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    Cool Show em what u got

    Fellas, I feel like I've learned a lot about online dating this past week, so just thought I'd share a little:
    Whatever site ur on, when u have the time go 'gung ho' on connecting- a wink, nudge, poke, however the site works. Don't even bother reading their profile if u think they're pretty, because they all describe themselves pretty much the same. Then send an email to a few random girls, preferably to girls that you consider 'out of your league' which in pua terms is, a good catch

    In all honesty though, I've noticed most the girls on the site I'm on at least, are sociable, active, mid-professional girls that are looking for a genuine guy to meet. They have a sense of humor, and hold their guard, but are open because in general they have some reason for being on there: first they should be single, and probably don't have all the time in the world for 'mr. Right' or a good enough (pua) guy to come along, and they probably get hit on by enough AFC's in the bar life.

    So what is a genuine (pua) guy? First of all, he's not needy. You might take 3 hours to respond again, or 3 days. Then if she responds, and gauges ur interest back in email, who knows u might respond in twenty minutes next time.
    You (he) is funny, but not an insecure goofball. You will tease (flirt), and question their being, but you are not a judge.
    You're adventurous, but you know your limits (which u won't mention yet) you have an active social life, but u also don't mind eating cheezballs on the couch

    You don't compliment on looks, cuz that's just farkin AFC. If you've showed interest, then ya of course u thought her pic was cute

    You don't straight up ask for a phone number, but you will lead her to the idea. You don't ask her to go to the movies, you subliminally plant date ideas in her head. She will encourage the idea if u string her along, and you won't wait forever either cuz u can be kinda farkin spontaneous

    I'm in contact with about 5 girls right now, and have gone on one date; 2 weeks after I started this cheesy thing but after all, it's a convenience.
    Looking at it, you can pickup girls, and keep them in proximity on your cell phone!
    Your just a modern man, looking for a decent girl. It just so happens that the internet is another option in your backpocket

    Just a little off my mind, cheers ya'll

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    Default Re: Show em what u got

    Good one man, keep it up

    I would also add that you have to go for the date / hanging out in the first three days (not that it must happen in the first three days, but it must be "asked" in the first three days of convo)

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    Default Re: Show em what u got

    Hey Mika, thanks and good point there.

    Once you've created Attraction over a couple messages or so, you might as well, sooner than later, just ask 'hey when do you want to meetup?'.
    You wanna get a gist of them first, but don't want to turn into pen-pals, especially if you're both looking for a date anyways, and she might even live 2 miles from ya.

    What I posted probably isn't exactly true 'across the board' either, there are different scenarious of course.
    For instance, one slightly older female I'm talking to (34) is trying to connect with me on a pretty serious level (after the flirting and Fluff), because she's at that point I guess, she doesn't care cuz that's what she wants.
    On the other hand, I'm also talking with a younger than me girl, who, is more just fun and flirty so far, and probably isn't looking for something too specific yet.

    Anyways, I better get back there soon, got some new messages now

    Peace

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    Default Re: Show em what u got

    Well, i'll quote BatMan there, because it's one of the more relevant things I've heard:

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    First off I want to say that you may as well be a bit direct with your interest. It is, after all a DATING site, so coming under the radar is practically impossible. It's no better than attending a swingers party and asking someone how the weather is.
    I would actually propose even to the older one to meet; you can connect through direct interaction too no? (even though after 30, you get less LJBF)

    Usually, after the first couple of messages I propose a safe-date: either a coffee date, or a board games club event date. That allows me to "screen" them (them too probably), start to connect, and I then move them to somewhere more interesting if it goes well

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    Default Re: Show em what u got

    Hey thanks again mika, u have another valid point. I did reply to the older girl today, and mostly ioi'd her run down she gave me, bcuz she already did the same- she explained a lot about what she's been thru, and what she's looking for, so I basically said I get it, and let's find a time to meetup. I'm going over email with her still, she sent it to me before her profile went poof

    And the younger/contrary girl lol, just replied too. I mentioned we should trade numbers earlier after qualification, and she seemed to run right over that haha. That's ok though, I'm leading the conversation, dhv'd about traveling recently, and we now have an ongoing joke about ninjas lol.

    Maybe I should put it out there now, but honestly I'm not a very Direct Game kinda guy, but I can try it more. Indirect just works for me better so far.

    I guess I'll just touch base with her in a short reply. I like to really gauge interest first, but I dunno. I don't even really have time for a date this week so whatever I guess, I'm going outta town for the weekend and mostly just workin til then.

    You're encouraging me to be more Direct though, and I appreciate that bro. I won't slow play it too much

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    Default Re: Show em what u got

    Well, I didn't mean that indirect sucked for online dating, just that it need to be less indirect than "normal dating"

    Like, chatting a bit and proposing to hang-out is indirect for me. Because you came up with a discussion opener, and then "went for the kill"

    By opposition with Direct Game, that would be more "Hey, what's up? I love your energy in your pictures, want to go get a drink tonight?" which in my opinion is less efficient in online dating

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    Default Re: Show em what u got

    I see what you mean there, a little something inbetween eh?

    Well I think I should go a little direct here, the younger girl, let's just call her tina, just replied again from last night.
    She said like 4 words ha, showing her response to the the joke in a 'dying thread', in other words I need to open the convo some more I think.
    Any ideas here? I'm sure I will come up with something, but wanna see anything you'd say, since I don't usually go direct.

    She seems the most ideal of the girls I've been talking to, another one came back around, and anothers got kids so eh, lol. Tina needs this pua to drop it like it's hot lol.
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    Default Re: Show em what u got

    Ah, the thing is to usually invite before the death of your thread.. When you see her next answer might be 4 words or so, you still say your thing, but add "btw, want to hang out at some point during the week?", or when she asks you questions (ioi): "well, extensive subject... want to talk about it in front of a coffee at some point during the week?" (I love coffee dates for online dating, it's safe and allows both of you to screen each other, and you can then move to another place)

    I've never managed to get back after this kind of "dying thread", so you might want someone else's opinion haha. But you can:
    - Freeze Out for two-three days, and open a new topic then (not saying you're sorry)
    - Try right now something like "Hm, if you say so... Actually, want to hang out (etc)"

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    Default Re: Show em what u got

    According to my experience in social networks I can say:

    Be mysterious: don't give out so much info about yourself in your profile, 1-2 pics (best pics) should suffice.

    I have 2 profiles in facebook: my main profile is full of my pics, my familiy and real friends, coworkers etc are in my friend list, my personal info is filled completely but I rarely get replies from girls with that profile.

    but I have another profile with a nickname with only 1 picture, no prosonal info, no real friends, I only collect friends with that profile and hit on girls regularly, girls reply with curiosity, and I get laid with 3 girls with it till now, also I have found my girlfriend of 4 month with that profile.

    In chat and conversations be concise, don write 10 lines in a row after each on of her replies, it makes it difficult for her to read all of them and also she may think you are trying hard.

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    Default Re: Show em what u got

    Thanks Mika, I didn't have a reason to freeze her out, so I went pretty direct with it last night. After a few days of chattin back and forth is plenty of reason I'd say, heck it worked for me with the first date I got on there, except that girl sent me her #.
    I probably shoulda thought thru it first, cuz I think my msg. Was a confused arrangment of qualifiers, ioi and might even sound a little AFC. But that's cuz I reopened the same thread lol, shoulda moved past it, but it was a good running joke so whatever.
    I'll probably hear something back tonight, and for now I'll bump you some rep for the extra input!


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