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Thread: Texting do's & don'ts.. the "Conversational Bible"

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    Default Re: Texting do's & don'ts.. the "Conversational Bible"

    Would love a link to the download. PM sent!

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    Default Re: Texting do's & don'ts.. the "Conversational Bible"

    From all the positive comments, I'm interested in checking out this guide!

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    Default Re: Texting do's & don'ts.. the "Conversational Bible"

    This is pure gold! I need the link to the e-book!

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    Default Re: Texting do's & don'ts.. the "Conversational Bible"

    Great thread dude! Very informative; I'm going to try this asap!

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    Default Re: Texting do's & don'ts.. the "Conversational Bible"

    I have a question, I realized when texting a girl "how are you" they never really say the truth, they just reply with "Fine. I've been good, you?" What if you have not talked to this girl for weeks or even months? Is it ok to ask her how she is doing?

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    Default Re: Texting do's & don'ts.. the "Conversational Bible"

    Quote Originally Posted by Forielz View Post
    I have a question, I realized when texting a girl "how are you" they never really say the truth, they just reply with "Fine. I've been good, you?" What if you have not talked to this girl for weeks or even months? Is it ok to ask her how she is doing?
    I never ask a girl "how are you". I prefer "What sort of trouble you're causing?" "Who are you hacking rigth now?" or "Amaze me with something, how's it hangin'?".

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    Default Re: Texting do's & don'ts.. the "Conversational Bible"

    Ok I'm completely new to this and to be honest, this is my first post!!

    I don't really know what I'm doing but I've been trying to work on POF for the last few days and I have had some success although not with any HB9 or HB10 yet! I seem to be wary of playing cockey with them cause I just feel like they are gonna tell me to just do one being as though they have the power to dismiss any guy they want! Anyways this was a conversation with a HB6 I had on POF which worked a treat, even before I had read any of the techniques on here:

    Before I messages her I checked out her profile - it was a pretty normal boring girly profile - I like going to gigs, I like art, I like blah blah blah - I want a man who's funny, exciting interesting blah blah blah blah - but on her profile she also put please use proper spelling and grammar as I hate people that don't type messages correctly so I looked through her profile and noticed a grammar mistake, this is how I opened her:

    Me:
    There is a spelling mistake in your profile thing

    Her:
    Ha! Is there? What is it then?

    Me:
    Ha! I noticed you hate spelling mistake (hence why I'm checking mine as I type) yours is not so much a spelling mistake other than the word "aslong" does not exist - it's actually "as long" - annoying when people correct you right!!! Haha!! I'm just messing with you!

    Her:
    Ha! Ha! I know your playing, I like it! and I just scanned through it to triple check!! Cheeky monkey!! I never spell "aslong" correctly.....naught y me! It is annoying but I'll let you off as you are the first guy to spot it! I guess I should say thanks.....but I'm not changing it

    Me:
    Ha! I've buggered myself up though because I've now got to watch my spelling d'oh!!

    Her:
    You really do now!! I'm expecting excellent A grade spelling as you are so eagle eyed!! but as I can't even get "aslong" correct I think you might be ok ha ha!

    Me:
    I'm gonna blame it on auto-correct if I do! I'm an excellent speler (intentional spelling mistake) I've own countless competitions!

    Me:
    SPELLER!! SPELLER!! D'oh!!

    Her:
    Ha! Ha! Wolly! As if I actually lol'd at that!!! I'm not allowing auto-correct as an excuse!

    Me:
    Ohh what? You can't do that!! Auto- correct is a way of life now! It's as important as the invention of the wheel!! In fact if auto correct was a wheel it would be square - it works and it serves a purpose, but it's a bit of a bumpy ride!

    Her:
    And that bumpy ride is precisely why I don't use it! Ha! Ha! It's so random but so funny sometimes! maybe I should let you keep it on just for potential pointing and laughing!?

    Me:
    Ha! Yeah it's damn funny sometimes! So your a boarder chick! Nice one! ( high five----don't leave me hanging!)

    We continued the conversation about snowboarding for a while I think it went onto the next evening in which case we both kept picking up on small grammar errors and spelling mistakes and she kept dropping me IOI's about how I must be getting loads of messages from girls - I felt it was time to try and get a Number Close and it went like this:

    Me:
    So any ideas how we can communicate outside of POF?

    Her:
    Ummmmmmmm pigeon post ok with you? Or you could go old school and give me your number if you want to of course?

    Me:
    Best not to write though being as though you can't spell for sh*t

    Her:
    P*ss of you!! Lol

    Me:
    (I gave her my number)

    Within bout 5 mins she text me and I've had a few text back and fourth with her!

