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    Default Girl at a golf club I just met.

    I'm not sure if this is meant for here, but if mods feel like this should be moved please do,

    Anyway I'm new here and would like to say Hi ....

    So I go to a golf club regularly and they recently hired a uni girl there, All my friends at the club knew her before she came to the club, probably through sister they have because she is a little older than them,

    Anyway I can't get her out of my head, this is good and bad at the same time lol...I've been getting to know her through small talks with have here and there when she is working, I think this is the problem though as the golf club is such a male dominant place it's hard to get to speak to her on her own.

    I do have her as a friend on facebook, added her just after I met her. I want to start chatting to her, but I don't want to say something that is out of the ordinary (I'm quite a shy guy, Well I am till i trust someone, then I start to come out of my shell a bit). I don't want to turn up to the club one day and it's all awkward between us, that is the last thing I want to happen.

    I'm probs making a big deal out of this, I'm not sure how she feels about me, she is asking about what I do etc etc... Also you here them so called tell tell signs that they like you like bumping into to you...playing with hair etc etc....well some of these has happened a bit but being to much of doubter/analyser of things to much I just put it down to 1 of the different variables I come up with, for example....She bumped into me when she came to watch something on a laptop. God this sounds stupid.

    I don't know what I'm really asking here maybe something will come up later but I will just post this for now any questions let me know.

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    Default Re: Girl at a golf club I just met.

    You have to learn not to care about making things awkward. You want her as a FRIEND, or you want to fuck her ?

    If you want want to be friends then don't do anything, and keep things going just as they are. If you want something more then make some moves, do some escalating Kino, some push and pull, etc..

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    Default Re: Girl at a golf club I just met.

    ok things haven't being going as planned basically I'm a pussy when it comes to this lol, I almost plucked up the courage to say something today, but didn't .

    She has gone back to visit her friends at uni for a week so I wont see her for a week or so. I feel like I need to say something though so how bad would it be if I did this through facebook?

    Also what would you say? I have two approaches in mind and willing to hear any others.

    First approach is as follows...

    right I'm probably going to regret saying this sometime down the line but im going to say this now cause if i dont i dont think i ever will ......then go onto asking her out or something.

    Or I can just say something like, hey i kinda like you...you want to go out sometime?

    let me know if you have any suggestions?

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    Default Re: Girl at a golf club I just met.

    Quote Originally Posted by si777 View Post
    ok things haven't being going as planned basically I'm a pussy when it comes to this lol, I almost plucked up the courage to say something today, but didn't .

    She has gone back to visit her friends at uni for a week so I wont see her for a week or so. I feel like I need to say something though so how bad would it be if I did this through facebook?

    Also what would you say? I have two approaches in mind and willing to hear any others.

    First approach is as follows...

    right I'm probably going to regret saying this sometime down the line but im going to say this now cause if i dont i dont think i ever will ......then go onto asking her out or something.

    Or I can just say something like, hey i kinda like you...you want to go out sometime?


    let me know if you have any suggestions?

    Neither one of those...
    It sounds really insecure & timid, which is a turn off to women.

    If you're a bit shy in real life, you CAN practice (and get very good at) being flirty through messaging. The carry-over effect will help your confidence & flirting in real life.

    Now, it sounds like she's giving you some decent signals & showing interest, so that's good.

    I would send a FB message kinda like this, "Heya Golf Girl, I'm seriously craving pizza!! You should totally join me in my epic quest to find the best within a 30 mile radiuus!!"

    Something interesting with a little humor mixed in, and demonstrating confidence & higher value.
    You're not "asking her out".. you're inviting her to come along with you, because you were already going to be doing it.

    Know what I mean?


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    Default Re: Girl at a golf club I just met.

    ok right I think I have some kind of angle to go in with that may be related to yours...

    Recently I accidentally broke her cheap bracelet she was totally cool with it she said just chuck it away, So I did. I do fell bad about this at the time I didn't know it was hers until after I broke it.

    Anyway after this she said right you owe me a Pug (which is a dog)...She keeps bring it up. So I'm thinking like this, Next time she says you owe me a Pug then I can go well come out with me sometime and I will get you one, I'm not sure how she is going to react to this but hopefully she will play along.

    If we go out then I by her a toy Pug, I mean she knows I'm not going to to by her a dog lol...but surprising her with this maybe good.

    any thoughts?

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    Default Re: Girl at a golf club I just met.

    ok things have moved on and not for the good really... I went to her B-day party, I didn't get invited by her directly I was my mates +1 this was a man by the way. Anyway she said to my mate I didn't invite him because I didn't think it was his scene. Which is complete BS because it was a BBQ, hot tub and a load of alcohol and women whose scene wouldn't it be.

    Anyway I turned up and I knew straight away why she didn't invite me. I was doing some research about her online when I was interested in her and whilst I was questioning if she was single this guy always popped up and guess what he was there and was seeing her,

    I'm not 1 to pre judge but this guy is a complete dick. Me and a few others was chilling in the hot tub and he kept on trying to start something with me, Also I'm not 1 to fight I actually hate it, but if someone wants to start something I'm not backing down, but I did in this case he was trying to start something over nothing because he can't handle his alcohol. I also have respect for her and her family they was at the party to. He also referred to her as a HO all night, and at the end started pushing her around whilst he was trying to get at me.

    Anyway maybe he feels threatened or something, he kept on coming over and shaking my hand saying everything is cool between us then 5 mins later he wants to start something this happened like 5 times. I also thought he was going to hit my mate with a bottle this was before he chucked a glass at me but failed so bad .

    The good thing about this, we was sitting in the hot tub and she was sat with him, then I jumped in and then she jumped right over to me, sounds silly but maybe its something.

    The thing is I'm probably going to give up with her, she never told me about seeing anyone else. I mean I didn't ever ask but after all the conversations you would of thought she would of mentioned this.


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