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    Mex13 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default After first date, what should I do next.

    Hello,

    Ill get right into it. So I met this girl in class and asked her out to a coffee date.We are in college and I met with her in the morning time between classes. I figured out she was a very introverted girl. She was very shy, but I seemed to open her up. I ran the all the fun games you would run to build comfort (5 questions, cube ectl;. With all those games I figured out that she was a super shy, insecure and introverted person.The meeting itself felt like it went well, but then suddenly she said she needed to get to some homework before class. Right before she left I ran the "Trust test" and found that she passed it (The one where you take their hands in yours). I was surprised to see this because she was not showing very many ioi's at all. I asked her if she wanted to bake cookies this weekend but she said she is leaving friday to go see her parents. I texted her an hour after the meeting to say that I was eating cookes and she should be jealous (She had to go to class and work). Got a simple reply, texted her again and got no reply. Now I am not sure if I should text again soon or if I did something wrong. She passed the trust test completly but so introverted hard to get a read. What should I do next?

    I actually really like this girl and would consider dating her if I get the chance. Why I am posting on here..

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    Default Re: After first date, what should I do next.

    Oh and when I mentioned the cookie idea she smiled and laughed and said that was a great idea and we should do that, but she was leaving. I know for sure she is single, and is looking for a relationship. She even shown me some of her private writing that she said no one ever looks at (veeeery introverted girl, they were deep emotional stories).

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    Default Re: After first date, what should I do next.

    Texting her an hour after meeting wouldn't have been something that I would have done, I would have left it a bit longer. By that I'm also presuming you text her straight back after her last text. Cat-String theory man, you're giving too much away. No matter what the girl if you're putting yourself at a lower value than her by chasing after her, it's not going to be a good outcome. Do you see her regularly in real life? If so, don't bother contacting her until the next time you see her, freeze her out. Then when you do see her make it out like YOU'VE been really busy having fun. She'll wonder why you didn't contact her, putting you back on top in the dynamic. Like a hard reset. Hopefully you'll know what to do after that.

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    Default Re: After first date, what should I do next.

    Thank for the reply,

    Yeah I will try that and give you an update next week. Only issue is that I hardly see her right now. We had a lab but that lab ends next week (finals). So chances are that may not be an option. But I will go ahead and Freeze Out for the next week. I actually been on like 8 dates in the last two months with different girls. This was probably only the second girl I saw potential with. Dating is getting kinda tiring so I guess I jumped the gun. haha. Turning into a lot of work.

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    Default Re: After first date, what should I do next.

    *UPDATE*

    So I left her alone, which was a smart thing. She texted me this morning apologizing saying she got sick afterwards and had been asleep most of the day. We made plans for lunch thursday? So how would you handle this. Second date, introverted girl, casual lunch. What kind of techniques would you use.

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    Default Re: After first date, what should I do next.

    The biggest issue I can envision you facing is lack of conversation if she's introverted. So what you want to be doing first off is making sure you come across as a connoisseur in the fine art of conversation. Think hook points, hook points, hook points. If you get even on Hook Point from one conversation piece that's golden, it'll make sure that the dialogue never runs dry. Try getting it to be a deep conversation as well, you may break her out of her shell. Example of this could be (tailored to your situation of course) is if you asked her what she does for a living, and she replied nurse, rather than being like oh that's cool, you would then use that HOOK to ask her if that's what she always wanted to do when she was growing up, from their she might say yes (you could then go 'is that because you like caring for people) or if she say's no you then go onto a conversation about childhood aspirations. This is next level shit, not something a girl expects on a second date, it shows that you're good conversation, and if she has to think hard about the answers she's giving rather than just flaking off like she would a guy in a bar coming on to her, she's going to forget whatever it is making her introverted and open up. She'll probably feel that and be like 'oh wow I've never really talked to someone like that, wow there must be a connection blah blah bla'. Succeed with this my friend and congratulations, you have just manufactured chemistry.

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    Default Re: After first date, what should I do next.

    Thanks for the reply Mr. Flat.

    Ok I will try that I will post a field report tomorrow about how it went (good or bad). If you want to know more about this situation read on, or see you tommorrow.

    Yeah I like the deep conversation idea, I excel at that. She actually had written a story and showed it to me during the date. I decided I would come up with a deep good ending. I have, and texted her that I found the perfect ending to her story. Its complex so I will tell her later. I guess I am just making sure she doesn't flake. Making her invested. She seemed really interested in what I have to say about her short story. She wants to be a writer. I also posted my routine I used on her here if anyone wants to critique. I would say it was success with her, since I am just after the second date with it.




    1. Before I even talk to her, run the 5 questions game
    2. Fluff
    3. Get drinks
    4. Three shape game
    5. fluff
    6. Handwriting Analysis (Takes at least half an hour alone)
    7. fluff
    .... you get the idea. (Cube, palm reading, tarot, rollercoaster game everything and anything! Just put fluff in between)

    At the end do the "trust test" If she passes ask to go and bake cookies this weekend, and watch a movie. If she doesn't I would just try and text her later.


    Didn't Tease or make fun of her too much. Was nice a gentlemenly, let her leave whenever she wanted. But it took her awhile to leave. (About 2 and half hours.). She wanted me to do more games and stuff. We already had some deep conversations about what it means to be in love, insecure and cautious about relationships. Her cube was very small, solid, and flat colored. Very insecure girl.

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    Default Re: After first date, what should I do next.

    Alright reporting in. Ill keep it quick

    Met up with her,though she was a half an hour late. She said she fell asleep in the library. I hit things off with some deep fluffing for about an hour. Kept conversation on the exact meaning of love and relationships. Really trying to show I understood how women felt in general. Did a good job. Getting good signs with her. After 2 hours of this we ended the meeting and I did one last thing. Gave her a necklace I was wearing to give back to me later. Told her it was good luck. She decided to give me her bracelet she had on and she put in on my wrist. There was a moment shared there.

    Anyway, gave her a quick hug cause she needed to get to work then left for the weekend. She texted me back four hours later saying she had a good time and that her "Good luck" necklace she wore worked perfectly. She got called for a job interview an hour after I gave it to her and thanked me for that. I quickly made plans with her to go see avengers next week. So that's where were at.

    Stroke of luck with the job interview!xD

    Thanks PUA forum, I feel something great starting.


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