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    Default 1 Week to the date, how do I avoid the FriendZone?

    Hi Guys,

    Just after some general advice here.

    Thanks to this forum I pulled a bird at the weekend, got a kiss and a number, then arranged a date. All looking good, however, the date isnt for 7 more days (from today) AND I then carried on texting!

    I could physically feel the FriendZone coming for me, and it wasnt nice. I have since cut back on my texting, although if she initiates a conversation I go with it.

    Before I realsied the FriendZone was coming I agreed to play Facebook Scrabble with her (she likes scrabble and I just wanted more contact with her)

    So now I am acting like this, play the Scrabble, dont text her, but if she texts me do reply.

    I'm thinking continue playing Scrabble so she knows I havent forgotten about her, but not texting until say Sunday, and then with something interesting, ie "Just past the outdoor sports park and thought of you, would be a great laugh running round there all day wouldnt it!"

    Then maybe another conversation on Wednesday just to confirm shes still into me ready for the date on Friday.

    Anyone got any opinions?

    I know I'm out of my league with this one and want to make a good go of things, but also realise its not the end of the world if I mess up.

    Game On

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    Default Re: 1 Week to the date, how do I avoid the FriendZone?

    You should really have picked an earlier time for the date. What you're doing on the texting part is good. Don't text her and remain unavailable - if she texts wait for a while to text back. Scrabble should probably be left alone because you're playing a fun game with her but that isn't generating attraction or getting sexual in any way so it'll get you in the friendzone faster.

    Stop scrabbling, keep your current texting attitude and on the morning of the date text her a reminder like "Hey, I'll see you at ... at ... o'clock tonight".

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    Default Re: 1 Week to the date, how do I avoid the FriendZone?

    Cheers bro,
    Earlier time for the date would have been a very good idea, I thought of that as soon as I saw the FriendZone coming. I did think of trying to bring it forward but decided against it as then I would be arranging my schedule round her.

    Its a lesson to remember that one!

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    Default Re: 1 Week to the date, how do I avoid the FriendZone?

    Well its date day today, I was pretty good at following the advice, although I did slip a couple of times, need more will power!

    Anyway, she text to cancel. Should I be unhappy? Not really!!!

    To stop myself from texting her through the week, I started texting a couple of other girls, turns out one is dirty and up for it so I'm seeing her instead!!!

    Hahahaha, and best of all there will be no idle chat, pretending I'm into what shes saying and interested, no! We can pretty much go straight to the bedroom!

    Feels great to have options, I dont even know if I will go back to the cancelled date or not! Brilliant

    Game On

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    Default Re: 1 Week to the date, how do I avoid the FriendZone?

    I tend to also prefer being able to live as my real self than having to pretend. But, as my best friend once told me, life is about being the best actor you can be to get what you want / need.

    On another note, it's always funny to see the "forced positive thinking" going on in a lot of threads here. Most people may not notice these type of things but I can detect it clear as day when I see it. People taking something that they know is painful and hurtful and twisting it to make it sound as if they're in a positive mood about it (maybe to avoid getting verbally beat up about it by other PUA people).

    When I first started (maybe the first few years of doing this) I remember learning the "think positive" stuff and trying to twist everything into a positive experience when I knew damn well that I wasn't happy with the situation at all. It's like wishful thinking; Sort of like accidentally losing your winning lottery ticket on the way to the lottery prize office then saying "well it's GOOD this happened because at least now I wont have to worry about losing the money or about where I'm going to keep it."

    I wonder if there is a female PUA forum of some sort because I'm dying to know what the females go through when it comes to picking up males. I know there are people out there teaching women things like "make him call three times before answering / don't always text back / act uninterested..." etc. All the games we play that actually spark attraction, but at the same time, make us miserable and keep us apart or push us towards choosing someone else who isn't our best match.

    Anyway, good luck. In my experience, a canceled date doesn't mean you've lost forever. But as far as the friendzone, you may be stuck in there right now. But good news is (and I mean REAL good news, not the fake wishful thinking "good news") if you don't talk to her for about three to four weeks AND manage to get her out by sending a text later on (AFTER the three to four weeks pass), you could very well "start over" by giving it your all. What I mean is be super charming. Come full force with your best personality and let her see you in a different light. If you haven't given her a big hug then picked her up and carried her somewhere or taken her in your arms and walked around with her or just pulled her close to you a little rough and sensually, (try to) put yourself in a situation where you can do that next time you see her. Practice doing this on the girls you have right now... Since you pretty much have nothing to lose, you might as well lose by risking going too far than playing too safe.

    Just my two cents and a half dollar.


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