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    Default I messed up, help and critisize plz :)

    Hey everyone, im new to all of this so please be kind

    This might be a long post, but i decided to get some help because this keeps happening to me. I meet girls, get their number, txt them for a date and nothing happens. So im thinking my txting is letting me down.

    Anyway, my recent example:

    A few months ago i went to a shop and had a good conversation/flirted a bit with the young bird that worked there, we managed to get to know each other a bit. I was chicken sh_t to ask her out and left it at that.
    Last week went to the store after not going there for a while and she starts talking to me, seems very friendly and chatty and says she remembers me from last time. Again we have a good conversation and get to know more about each other. I was too afraid to ask her out because her co-worker was in the store.


    Yesterday i bump into her in the shops (she is on her lunch break) and she stops to say hello and have a chat. This time i man up and ask if we can do something one day if she is free and can have her number. She agrees, and when i ask her how you want to do this she grabs my mobile and puts in her name and number, so im thinking promising signs. When we say good bye she pats me on the shoulder, which i guess is a good sign.


    I figure when i get home i should text her that she knows its my number, i also in the same text ask her if she wants to go meet up in place X when she is free. Perhaps it was a bit "needy" asking her out a few hours after i got her number, but i figured better send her a txt soon because she does not have my number saved.



    Anyway, 24 hours later, no response. Bit strange considering i have been getting good (i think) signals.

    I guess it would be best for you guys to see the txt i send to the girl:

    "Hey X this is X. When you are free some time it would be great if we can meet up and get to know each other better. Maybe we can meet in they city for a drink and bite when your free?"

    Many thanks for your help guys

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    Default Re: I messed up, help and critisize plz :)

    One word nice. She was nice enough to enter her number in your phone and your response text is also nice. Being the nice guy has the good and the bad. I suffer from this and its something most good men suffer from i guess which is not bad. But what I learnt throughout my solo days is that you be very direct and upfront. Flirting is good for a while but you be straight forward with what you want.

    Next time you meet someone and hold a convo with them be upfront after the flirting, which is that you like them and they are cool. After you get her num or you give her yours, text her to confirm she got it or you got it. After you guys part, based on the conversation you text her, if you have her in the bag then text her in couple days because that shows that you are busy. If she is that type of girl that need some TLC, and you got her number during the weekday or the weekend text her in a few hours telling her that your friend is keeping an event and you want to invite her. You will do it like so:

    "Hey Amanda, it was good meeting you. I forgot to ask you this but, my friend is having [insert event here] and I wanted to invite you. If you are super busy its cool, maybe we can hangout some other time. Have a good one. "
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    Default Re: I messed up, help and critisize plz :)

    Thanks for the response dude.

    Yeah looking back, the first text should have been something like a friendly hi and ask her how her day was or something, hopefully i didn't scare her off or anything.

    I guess, my next question is, what is my next step with this chick? Chances are i will see her again at the shop. I would like to try to ask her out again, or at least try make the conversation lead to that, but i am too worried to come of as some sort of creep, because part of me thinks she just gave me the number to appear "nice" instead of turning me down and saying no.....

    Another problem is she usually works with her manager, and im not brave enough to ask out a girl that way lol

    Sorry if this seems like a bit of one-itis

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    Default Re: I messed up, help and critisize plz :)

    I think you might be rushing it. Well, is the manager a man or woman? Regardless, you can befriend the manager and build a good relationship with both. The point is you want to be the cool guy, not a creep/pervy type guy and the manager can be an indirect wingman. Once you establish this then you friendly invite her out.

    Quote Originally Posted by The Noob View Post
    Thanks for the response dude.

    Yeah looking back, the first text should have been something like a friendly hi and ask her how her day was or something, hopefully i didn't scare her off or anything.

    I guess, my next question is, what is my next step with this chick? Chances are i will see her again at the shop. I would like to try to ask her out again, or at least try make the conversation lead to that, but i am too worried to come of as some sort of creep, because part of me thinks she just gave me the number to appear "nice" instead of turning me down and saying no.....

    Another problem is she usually works with her manager, and im not brave enough to ask out a girl that way lol

    Sorry if this seems like a bit of one-itis
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    Default Re: I messed up, help and critisize plz :)

    My suggestion is to stop with the "maybe's" and go with specifics. What I mean is when asking her out go for something like "Lets meet up for a drink, when's your next day off?" or something like that (alter it based on your previous interactions) Any specific day is a "yes" answer. If she doesn't respond or comes back with "Oh I can't meet up, I'm busy that day" without giving you an alternate you have to decide whether to continue the pursuit or move on (which you have to choose based on your rapport so far).

    I know its old news to simply tell a girl when you are going to meet up, but it honestly works much better than the maybe thing.

    The fact that she approached you while out of her work environment is a nice ioi, but shouldn't be taken as 100% interest. And the fact that you aren't yet comfortable asking her out when her manager is around could be fun to play with, but it could get a little complicated so I think I'll leave off for now.

    Good luck man and hopefully you get the date you are looking for.


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