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    Default Hang out confusion

    In a rush but here's the short story: Have this thing with a girl and we have a hard time trying to find time to hang out due to work/classes etc. We were supposed to hang out and there was confusion that was neither of our faults but she got mad. How should I handle her response?

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    Default Re: Hang out confusion

    Well this advice may or may not be helpful as your story is quite vague but I will take a jab at it.

    First off, this all depends on how she reacted and how you reacted. First thing is first, NEVER show her you are upset/angry. That is for needy/AFC's.

    Whenever a mistake/cancellation needs to be made, or if she flakes for whatever reason, I always reply starting with an "lol". This will probably confuse her, but it shows her it is okay and it doesn't bother you. I reply with something short afterwards.

    Secondly, if you are asking how to repair the situation, no one here knows the story so you need to open up more or you won't get good advice.

    Thirdly, if you are just trying to actually hang out with her, just name a time and place...
    Here is an example with a girl I met at a bar. btw, No lie, she seriously was breath taking and beautiful. I normally and smooth with my stuff as if you ever read my posts, but damn she was fine.

    After getting her number. Next day...
    ME: So, u+me+dinner tomorrow @ 7 = fun time
    HER: Haha, i love math. But I actually can't tomorrow. I have to study.
    ME: lol. thats unfortunate. The best thing for a stressful study day is a drink with a stud.
    HER: How about Monday?

    What I did is I gave her no option if she wanted to go with me. I told her. If she was busy, as she was, she suggested a better time.

    My advice, suggest a time, don't ask, just TELL her.

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    Default Re: Hang out confusion

    I was in a rush before, but she didn't flake. We were suppose to meet up after class but she wasn't where I thought she'd be hence the confusion. So I went back to my room and texted saying meet up in an hour. She is angry with me because we didn't meet when I said, but it was a confusion. I could care less about what happened, but how should I handle her. I see where she can be frustrated since we've made plans before that fell through cause of work and such. They're all legitimate reasons so I know shes not flaking. She is a quite reserved person so how do I convey that I wasn't being disrespectful and also that I won't take her shit. (getting upset over trivial stuff)

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    Default Re: Hang out confusion

    I would just lighten it up. If she is interested in you, she will see you and respond to a text, but lighten the text up. By that, I mean, make it comical and jokingly funny. This way she knows you have no bad feelings/resentment towards her and that her sh1t isn;'t easily taken.

    Say something like... "Considering my brain timing was quite off, it was all intentional so when we meet up at (name a time and place) it can only get better and go up from there."

    Or... Something like... "text from the future (her name) sent a message on my phone saying she had an amazing time hanging out with me for drinks at (name a time and place you want to meet her but act like it was past tense considering u are making it a joke) and would love to go out again sometime"

    The reason you send these is to show her that you are not mad and it doesn't bother you. You just are out for a good time, and it will help put down her guards and defense as well...


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