got like that last night, it's really not like me to do so at all. ::SIGH::

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    Default Re: TEXTING BLUNDER! RECOVERY?!

    Dude you gotta get out there and have a life, cause from her point of view it looks like all you do all day long is sit around and wait for her text/calls.

    You shouldn't text her good morning text when you're not even in a relationship, however you can't let her talk to you like that and not punish her. If I got a text like that I would be like "Excuse me for being farking polite, If your that type of rude girl we probably shouldn't be together." Protect your balls bro.

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    Default Re: TEXTING BLUNDER! RECOVERY?!

    Oh man.. bad move man. Sorry to say that you lost this one. It will take weeks or months for her to forget this, if at all.

    Don't text her ever again, ever unless she texts you. If she never texts you again, good.

    Forget her and find you a new woman. Move On.

    The one lesson men need to learn is to completely ignore those little "twinges" that come about when you don't hear from a girl. This problem goes away completely if you have a bunch of other women you are texting with because then your attention isn't focused on what one girl does.

    You have to develop a circle of girls you are working on at any given moment. Then you will find yourself so busy with so many different girls you wont' care if you hear from any particular one. Hell if anything it'll become a problem of too much communication.

    I used to get pissed because I would have to call 4, 5, or 6 different women a night to say good night and that entire process took TWO HOURS to accomplish. Can you imagine that? You wanna go to bed at 11pm for work but you have to start making your "good night sweetie" calls at 7:30 or 8pm because if you started at 10 you wouldn't get to bed until midnight or 1am. Having the same "good night" conversation with 5 different women one after another? No? Then get out there and do

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    Default Re: TEXTING BLUNDER! RECOVERY?!

    Quote Originally Posted by SiliconMagician View Post
    Oh man.. bad move man. Sorry to say that you lost this one. It will take weeks or months for her to forget this, if at all.

    Don't text her ever again, ever unless she texts you. If she never texts you again, good.

    Forget her and find you a new woman. Move On.
    Bahahaha. Kinda harsh.

    Listen, there is psychological evidence that has proven that people grow more fond of others when they are not sure weather or not they are liked by them. In other words, stop putting her on the pedestal man.. You gotta let her initiate, neediness is a huge dlv, it shows that you can't get any other girls.

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    Default Re: TEXTING BLUNDER! RECOVERY?!

    Quote Originally Posted by Slarfy View Post
    Bahahaha. Kinda harsh.
    True. I do apologize to the OP if I come across as harsh, but that is nothing compared to what he would get if he tried to post this stuff over on mASF. They'd tear him a new one just for not reading the gazillion other similar posts.

    I guess I'm just to old hat about this stuff. The "tough love" school of brotherhood.

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    Default Re: TEXTING BLUNDER! RECOVERY?!

    OK, cool.

    So, what you're saying here is:

    just forget about her until something better comes along or she resumes contact, and essentially use a quasi-freeze-out to punish the bad behavior.

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    Default Re: TEXTING BLUNDER! RECOVERY?!

    Quote Originally Posted by BluegrassBoy05 View Post
    Sure...

    She texted me "call you later?" yesterday afternoon, before I had to go to work. I came back with "sure, working til 9, call after that." I get a text around 7:30 saying that she's out to dinner for her best friend's birthday and wouldn't be calling right at nine. I said, around 9, (when I actually got the text because I was at work), "OK, almost home." then I said about an hour later "just finished eating, call whenever." She comes back with "Still at dinner..."

    This is where I get twitchy and send the next 3 drivel texts every hour that pretty much all say "feel free to call", the last one at almost 3 AM....then, this morning: "Good Morning, Call me."


    I have no idea how I got like that last night, it's really not like me to do so at all. ::SIGH::

    Yes, I'm sorry, but your conversation sounded as if you were uptight, and needy. You did the RIGHT thing by letting her know "around nine", although it should have been included in the first text, and made even more clear.


    You could have just said...

    Her: "call you later?"

    You: "sure, but call anytime after nine.. I gotta work."


    (She would probably send something along the lines of "okay ", and that would be that, until she calls you back)

    Just by saying "sometime after nine", she won't feel as if there's a gun to her head to call RIGHT AROUND NINE.

    Even if calling RIGHT AROUND NINE, were not your intentions... You have to take a look at your texts in the other perspective.

    "sure, working til 9, call after that."

    Although what you said is pretty straight forward, some people can interpret this as...

    "He wants me to call him after 9. Not after 10, not after 11, not after 9:30.... He wants me to call him after NINE"

    It would seem she's taken to your text in this manner. To avoid that in the future... Make sure you are very clear in what text, or say. Saying "anytime after nine", makes it a loose time. She knows your laxed about the time, and don't really care women love this. I mean... who would want a tight leash around their neck when they're out with their friends having fun and eating. Saying "working till 9, call after that.", is kind of open to interpretation... as it isn't specified whether she should call you sooner rather than later. If your in bed by the time she gets around to calling you then too bad for her... Let her know "Yeah, I'm actually about to go to sleep. Talk tomorrow?." This will show her, you're not a needy guy, and that you have leading alpha qualities. Lets face it, if she called you at 3am, you probably would have talked for as long as possible. If she's leaving a call THAT late... punish her, let her know you're tired, and you don't want to talk now. TAKE CONTROL BROTHER!


    When she's already told you that she's out to dinner with friends, and she already said she'd call you back... There's no need to keep texting her, and updating her on what you're doing. It'll make you look needy, and that you don't have much of a life.


    This here....

    This is where I get twitchy and send the next 3 drivel texts every hour that pretty much all say "feel free to call", the last one at almost 3 AM....then, this morning: "Good Morning, Call me."

    ...Is the nail in the coffin. At this point, she is probably very creeped out.
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    Default Re: TEXTING BLUNDER! RECOVERY?!

    Yep.

    Definitely all good calls!

    Thanks for the advice, now is the time for application and execution.

    Have not even tried to contact her via text, but I did put my dating site page back up, and she's online right now.

    Keeping my trap shut and my head down!


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