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    Allen705 is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Flakes on 2nd date

    I met this girl a few weeks ago. We had very a great first date that ended in sex. I had to leave for two weeks for training. We texted everyday including four phone calls. We couldn't wait to see each other... So I get back last Saturday. She said she had a family reunion to go to. I got her a gift and asked if she wanted to pick it up before she left. after she didn't respond to my last text i left her alone ....

    She didn't respond so I texted her and shes at a local bar with friends.... This bugged me a lot. Yet I didn't respond in a negative way or tell her this. She had time to go out with friends but she didn't see me. That's why I was upset.

    I ended up setting up a date for the next day....fathers day. Her dad is dead but she flakes on me saying she has family in town because her mother wants them to have dinner and soend rime together and has to cancel with two sad faces....first after that she had bad news and then after the excuse with one....I didn't respond until much later that night asking what time did she get off the next day.

    She didn't respond. So today(Monday) I sent a text with an open ended response like "you're a great woman and I have to see you again. I know you've been busy...when you have time it will be a lot of fun to hang out again. I'm free most evenings this week. Let me know what day works best for you. "


    What can I do to get her back or even texting me again. We had amazing conversations and thought we were on the same page... This is a huge surprise for her to flake on me when I got back. I'm feeling really messed up about it.

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    Default Re: Flakes on 2nd date

    The open ended text would only be good to use if she was being really receptive to you. But since she has been flaking back to back with you there is a possibility you shot yourself in the foot. There could be many things for her acting this way. But my guess is that it's another guy.

    I'm a firm believer that most women need at least one romantic interest in their life so if she's not talking to you, then it is most likely someone else. This isn't the end of anything. This is just supposed to help give you perspective on how she might being seeing things. The only thing you can do is maintain attractive behavior.

    It could also be something like maybe she decided she didn't want to date someone in the military.Whatever the reason you can't do anything about it yourself other than showing her the same attractive fun guy she met. Any techiques we give you will only increase your chances but not guarantee anything.

    At this point my recommendation is a Freeze Out. Assuming that you are not leaving for quite some time I would give it a week or two. In fact if she contacts you this week taking you up on your offer, then think about flaking on her. Make sure it comes across as "I'd love to, but I can't tonight" and not out of spite "I can't. I got something better to do." This will create the reach and challenging feelings she may need from you. Hope this helps and good luck.

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    Default Re: Flakes on 2nd date

    It looks like we are done. She said she wasn't interested in a romantic relationship because she is "too busy" and will be even more busier in the upcoming months.

    I am kinda in the dumps about this...

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    Default Re: Flakes on 2nd date

    Ask her if she just wants to f'ck, if she gave it up on the first date, she may just be looking for a piece of ass and not interested in a relationship.

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    Default Re: Flakes on 2nd date

    In my opinion, if a girl will go there on the first date that easily, she is probably not relationship material and quite skanky. Could keep her around as a f'ck buddy. If she gave it up to you that easy on a 1st date, she's probably doing the same thing with other guys quite often, maybe several times a week. One girl I f'ed a few days ago had a boyfriend, gave the whole speech about not wanting to be a slut, etc... Well, before going home to see her boyfriend, myself and 2 friends took turns f'ing the shit out of her. All I got to say is sex on date 1 or 2 should def raise a red flag when it comes to a girl being relationship material nowadays.

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    Default Re: Flakes on 2nd date

    Quote Originally Posted by ridah28 View Post
    If she gave it up to you that easy on a 1st date, she's probably doing the same thing with other guys quite often, maybe several times a week.
    This ^

    The only time a girl will sleep with you then flake is if a) you are a completely lousy lover b) she has other guys in the picture.

    Follow Ridah's advice - Let her go completely or ask her over for sex.

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    Default Re: Flakes on 2nd date

    Quote Originally Posted by Allen705 View Post
    She said she wasn't interested in a romantic relationship
    maybe u went a little AFC and took things too fast....

    Freeze Out and slow down if she comes back around....

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    Default Re: Flakes on 2nd date

    I brought up the fwb thing and she was unsure about it I then invited her over a few days later...She ended up deleting me from Facebook and stopped responding to text. I moved on...


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