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    Default Lying about age, should I be concerned

    Ive been in a relationship with my girl for 4 months now. Just the other day I learned she was 18 instead of 19 like she told me. I'm older than her. I figured she lied probably because she did not think I would be into her. What changes the dynamic of this is that she did not come out right and tell me her age, I found out another way.

    First thought that comes to mind "if she's lying about this what else is she lying about?" Tell me what you guys think and what should I do?

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    Default Re: Lying about age

    I haven't had experience with girls who lied about their age, but I have lied about my own age before if my intent wasn't on dating (I was meeting girls who were 22-24 while I was 19/20 at the time.)

    So with that said, she probably just did it because she felt insecure and didn't think too deep into the consequences. I would just confront her to see if that's the case and if she genuinely feels sorry. But if she tries to play it off as no big deal, then she probably thinks other "white lies" are okay too.

    She's young so probably like me; going on life one mistake at a time.

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    Default Re: Lying about age

    When I was 18 I met a girl in my high school who said she was 17 but really 15. I eventually found out and thought the same thing. We ended up being together for 3 1/2 years and we almost married. She was the most loyal woman I've dated and our eventual breakup had nothing to do with her lieing about her age.

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    Default Re: Lying about age

    This reminds me of several lies about age in my experience. I recently friend-zoned a Thai HB who lied about her age by 7yrs (& several other things). She was 37 claiming to be 30. A while back, I worked at a teen concert & before we interviewed a group of very young, scantily-clad fans, I heard their ring-leader say, "OK, we're all 16. Ok?"

    Age is always a huge deal for females. Older ones want to be younger. Younger ones want to be older. Mid 20s might be the only time in a woman's pre-menopausal life that she's comfortable with her age.

    Your girl is young enough that the lie could be a result of SGS (silly girl syndrome) rather than bad character. If you really like her, let her know lies are not acceptable then forgive her & do not bring it up as a guilt trip. I have made that mistake.

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    Default Re: Lying about age

    [QUOTE=DareMe;48460
    Your girl is young enough that the lie could be a result of SGS (silly girl syndrome) rather than bad character. If you really like her, let her know lies are not acceptable then forgive her & do not bring it up as a guilt trip. I have made that mistake.[/QUOTE]

    Quote Originally Posted by dimike View Post
    I haven't had experience with girls who lied about their age, but I have lied about my own age before if my intent wasn't on dating (I was meeting girls who were 22-24 while I was 19/20 at the time.)

    So with that said, she probably just did it because she felt insecure and didn't think too deep into the consequences. I would just confront her to see if that's the case and if she genuinely feels sorry. But if she tries to play it off as no big deal, then she probably thinks other "white lies" are okay too.

    She's young so probably like me; going on life one mistake at a time.
    I thought this might be the case, and that what it turned out to be. I have never lied about my age. I tell women that "age is nothing but a number." Usually, at least for me it works to my advantage if their older even if its a couple years difference.

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    Default Re: Lying about age

    Accidentally double posted, how do I delete this one?

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    Default Re: Lying about age

    I only started lying about my age due to insecurities after being with this one girl. It took forever to f-close as she would always bring up how she has always been with older men and that I'm the same age as her little brother.

    Lying about my age didn't get me anywhere either so I stopped soon after.

    Age is a factor for initial attraction though just like how looks matter. It doesn't mean anything in the long-run, but it matters. You can even see this in online dating sites as girls 21-23 are almost always looking for guys the same age or older than them.

    In fact, my current gf even told me she was turned off when I first told her my age. However, after getting to know me, she realized that I was quite mature for my age and since then, we would always even forget that we even have an age gap.

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    Default Re: Lying about age

    Lying is unacceptable. Especially with age and other things. Small lies maybe I could tolerate but to lie about age? Once a person lies to me I don't trust them at all with anything else.
    I would end it.

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    Default Re: Lying about age, should I be concerned

    GTTuner17,

    Wouldn't think that much of it. Who knows, maybe she did it to try and impress you at first?

    Play it off cool, as most guys will tend to freak out and go ape shit on her ass.

    Regards,

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    Cool Re: Lying about age

    Quote Originally Posted by CrazyCanuckz View Post
    Lying is unacceptable. Especially with age and other things. Small lies maybe I could tolerate but to lie about age? Once a person lies to me I don't trust them at all with anything else.
    I would end it.
    For me it's not a deal-breaker. I'd count it as a yellow flag. One year? I've known people who get confused (just had a birthday or whatever) and say one year off in either direction (usually younger for girl and older for guys). If it was a couple of years, I'd just count it as a red flag and watch for others.

    Having been a young guy who liked older women, I know that we all get a little insecure from time-to-time. Because I'm a salsa dancer, I go to all ages events. However, I'm not interested in anyone under 21. If a gal tells me that she's under 21, I'll still dance with her, but I won't get her # or Kino-escalate.

    Is SGS (silly girl syndrome) a well-known PUA term? I've definitely seen this.


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