This is one of the big advantage of online game, you can meet situations you haven't met in real life, and learn how to deal with them
Anyway. There's this girl I messaged with:
Yeah, I was drunk. and she had pictures with totally different looks, like tank top + tattoos, then super hipster like look. I was not really expecting an answer, but heh:Heyyyy (yeah, I'm drunk-okcupiding you)
just to say that 94% is a lot, might be a new record
also, it seems like you are switching between a lot of different styles, do you still manage to know what's your own's?
You can already feel the unamusedness, but heh, a reply is an ioi right? So I figured I would just answer:in what sense does it seem like i am switching between a lot of different styles? maybe i don't understand the question?
Ok, I realize this was kind of bad. "normal random college girl" and "almost hipster-ish" are big negs, and there is no calibrating or softening. Anyway, that's when sh1t hit the fan:Well, you switch between a badass look, a "normal random college girl" look, and an almost hipster-ish look, so I was just curious about what the "real" you looked like
So now I'm confused. I think I hit a sensitive spot haha. She is clearly not the kind of girls I date usually anyway, so I don't really care about how it ends up, but I'm curious about what you're supposed to do when there is this kind of lash out.i find it nearly impossible to believe we are a match at all. what a depthy analysis. it's a lot of work to shuffle all these different masks i wear, and the real me struggles to come out.... i just can't decide who to be! but your probably right, i shoudl settle on one stereotype to shove down the throats of everyone i meet, it seems to be working so well for you. if i ever wanna hang out with someone who is french, and more french, and what people want french to mean, and what people think french mean, and more french on top of that - i'll be sure to be in touch. gotta go find myself a stereotype that really fits tho... i'm light years behind you in the whole self image arena. if we were to like meet in a high school cafeteria or something, i'd have a really hard time choosing where to sit, and that'd be embarassing, so.
I see 4 possibilities (the examples are just off the top of my head, so they kind of suck, but you see the idea):
Blocking the attack, which is pretty AFC:
Dodging it:Waow, I just meant to talk about the looks, no need to overreact
Striking back (i.e. negging) :Haha fair point And so you're a teacher?
Taking it in the face, like a man, which is the most PUA I think:Ha, sensitive point eh? Someone's not sure of herself and don't like it to be noticed?
Your opinions? On why she reacted like that, AND how I should answer?Oh, yeah, i'm the biggest french stereotype you will ever meet. The usual french stereotype you see in movies? It's tv producers who came in France and saw me and were like "oh sh!t, this is the frenchest guy ever", and tried to copy me. yesterday a german knocked on my door, I f*cking gave him my house, that's how french I am