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    Jookkeee is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default I went to far! Need advice

    Hey, I usually know how to handle this, but when feelings is in the pictures all my sense is gone!

    (Im sorry for my English, I dont have any correct programs here, Also I'm sorry if anything in this post is rude, I really don't mean to, just speaking my mind)

    So I met this girl at a party, alot of guys were eyeballing her, and I could see she was tired of it..
    So I pretented (as usual) that she was this fat girl who I really didn't give a sh1t(No offend) about, and we started talking eventually..Now I started liking this girl a lot, and eventually later on, it wasn't really about having sex with her. I kind of wanted her. So she slept over, we hanged out for some days, things went really well, I mean, it went perfect. But 4 days later after I met her, I had to go to work. Wich ment 1 month on a boat in a different country. So I was kind of prepared for it, so I build up as much attraction as I could in those 4 days. And now I'm on this boat and only have the internet and a phone to help me!

    So It went great the first days..then OK...Now it sucks, and its my fault, Im just sitting her after work waiting for her to get online, and call her every evening, I KNOW this is wrong, and I can feel and see that this is getting to much, because she has friends, work, school, family, and I only have her out her. So this put me in a lame spot. And she starts to respond slower, show less interest, even yesterday she said it was too late, she wanted to sleep so I couldn't call her. But at the same hand, she still says (When we are talking emotionally) that she is missing me a lot, she cant wait, and all that stuffs, ofcourse I reply 10 times back because my head is messed up since it is feelings involved.

    She is now like a completely different person, but Im not sure if it is just communication over the internet and phone that does this to her, that she acts so cold, that i have to soften her UP to get a real conversation..Anw, I'm Loosing this, and I really want her...And I need you guys to think for me! atm Im starting a Freeze Out, But Im pretty sure she will join me on that, and wont take initiative to start a conversation before I break and do it. Im just trying to play games and stuff to get her out of my mind, BUT this SUCKS!

    Thanks for reading! Hope you can help do a good deed, since that is my intentions with this girl

    --Jokke

    And again, Im sorry for my english..

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    Default Re: I went to far! Need advice

    Just relax man, take a few days off from her and then contact, tell her your sorry but youve been having such a good time, even make up a story like you met an old friend from school on the boat who you havent seen in years, and got shitfaced.

    Shell start to see more of the side of you that she wanted to be around at the party.

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    Jookkeee is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: I went to far! Need advice

    She is like a level 99 on this, I froze out, then she suddenly starts talking and want me to call her later on, I told her I might call and say goodnight..I called and she was on a party I asked if she was busy, she said kind of, so I we said bye and I hung up..
    Also I still dont know if I can completely trust her..I mean she told me shit about her life that took some guts...

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    Default Re: I went to far! Need advice

    Just enjoy the cruise and sweep her back off her feet when you get back. Send the odd message here and there. Ignore her calls a few times and try pick it back up later. You can't do anything for the time being - you don't have to win, just dont loose. Or if you want to gamble higher stakes use the Internet to get sexual Tension boiling. Start writing very sexual stuff and get her to send you sexy pictures. Get some cybersex going to make it interesting. In your situation your best weapon is your imagination - use it to create sensual fantasies with her rather than imagining all the worst things that could happen.

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    Jookkeee is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: I went to far! Need advice

    Yea, I get that, I'm trying now, But still, she has to go the doctor etc soon, I really cant be "Busy" then, life threatening stuffs.. But saw some pictures, she dressed REALLY open, like she actually trying to attract other peoples, which worries me like hell...
    I'm sending u this picture to help me get the idea if she is dressing to get attraction..I mean is frigging cold here..
    Or am I over thinking this? my guts says this will fail, but the logic of our conversation says this will succeed!

    One of the toughest girl I have ever met...Is like she is the wife of mystogan...

    This picture was taken by a random guy..

    Also this is 2 hour before she has to go to school..

    And is an after-party..we do this in Norway
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    Jookkeee is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: I went to far! Need advice

    Im like refreshing this post once an hour hoping for a reply...Don't just read, come with ideas! thanx

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    Default Re: I went to far! Need advice

    Ahh this is a sticky situation. It honestly sounds to me like she is out doing her own thing and wants to eventually mess around with other guys but feels bad that you're away at work for so long. It's interested to see that she responded to the Freeze Out. Judging by your story it seemed like she would've just forgotten about you but she took that bait which is cool. I feel like you should live like you have nothing to lose and that she has everything to lose. There are plentagainy of other girls out there and if she is really into you and really digs you and your style she will make the initiative to find you...women do love the chase. How old are you and her btw?
    -P!tchWh!te

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    Default Re: I went to far! Need advice

    Yea man, I mean, she is like drinking like hell, hanging out with 10 boys and 3 girls 1 of them, they had a thing once..

    She always tell me to call her, but when I do, I ask if she is busy, she says kind of, and i'll say, speak 2 u later..
    I tried so many different things..Like, I tried ending the conversation, ditching her or whatever..And it would be like

    Me: We'll, Im just chilling tho
    her: Me too, wanna talk to you now
    Me: Sorry my girl, I have to get up early for work, cya<3
    ---Then I logged off, to show her that I can easy survive without her, and trying to make her work for it.
    then she said the next day

    Her: Sorry about yesterday, couldnt reply, I fell asleep!

    many of those things happens, is like shes always a step ahead..
    Might seem a little desperate, but I order an early trip home, told her that in some days, she has to go to my house and retreive a chip for me, and tell me the code over the phone. and when she comes inn, I'll be standing there..That has to turn out great! like a suprise..
    Yea, but, easy I would have dropped out, but she keeps telling me stuffs like "I need you when Im going to the doctor, and receive when I have to take my surgery, I want you there, no one else" RANDOM times she says deep stuffs like that, but the other time, she is just cold and annoying.

    Sticky situation that got no solution?

    I'm 20
    She is 18

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    Default Re: I went to far! Need advice

    it sounds like she is running a pattern of her own to judge your worth to her... if she isnt just some lay and your trying to keep her around i would have to say hang in there... the pattern is great for a pick up but it doesnt really put to much emphasis in the relationship side of things for in most cases this is not the goal of the PUA... if your trying to be with this girl for good your going to have to get into her psyche... its very difficult to do... especially since it sound like she very much enjoys a party.. which for a young relationship can be devastating... i personally would say your better off keeping her on a distant leash and not putting to much thought into her... then when you get back sarge 8-10 women and see if this girl is still resonating in your head if so then romance her... dont just sarge her...

    note: my advice come from extensive experience being a combat soldier constantly deployed...

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    Jookkeee is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: I went to far! Need advice

    I can't man, I'm skipping work, worth 2grand for her, because I think I have a better shoot if I get to her, give her something to want, not just a god damn text conversation and some desperate words, but my head aint functioning when Im talking to her...
    Trying to keep my cool, but need to find the best spot, so I dont overdoe it, or underdo it, too much comfort, she is gone, too less comfort, she is gone, Freeze Out too much, she is gone, to less she is gone.. There are limit to what only texting can do..But I think our "releation ship" is 1 level higher than your thinking...


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