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    Default first date did it go well?

    Hey I just went on a date with a girl who's number I picked up from a bar Saturday night. We met for lunch and did a day date. My buddies find that weird because there use to same-night sex when you pick up a girl at a bar. My first question is: was it weird for me to schedule a date with her days later? My buddies were telling me I need to try and get sex from her on this day date.

    I met her and she asked all the boring questions to which I answered. She hinted at a second date halfway thru and seemed to like me. She also asked me if I would date a girl that had a 2yr old kid, to which she does. I said I didn't think I'd have a problem with it.

    Anyways, it began to rain so we took my car for a small drive. I stopped in a parking lot and asked if she wanted to feel something really nice. To which she was at first hesitant but agreed. I began to suck and kiss her neck. I then pulled back and asked if she wanted to kiss me. To which she moved in to kiss me. We stopped kissing, talked for a minute, and then I went to kisss her again and she pulled away. She smiled and asked me to drive her back to her car to which I did. I asked if she wanted to go out again to which she replied sure, maybe a night date or with all of our friends. ( we know the same people). After the date she texted me saying "I had fun, thanks!" To which I texted her back a few messages telling her I'd like to see her again and that I wouldn't have a problem dating a girl with a kid etc. She sent a message back saying we'll talk after she finishes something...that was four hours ago and no text back.

    My question is two : Did I blow it in kissing her or something? She seemed to end the date abruptly after that.
    Also, I felt pressured. Ideally, I'd like a girlfriend, not just a One Night Stand. I can get those, but this girl is so cute and I'd like her to possibly be my gf. I felt like I was pressured in kissing her. Am I right?

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    Default Re: first date did it go well?

    First of all date went great for a first. Seems like you connected great and pushed past comfort barriers just be careful not to take it too fast.

    You're friends are right if you're looking for a One Night Stand, but you're better off if shes a catch cause you can fark her as much as you want if you date her.

    Lastly don't worry about the text. Guys freak out way to much about her texting back. Here's a few scenarios..
    1) She's busy and hasn't had time to text you back or forgot to for the time being. This doesn't mean she won't.

    2) She's shit testing you to see if you'll send multiple texts DONT. Im had short bad first text conversations that end with me saying something only for her to reply with a long happy text the next day cause she realized im not chasing after her ass.

    3) You pushed too far and shes not sure how she feels but DONT send multiple texts. By giving her time to think about it she'll relax. Use can always use a Freeze Out or long text pause to sort of erase past meeting/texts.

    What you and many many other guys have to remember is that just cause she doesn't text you back right away doesn't mean she's decided never to see your face again. Just give it some time if she doesn't text back try again a few days later. Good luck Bro.
    In life you get what you put into it.

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    Default Re: first date did it go well?

    Thanks bro. i appreciate your response. I hope I didn't already send her too many texts. Three after she sent one. But ya, I'm waiting for her to text me back.

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    Default Re: first date did it go well?

    Alright you need to wait a few days than before trying again, maybe like 4 or 5. Sending multiple texts is needy but a Freeze Out might help you recover from that.
    In life you get what you put into it.

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    Default Re: first date did it go well?

    I would pull back on the reassuring follow up texts or any comments of the like. I learned the hard away to look like an Alpha on many similar dates... mainly by talking about it once, and drop it. Otherwise you will look not so Alpha and not very confident in her eyes. Just go with it brother.

    You seemed to require or need for some sort of validation. Nothing turns a woman away more than asking some of those questions. Maybe pose them differently in a probing way without asking questions. i.e. I liked the kiss...she should reply something like "Me too "

    Good luck!!


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