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    Default Get them to come inside at end of date

    Hi,

    So lately I have been telling girls I am going out with to meet me at my place and we will go together. Either walk to somewhere good near me or drive. When they get to my place I tell them "Hey, come inside, I'm just finishing something up . . . ". I do this to try and make them comfortable with being in my apartment, etc. I also have a nice place and girls always seem impressed when they come in.

    I give them the tour, if it seems like there is enough comfort, make-out some, try and quickly escalate Kino and then easily keep that going through the entire night.

    The question is, at the end of the night, how do I get them to come back in so I can F-close? I generally save the "meet at my place" for 2nd dates and I always hate not F-closing once they are already at my place at the start of the date, but I have found that I encounter a lot of LMR issues if I don't give it more time (makes a lot of sense, and if the girl wants to take things slower just re-enforces her concerns with coming in initially in the first place).

    In the past I have invited the girls in to help me decide where I should hang some new art. That actually worked twice, but only on girls that are into art. Generally we get back to my place and they go for the kiss goodnight and then to their car.

    Maybe I am staying out too late with them and should get them back to my place earlier in the evening? Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. I feel like I am so close to having a pretty clean system if I can get some great moves to get them to come back inside. I have two girls this weekend I'd love to try it on.

    Thanks a lot!

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    Default Re: Get them to come inside at end of date

    Hey Man,

    It's all about the frame. You need to have the assumption that she is coming inside. If she hesitates, it's not your fault she's being a weirdo. Here's a thread on how to fight LMR before ever actually hitting it.

    I'm pretty sure Bill has a product on this called The Last 10 Yards. Ask him about it. Not only is Bill a good PUA, he's a good teacher.
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    Default Re: Get them to come inside at end of date

    Thanks for the response! Great thread you posted btw, thanks for that. I'll look into The Last 10 Yards, that is exactly where I am dropping the ball.

    On the topic of Inception style qualification planting in this situation - Any qualification ideas/ samples for a 2nd date LTR type of girl? (I am at the point where this is what I am looking for, however I am not trying to have a total AFC number of dates before F-closing). The examples in your thread are fantastic for ONS, though I am sure some of them would apply to the type of girl I am talking about as well.

    Thanks a lot! I am slowly getting better thanks to this forum, though I have a ton to practice and learn still.

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    Default Re: Get them to come inside at end of date

    So you mean inception-style qualification for a D2 with a girl that you want an LTR with? Am I understanding that right?
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    Default Re: Get them to come inside at end of date

    Yes, it is D2 and I am open to LTR. As you said in your thread, choose your target appropriately, which based on what I am going for seems to be the girls I am hanging out with.

    I guess my D2 game is weak/ there is a new set of techniques I should be using after getting past a good D1. I think some of this is because I really spent a lot of time focusing on getting D1 really solid. Now that I have that, I need to evolve what I am doing further. I do have strong D2s, it's just F-closing/ taking them to another level is where I am getting stuck.

    Is my question crazy? Is inception-style qualification for a D2 with a girl that I may want an LTR with the wrong tool for the job?

    Thank you.

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    Default Re: Get them to come inside at end of date

    I just wanted to make sure I understood you right. I thought you might have meant you were trying to get an f-close on a D2 with a woman who is LTR material, which would be a different story.

    And if you are now looking for a LTR, you might also want to consider the effects of the tactics you are using on your wom(a/e)n of choice. I always want to bring that point up before a guy considers going exclusive with a girl. The same applies to Boyfriend Destroying. There are women that you just want to play with, and there are women that you would like to date exclusively. If they are both, you're going to run into problems. I would never date a woman I could BF Destroy. I'll f*ck around with them, but never go exclusive. If I could do it to her, it could happen to me. Same goes with the f-close. If I can get a ONS, I probably don't want to date that girl. Consider the effects of your tactics.

    I definitely think this could work with D2s and LTRs. Just apply the same principle to your specific interest. Go with the topics of relationship expectations, past relationships, and future plans & goals. Get her to unveil her view on these then hold her to her word if and when she qualifies.

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    Default Re: Get them to come inside at end of date

    Thanks for that!

    Do you think trying to F-close a D2 who may be LTR material is a mistake? I personally am looking for a LTR right now, but I also don't want to waste my time on lots of dates and not even get a F-close with a girl that A. Could decide she is no longer interested, B. I decide I'm not into it anymore, C. Not a fun girl to F-close/ there can always be surprises. So even if it is LTR material, isn't it better to just get the F-close handled ASAP just to get a lot of that out of the way?

    All that said, I have had several LTR candidates give me LMR on 2nd and 3rd dates that I have worked through for that night, but it caused problems for any future with them, so maybe it is too pushy. I just think we are all adults, we are into each other, you are in my bed making-out with me, etc, what are we doing?

    Your ideas sound good, I think there is huge potential if I am creative enough to figure out how to use it right.

    On getting these girls to come in at the end, I think your way is the best - just walk in with the assumption she is coming inside. If she is like "I should go" or "What are we doing now?", etc. what are some good responses?

    If I planted some of the adventurous, outgoing likes to enjoy life, your not one of those people who over think every single thing they do are you? qualifications I could call out one of those I suppose.

    Thanks a lot for your help, I've read a lot of your posts. You are on it!

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    Default Re: Get them to come inside at end of date

    Thanks Man,

    I D2 f-closed my current girlfriend. Does that answer your question? Lol, but honestly, there probably was a time when I would have said I see it as a mistake. But when you're good, these girls don't stand a chance.

    Her: "I should go."

    You: "You're damn right you should! Get out of here!" *Start shoving her off and hurrying her to leave*

    You: "Alright, see ya." Start walking away, but after a second or two turn around and Kino, saying that you were just messing with her.

    You: "We should do a lot of things. Come on." Give her a wink. Lead her inside; lead her to bed, etc.




    Her: "What are we doing now?"

    You: "What do you think we're doing now?" Ask it in a mocking, rhetorical way. Come on, you both know that you're gonna do stuff.

    You: "I'm about to do all the things that every other guy was too afraid to do." Make your move.

    You: "We're gonna DO IT!" Then pounce on her.

    You: "Well, I was thinking about ripping your pants off. I haven't decided yet."




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    Default Re: Get them to come inside at end of date

    It's probably better to not have them meet at your place, you should rather have them meet somewhere near your place...preferably walking distance. Then find another 2-3 spots that will lead back to your place. I.E. have them meet at a coffee shop, then ask them if they want to go to a bar or the beach or something else fun nearby. When you switch venues it builds a lot more comfort as you probably know (1 hour in 3 diff venues builds more comfort than 5 hours in the same venue) Then you can just find a justified reason why they should come back to your place. Any reason. You could be near your house and just say you have to use the bathroom. Or something reminded of you a movie you really want to see that you happen to have. Or you want to show them your awesome ____ (fill in the blank w something cool they'd want to see)

    A fun disqualifier that works is "but don't expect anything to happen. I don't have sex on the first date"

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    Default Re: Get them to come inside at end of date

    Thank you guys for all the info and ideas. Worked great yesterday, F-close! So thanks guys. Tonights girl flaked, so we shall see how that works out . . .

    I'll take tonight to relax and read and learn more.


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