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Thread: My Success with Online Dating

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    Default My Success with Online Dating

    Hello everyone! I got into the online dating game about a month and a half ago and have had a good amount of success. So, I figured I'd share with you what I have done. Feel free to take any tips, techniques, or critique my methods. Just for reference, I've found the most success on okcupid. I have a profile on Zoosk and PoF as well, but don't like them as much. On Zoosk, since you pay for more than one message, you can move to texting pretty quick but it's harder to turn it into an in person meeting in my opinion. As for PoF, I just have not found success and can't put my finger as to why. Regardless, I have the same things written on each profile.

    First, have your profile fully filled out. BUT DO NOT have too much written. Girls read your profile but not if it's too wordy. I have two short paragraphs written. The first is just a little about my current life (where I go to school and what for, what I like to do in my free time, music, movies, etc.). The second is about my goals in life. Since all sites have different things for the rest of the sections, I'll just give a quick tip that I've found works. Keep everything short. One sentence is ideal, two sentences MAXIMUM. This stuff is just so others can see what you have in common. For the most part, people just glance through it, not really reading it.

    Second, make sure you have multiple pictures of yourself. Just one picture is not going to cut it for these girls. I'd suggest at least one that is a picture of just you and another with you and friends, out, having a good time. Build your social proof through your pictures.

    Third, so now that you have your profile, message everyone you have the slightest interest in. Just as in going to the bar, this is all about numbers. If you only message five girls, you might get a response but there's a pretty good chance you won't. If you message 100, you're almost guaranteed to get a response.

    Fourth, time to make your message be the one she'll respond to. Based on what girls have told me, they can get hundreds of messages a day (I met up with a girl I had met on OkC last night, she told me that she had gotten over 200 messages the first day. I didn't believe her, but she showed me, and it was true!). So how do you make yourself the one she responds to? Straight Indirect Game. Here's some tips:

    1. NEVER tell her she is cute, attractive, beautiful, hott, anything. Do not compliment her about anything. I have only had one girl respond when I gave a compliment and she was boring, I quickly lost interest. It doesn't matter what else you say in your message. If you compliment her, chances are she's not going to respond.
    2. Read her ENTIRE profile (no matter how long it is) and ask her something about something she mentioned. I've found it best to mention something between 1/2 and 3/4 down her about me. Mentioning something from the beginning could mean to her you just read a few lines. Something from the end could mean the same. Something from the middle means you read it all, which is something girls love.
    3. Move to the phone quickly. I'll typically move to the phone in about 15 messages. This allows you to talk more and secure a date faster, which is something I've found very important which leads me to...
    4. Set up a date as fast as you can. I've found that the best way to do this is build the comfort quickly then turn things sexual. Start with an innocent sex question. "Do you like sex?" Obviously, the answer is yes. But you are not saying that you want to sleep with her. However, you both know that's what you're getting at, but she only realizes this subconsciously. She'll be more willing to meet you.
    5. Make sure that you set up the date within a week of you starting to talk (when the date takes place should be within a week, not you asking her). The only girls that I have been able to secure a date with, it happened within a week of us talking. There have been others that were more than a week, but they all have flaked.

    Follow these steps and hopefully you'll find success as I have!

    Feel free to critique any part of this. I'm always open to learning and improving my game, so any tips are welcomed!

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    Default Re: My Success with Online Dating

    Good thread. Too bad Online dating hasn't been very good to me.

    I'm not very photogenic. I look much better in person. It's just weird.

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    Default Re: My Success with Online Dating

    Yea I agree about compliments. If you show the slightest bit of interest that indicates that they KNOW they could have you, like if you say oh you're so pretty you're guaranteed to not get a response unless you're like an astronaut doctor model who makes 15 billion a year. Or I guess if they're really ugly that might work but I don't message ugly girls.

    Best results have been like you said, indirectly asking them a question about something they said in their profile.

    Although I have had decent results from somewhat more direct stuff like if they have a lot of commonalities with you, and it's stuff that you genuinely really like in a girl you can do something like

    "a girl who plays guitar, loves family guy, and plays video games...sorry I'm not buying it, who are you really, some 40 yr old pervert trying to molest me?"

    that's about as direct as you can get

    The most important thing is to show them why you decided to message them out of all the other girls, and something that doesn't have to do with their looks.

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    Default Re: My Success with Online Dating

    Quote Originally Posted by chillout24 View Post
    "a girl who plays guitar, loves family guy, and plays video games...sorry I'm not buying it, who are you really, some 40 yr old pervert trying to molest me?"
    That's good, i'm taking that one

    Sometimes, you might have to make a compliment, but then comment her pictures, and about her style (like the dress, the haircut, the place she is), not her actual looks; the basic line is that you don't like what she is, you like who she is

    I've managed sometimes the direct approach of "Listen, i'm tired of trying to go under the radar. You look like a great girl, I'm a great guy, let's hang out this week-end".

    Regarding that, I tend to go for the date before even getting the number, like when she asks you a quite open question, I go with "waow, yeah, but that's too big a subject there haha Want to meet at [my magic date location]for coffee during the week-end?". Usually it works and they give me their number without me asking, and even if they can't, they tend to keep talking (even though it dies soon), and I still have other girls to invite And I don't overfill my phone with random numbers, which is a definite plus haha

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    Thumbs up Re: My Success with Online Dating

    Wow this will help my online game a lot. I started surfing on POF 3 days ago, i will try to follow your advice!

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    Default Re: My Success with Online Dating

    Any updates from anyone? This is a great thread, but I just feel like it needs more. My problem isn't getting women online, because anytime a girl adds me on Facebook I get her number and a date with ease. The problem is, I don't add randoms and get their number because I have noticed A. girls tend to see guys doing that as creeps, B. I feel like it is more of a place for friends, but if the girl initiates I have no problem with it. Now that being said the biggest problem I have about committing to plenty of fish is everytime I just browse (I haven't created an account yet) to see what quality girls are on there I see a few girls I have hooked up with and they are well connected vengeful gossip girls haha. I don't want it getting out I have a dating profile you know what I mean? any takes on this


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