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    Default How to keep a women on the hook for a long time

    Hi guys,

    I'm new here and looking for some info

    I've met a girl online about 4 years ago when we talked for a couple of months and then lost touch for over 2.5 years. She lives quite far (different timezones) and its kind a useless if you can't meet.

    However last year for some reason we started talking again and we moved on to a more interesting state. Webcam, flirting, and a lot of references to sex. Now a good month ago I decided to meet her. During the holidays I traveled to her for and it was fantastic. We hooked up had a wonderful couple of days and great sex.

    First days when I returned home, even while I was flying home she kept on sending texts that she had great days, asking me to come back as soon as possible, etc...
    I went along with it as I am very much interested in starting something with this women.

    However last couple of weeks it seems it has been slacking a bit. She occasionally sends me texts, sometimes boring, sometimes interesting with "I miss you", "I'm with you".
    However we talk on cam almost everyday and its always quite nice but she has already mentioned a couple of times that "her heart does not feel like we belong together. And based on her previous relations she does not want to start something with me if her heart doesn't feel right".
    Only then to say something like "I miss you very much and want you to be here" like 15 minutes later.

    Now I know I can manage things when I'm there. However I can only go back to her in 3 months from now, which means that I have to keep her hooked for another 12 weeks.
    Do you guys have any ideas how to do this the most effective way?

    I think I already tried to hard and went over the top trying to convince her which makes her owning me. So I would like to turn the roles again, so she's the one waiting for me and hopes that I do the same thing.

    thanks

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    Default Re: How to keep a women on the hook for a long time

    You talk too much. Create a diversion that eats your time, whether hypothetical or not. (examples: job promotion, particularly difficult class, etc) Talk to her less frequently but still enough to maintain interest. Text her every couple days; webcam once or twice a week. Continue to display the same amount of interest but blame your lesser actions on vital commitments. Make it something that is important to you that way she doesn't think you're blowing her off for something of low value. Your goal is to stretch time and make her crave your next interaction.
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    Default Re: How to keep a women on the hook for a long time

    Quote Originally Posted by mr.onethousand View Post
    You talk too much. Create a diversion that eats your time, whether hypothetical or not. (examples: job promotion, particularly difficult class, etc) Talk to her less frequently but still enough to maintain interest. Text her every couple days; webcam once or twice a week. Continue to display the same amount of interest but blame your lesser actions on vital commitments. Make it something that is important to you that way she doesn't think you're blowing her off for something of low value. Your goal is to stretch time and make her crave your next interaction.
    Thanks for the advice bro, however I find it strange its not that easy to do but I'll go for it.
    What kind of messages should I send her?
    Cause now we have been sending a lot of messages "how are you? how did you sleep? ..." and I expect these aren't the ones to make her crave for interaction

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    Default Re: How to keep a women on the hook for a long time

    The idea is to portray yourself as busy, so let her text you first the majority of the time. If you do that you shouldn't have much of an issue with what is it you're sending.
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    Default Re: How to keep a women on the hook for a long time

    Long distance relationships rarely work. It's good you met her but where to from here? Personally I would move on. You end up holding each other back from meeting new people unless you are willing to move permanently to her or vice versa. I've seen it happen so many times - guy visits girl, girl wants him to keep returning, girl doesn't want to compromise, eventually both partners move on. The hard thing is moving on because it's an Internet relationship that is ultimately physically idle.

    I had an Internet buddy for 4 years I really liked. She was in the US and me in Australia. One day I visited her on her suggestion and it was great. She was better looking in real life, we camped out in the hotel for a week bonking our brains out but in the end it also made me realize we just couldn't have a long term thing. She was drop dead gorgeous and i was a lucky guy for that week. A lot of what we had though was fantasy about each other. She had often held me back from meeting new people in australia before i met her in person because she would get jealous etc. I also realized she was slightly insecure and unadventurous and that's probably why she was so close to mr via Internet. It was really hard to go back to Internet romance after that so I had to just let it go. I've seen friends waste precious years of their life and money chasing long distance relationships so take care. There are beautiful women everywhere in the world. Make it easier by finding somebody in your own city or move on and start dating new people and keep her as a bit of webcam sex on the side


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