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    Default Need help re-igniting the fire

    Hello all.
    So, here's the story so far.
    I have been dating this girl for four months now. We have an open communication relationship. It was great for the first two months or so but over the last two months we have lost the "fire". We are both relatively young (22 and 21). We still like each other alot. I take care of her when she needs it and we have been trying to make this relationship work. She has lost her libido over the last two months and we have talked about it. We are not sure if its something Biological, due to stress or what the cause actually is. She denies that its me. Our relationship has started to move into the "best friend" zone and I need a way out and a way to re-ignite the fire. We both want to be together and are happy together but there is this void that is killing us, we constantly think about this void and haven't quite figured out exactly what it is.

    If you need any information please let me know.
    Any help is greatly appreciated.
    I am desperate!
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    Default Re: Need help re-igniting the fire

    UPDATE!

    So, here is an update... And I really hope someone can help me out to make sure we get back together.
    Here goes:
    So I broke up with my girlfriend (even though I still want to be with her) and I told her to figure things out. And if and when she gets back together, I'll be willing to give it a shot. I also told her I don't know how long I can wait, whether its a week, 2 weeks or a month and I don't know whats going to happen in the future so its not something I can promise. I still want to get back with her. Is there anything I could do to ensure she comes back to me?

    Any advice or opinion is more than welcome.
    Please help me out.
    Thanks!

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    Default Re: Need help re-igniting the fire

    When two people break up, there is allways the one that moves on very quickly and the one that wants the other back. If you continue to text, talk and be Needy you will be the one that scares her off. the best thing you could do, is cut contact enjoy life, wait for her to contact you , let her see how well you are doing. When she sees how much fun you are having, how you dont need her to make your life fun and exciting, she will want to be part of it, caus people always want what they cant have. And she cant have you until she earns you.

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    Default Re: Need help re-igniting the fire

    Listen to Errant. What he said is solid.

    I'm a firm believer in that if it didn't work the first time, it's not going to work the second (or third, or fourth, or fifth.) If you live in the past you'll waste away your future. Take your experience and remember it as a time, but leave it at that. People come and go in our lives to fill their roles then move on. Be thankful for what you had, now put it behind you. You're in your 20's. Carpe Diem.
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    Default Re: Need help re-igniting the fire

    Not what i wanted to hear but guess that is reality.
    But for clarification, it wasn't necessarily a mutual break up. I'm the one who broke up with her. I thought by doing so, she will take space and figure things out. The alternative to that would have been remain dating and do nothing, drag it out with a high probability that nothing would change.
    I have cut off all communication with her.
    It has been 4 days so far.
    But we are going to end up bumping into each other as we go to the same clubs/bars over the weekends and have alot of mutual friends.

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    Default Re: Need help re-igniting the fire

    What should I do when I see her? (With the graduation parties coming around, it would be in approximately 2 weeks)

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    Default Re: Need help re-igniting the fire

    Just treat her like any other girl that you know. Say hi and be friendly, but don't give her preferential attention. Above all don't be awkward. She will be looking for your reaction and will mirror your response. It's nbd, so don't make mountains out of molehills.
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    Default Re: Need help re-igniting the fire

    If your going to be seen out at the same places, As MR onethousand says treat her like any other friend.
    the best thing you could do, is be seen with other female friends, if you have a few female friends outside of her group turn up with them, let her see that she isnt your only option for females.
    But most of all, your young, just go out and have fun, dont worry about other people and what they think, by doing this you will attract people to you, and raise your Social Status.
    let us know how you go .

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    Default Re: Need help re-igniting the fire

    Will do, thanks for all the advice.
    If she does text me. For example "Hi hope your doing okay"
    (which she already has)
    Do i reply to any of the texts or just ignore her?
    Also, she is dropping off my stuff that i left at her place.
    Is there anything I should do specifically when we have that face to face meeting?


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