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    Default Texted her w/ no text back...want to see what shes doing tonight.

    I recently got a pretty smooth Number Close from a HB8. I texted her 2 days later w/ no response at all and I told her I wanted to take her out for drinks. Unfortunately when I had first met her I didn't give her my number and I didn't have that strong of an "inside joke" with her to remind her that it was me texting her at first.

    It's Friday now and I'm obviously goin out to the bars/clubs and wanna shoot her a playful text to see if shes doing anything.

    Does anyone have anything "smooth" I can say that doesn't make me look needy? Even after I already texted her w/ no text back?

    Thanks guys.

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    Default Re: Texted her w/ no text back...want to see what shes doing tonight.

    So if I read this right.....she still doesn't know that it was you that shot her the text?

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    Default Re: Texted her w/ no text back...want to see what shes doing tonight.

    Thanks for the quick reply! Sorry I should have mentioned it, but in my first text (which she never responded back to) I told her who it was and said we should grab a drink some time...I would never in a million years show neediness towards a girl that blows me off but this ones different, is there anything I could say to her that doesn't come off as needy and dlv?

    Thanks again guys.

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    Default Re: Texted her w/ no text back...want to see what shes doing tonight.

    "Hi, it's ...., we met at ...... a few days ago. Hows it going?". Something along that line to get a 1st response. If she doesn't respond to that, then she may not remember you. If she responds, then she may remember you so roll with it.

    Her:
    "Good, busy day, how are you?".

    You:
    "I'm good, (then say what you are up to, "working" or "hanging out with a friend")

    Key is to keep it simple and just arrange a meetup after a few small talk type texts. No need for anything fancy with texts. If she was attracted to you at all when she gave you her number, she will probably be ok with meeting you.

    Fancy, canned type texts don't seem to work for me, simple small talk for a few texts then arranging a meetup seems to be the recipe that has worked.

    Some may think it's AFC, but 9 times out of 10 this type of texting lands me a meetup. Then, after the meetup (or before the meetup, but after agreeing to meetup) I try to transition into a more flirtatious vibe.
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    Default Re: Texted her w/ no text back...want to see what shes doing tonight.

    It's better to tell what's going on after you reflect on your first meeting. It's ideal to reach some level of attraction and comfort. Granted there are times you can literally just hand a woman your number without exchanging anything more than just names. This is just taking a chance is all. To increase chances you want to try and reach a level of comfort or connection. Also understand that it could be any reason she did not respond. Ex bf, broken phone, out of the country, pregnant, and the list is pretty much infinite. So your main focus is to make sure your first impression is solid and has an impact...not so much about getting the phone number. It's an afterthought.

    So for you current situation there isn't much you can do except make yourself known to her (like you did) and send a casual public invite. Ex: Hey I'm going out with some friends to our usual place. You can wear something nice, but you'd be uncomfortable in heels. Fare warning " Send something like this about once a week or every two weeks. May not happen as fast as you like, but if she eventually takes the bait, then grab the bull by the horns! .....so to speak.

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    Default Re: Texted her w/ no text back...want to see what shes doing tonight.

    Is there anything specific you two talked about?
    Or about her? (clothing / hair / height / what she was drinking??? etc...

    You can use that as part of the message, & then make a funny/silly comment about it, with the goal of getting her to text back.
    Once she does, THEN you can work the logistics & details of getting her to meet up.

    But, it sounds like the #1 priority is to get her to reply right now.


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    Default Re: Texted her w/ no text back...want to see what shes doing tonight.

    If you do meetup, one thing that has been working great for me lately on first dates is to incorporate "Sinn's 10 questions that need to be answered before sex".



    Lately, I've been setting up my first dates to be all about getting these 10 questions answered, plus an 11th one I throw in "have you ever been in love".

    Learn and memorize the 10 questions and make sure to cover each one of these areas during conversation. Let it naturally flow, like "I've got a younger brother, he and I get along great" (answers question about having brothers or sisters). You can even ask her the questions, like "What's your passion" so that way she will ask "how about you". Boom, another one covered. I wouldn't outright ask her all these questions directly, maybe 2-3. I just slip the answers into already flowing conversation (which I steer to set myself up to be able to put the answer in), that way she doesn't have to ask and it doesn't seem like an interview.

    I suggest you lie about how long your longest relationship has been if you've never had a relationship longer than 1 year. If you are in your early 20's you can probably get away with stating a shorter time-span, but late 20's to 30's will raise red flags with a girl if you've never been a relationship over a year.
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    Default Re: Texted her w/ no text back...want to see what shes doing tonight.

    I agree that Sinn has some fantastic techniques for live interaction...
    I bought his "seduction roadmap" course & have used several ideas in my meetups, with great success.
    If "Getting laid" is your goal, then I do recommend checking it out.

    However; if you're still stuck trying to get her to respond to a text so you can set up a real life meeting, then you need to fix your text game first.

    The coo thing about getting good at texting women is, the same techniques/ideas work in emails, AND in face to face convos!
    When your text game is sharp,. your face to face technique will also improve.
    (Unless I'm an exception to the rule & had a freak bonus side effect..... which I doubt is the case.)

    With texting, don't try to be smooth..... just be interesting!


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    Default Re: Texted her w/ no text back...want to see what shes doing tonight.

    Guys,

    Thanks for the awesome responses and I did get a response back after texting her but not really what I was hoping for..

    I ended up getting the generic one word response of "Yup!" after asking if she was working.

    Another side note, apparently a good friend of mine was drunk at the bar and was talking to her about me...(which blows because now I probably look needy and telling all my buddies about her)...BUT, she said I was cute but she was worried about the age! (Shes 27 and I'm 21). Anything I can do from here guys? Or should I just cut off all contact? The thing that gets in the way is that shes a bartender at a bar I always go to and now every time I stop by for a drink it probably looks like I'm there to see her, thus appearing needy.

    Any additional help would be great!!

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    Default Re: Texted her w/ no text back...want to see what shes doing tonight.

    I would play the age thing like this:
    Even though she's older than you... and older than the girls you normally are interested in, she's actually cool enough that it doesn't matter to you.

    Make it more about her being older, (almost too old) rather than you being too young for her.

    Also, avoid the "boring texts" like "are you working?"
    Instead, say something like "So, I assume you're slaving away at work... that's a bummer because I'm about to order the most amazing *insert food of choice here* on the planet... save you a bite? "


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