I honestly don’t understand why we have an entire section devoted to Text Game. There are many other (better) topics that could be broken down and exploited: Qualification, Pre-Selection, Anti-Flaking Tactics, …anything really. Texting shouldn’t be broken down because it doesn’t NEED to be broken down. Most of you guys are turning it into something more than what it is. What do I mean by that? I mean you’re texting too much.
Did you get that? Let me say it again. You’re texting too much.
Why do I say that?
Because The ONLY goal of texting should be to set up your next interaction.
That’s it. Not to build comfort. Not to build rapport. To set up your D2. That’s it. Capisce?
You should literally be able send a handful of texts after your previous interaction to properly initiate your second. How? Because you told her you would text her the next time you wanted to see her.
So let’s say I met this girl in one of my classes and told her we were going to have a study date before our next test.
Me: “7:00pm, NE corner of The Union, Thursday. Bring your books and prepare yourself. I take this sh*t seriously ”
Don’t over think it. “Cody, don’t you think I should ask her? Like, when is she free and when is it going to be convenient for her?” No, I don’t. Actually, stop asking girls anything (for the most part). They want you to be decisive and make decisions. If they’re going to say no or change plans because it won’t work for them, they’re going to do so regardless of whether you asked them or told them, so just tell them instead of asking because it ups your chances.
If you still need convinced on WHY you should lower the amount of your texting, let me tell you the two walls that you’re going to hit from texting too much.
1. You’re going to f*ck up. You are. The more you talk, the more likely you are to say something that she doesn’t like, and since all of this is happening on a screen you can’t easily recover. She’ll flake at the click of a button.
2. You’re going to create a false sense of intimacy that cannot be matched in person, and this is the one that guys always think comes out of nowhere. Why? Because you think you’re doing great, and to a certain extent you are! But it’s on a different level; an emotional level, and once you meet up again it’s going to be awkward. Really awkward, because you haven’t matched it with physicality. That’s why Kino is important. You can’t build emotional comfort separately from physical comfort while expecting no negative (bad/awkward) tension. You can try, but I can almost guarantee that you’re going to hit LMR. [Granted, a select few of you won’t because you know/have learned how to properly implement a power frame, but you guys are few and far between. If that’s you, why are you reading this anyway? Go have sex.]
So text less. Get to the point and don’t waste her time on the phone when you can be enjoying it together in person.
[Note:] I know the last section will probably be difficult to understand. If you want more on it, I’m willing to give it, but only with fair warning that it is advanced theory. I explained the easy, more often travelled way. Power framing is hard and not for everybody.