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    Default Struggling to setup date

    Hey guys,

    So i got this girls number this weekend at a bar. She was walking around looking lost so i approached her and she explained she was new to town, etc etc. I ended up getting her number and we briefly spoke about twitter, and whatnot. So yesterday i texted her saying #whatup

    She responded "just got out of acting class. i should've tweeted about it so you would've known."

    i thought of playing into it saying "yeah you're my social media correspondent now, how else am i gonna know whats going on? So what do you got going on this week."

    Then i think she iced me out. "My family just got into town and is here all week. So lots of bonding time."

    Any help in picking this back up? Or is this dead?

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    Default Re: Struggling to setup date

    TenaciousT,

    Don't ever open with what's up, what up, how are you doing? ....NO ONE CARES about that crap, and it's just awkward, and uncomfortable. Even in person, they're not very good openers. I wouldn't even advise them with a friend.

    Beside, why are you going to give this girl the time of day when you send her whatup and she simply says you should have checked her twitter.

    That right there was a shit test, and you failed because she's already pushing the limits to see how far she can go with you.

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    Default Re: Struggling to setup date

    sorry, i guess the level of sarcasm was lost. The #whatup is playing off the hashtag idea with twitter. Also, her twitter thing was a joke, not literal. That's been part of the flirting the whole time. I wouldn't just open with what up, rather i'm using the hashtag to reference our flirting on the first time i met her, where she was talking about social media.

    Either way, i know i could have a better opening, but i was trying to be short and funny at the same time and it seemed to fit.

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    Default Re: Struggling to setup date

    Rule #2. It is NEVER dead (Rule #1. Girls are stupid)

    Sometimes I leave girls for weeks or even a solid month, then re-open...

    I agree, never open with whats up.. Its kind of a dead end... Does not leave them with anything to reply to... they need help!

    I get the hash tag reference... but maybe something more creative would be better..
    #local411 fun week coming up, reply "YES" to find out whats on schedule

    That way its a very easy YES for her to reply, she doesn't have to think.. I love keeping things very simple at first until they are more invested in me.

    The family in town, could be Sh1t Test or could be legit.. does not really matter.. if your text's are enjoyable she will always make time for them...

    Also just because you were flirting with twiitter, sometimes continuing on with a old joke that she wasn't really into can be dlv and kill the attraction. SO maybe drop the twitter for a few days and then bring it up in convo and see if she laughs or reacts to it.


    So ignor the social media crap, ignor the family crap, and dont invite her out, jsut re-open her .. something weird or off the wall.. never be afraid to cold-reopen.. Sometimes I will cold re-open girls 2-3 times untill I find what 'clicks' and they latch on to.
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    Default Re: Struggling to setup date

    Yep, as Mobileae said, you have to learn not to overuse a joke, you have to keep them on their toes, be surprising and stuff, always bring new stuff when she would have expected old stuff, and old stuff when she would have expected new stuff

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    Default Re: Struggling to setup date

    Hey OP good post. Either way I think this girl is playing you like they said. I hate when girls do this but it helps us grow and become quicker on our toes. The thing of it is going for the meet up is the end goal not the sole pursuit. The sole pursuit is keeping her invested which is always a challenge for me. I often try to say things just to see if she is invested or will invest and it usually backfires sadly. But still I think you got a chance with this chick, just keep it very casual at first. I was texting this girl all hot and heavy and then she just vanished. So it's better I guess to hit her up less often than you normally would. You don't want her to keep flaking on you because that will get you stuck in the friend zone quick.

    Best be like super cool man around her and act like this sh1t doesn't matter to you hopefully that will catch her off guard.

    Maybe when she blew you off like that you could say something like
    "Well I had plans anyway, I'm going to go have myself a good time at (...) while you are stuck with family!"

    So bust her on her sh1t and don't give into her power grab. Getting it going intially is a very difficult phase to be in since she has tons of other guys fighting for her attention. Stand out as the cool dude who is not affected by her B.S. and keep spinning plates with meeting other chicks to build up your reserves.

    The best thing right now for you is to throw her an IOD about her blowing you off like that and ignore her for a week like she said since you won't get very far bugging her while she's already brushed you aside.


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