    This worked well she was cool and was game for a bit of banter! Hence I number closed with her! I struggle when the girls don't give me anything to respond back to and give me lame one line responses! That's where I need to up my game and I'm hoping I can get tips on how to progress in to get more F-closes!

    Any feedback on my post would be greatly appreciated good, bad or constructive!!

    Cheers

    And apologies for the lingo I'm English!!

    Sidewinder

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    Default Re: Texting do's & don'ts.. the "Conversational Bible"

    You need to start multi-threading. You've overused the spelling joke and she's likely thinking, "Wow, this guy's really into spelling. I wonder if there's anything else to him."

    Honestly, this is a classic rookie mistake in interactions. You get an initial opener that works really well, but then you don't know when or how to transition. My best advice is to start transitioning as soon as possible and open as many threads as possible so that you don't run out of things to say.

    There were several great transition points in your conversation that you failed to jump on. But that takes practice.

    When you finally did transition, to snowboarding, it was unnatural and not part of the original conversation. This is the typical male method of communicating (i.e., ticking off parts of a list instead of connecting on an emotional level).

    The other thing is that some of your fundamentals are lacking. For instance, you qualify yourself often(i.e., "I'm just messing with you!," "(intentional spelling mistake)," "( high five----don't leave me hanging!)," etc.). All of these things show insecurity.

    Also, instead of asking for what you want, you went with the indirect, "So any ideas how we can communicate outside of POF?" That's always a bad idea.
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: Texting do's & don'ts.. the "Conversational Bible"

    Here's an example that didn't work and I'm not sure why I'm hoping someone can give me tips on this.

    This was a POF conversation with a HB9 maybe even a HB10! Either why I wanted this girl bad!!

    Her profile related to my situation in that she had been single for about the same time as me and also she was on POF to give it a try very much like myself:

    Me:
    We are in the same boat as In "being back on the shelf" I'm just gutted it's come to POF!

    Her:
    I know what you mean it's not good is it?

    Me:
    It's really not! I've been holding off making a profile but I've taken the plunge due to my boredom and whilst I'm nursing a hangover!

    Her:
    Your newbie then....u wait your only going to regret joining, I can guarantee that! I know I have! How long have you been single for?

    Me:
    I've been single for about 7 months you?

    Her:
    I've been single for 8 months now

    Me:
    How are you finding the single life? (Ok starting to see maybe why this possibly didn't work)

    Her:
    It's not all bad I don't really mind it but I wouldn't want it to be a long term thing and not looking forward to a single Xmas

    Me:
    Ha! Yeah I'm totally the same! My first Xmas for a while single! At least I don't have to buy a shed load of presents! I just find out that I go out a lot more!

    Her:
    You tight arse! Lol....more hangovers though with being single so you don't win lol

    Me:
    Ha! Sh*te that comment made me look like a right ungrateful tight arse didn't it! Whoops yeah and hangovers suck!! Even my wallet is hungover!!

    Her:
    Haha it's a good idea at the time until you check your bank balance in the morning! Maybe you will get a load of painkillers for Xmas! Lol

    Me:
    Ahh geez don't remind me I really should go out but not drink lol

    So your from ******** where you born and bred there?

    Conversation continues as I ask a bit bout her and get to know her, she tells me she works in the fraud department at a bank (something I try and play on) - she responding so I'm thinking it's going ok - I then go In for the n-close

    Me:
    So have you been having much luck on this thing or am I in for a rough ride? I've already had two 40 year olds and a transsexual message me!!.....help!!

    Her:
    Haha 40? That's young for on here....to be honest it's a joke, no one seems to seriously wanna date

    (I saw that as an invitation to ask her out)

    Me:
    Ha! Young?? Are you kidding!? I might have to duck out of this thing if that's all it's gonna be! How do you mean nobody is serious about dating? I'd quite like to see what it's like from a female perspective on here you must get some crazy messages!

    Her:
    Most guys request dirty pictures and ask sexual things it's horrible!

    Me:
    Idiots! No idea why guys do that! I think you and I are pretty much in a similar situation so if your interested in going on a date sometime then maybe we could sort something out?

    (I know I was breaking a shed load of don't there but I felt this girl would run if I started being cocky funny and she kept messaging me so I thought it was the right approach)

    Her:
    I'd like that u seem pretty normal lol

    (Boom!!)

    Me:
    Cool! Yeah I'm pretty much your average run of the mill kinda dude! Lol (now I realise that was a fail) so being a newbie what's the next step?? I'm guessing we need to get to know each other before we meet up?

    Her:
    I'm no expert but I don't think it would do any harm to get to know one another a little prior to meeting up.....is that ok with you?

    Me:
    To be honest I would prefer that! You could be some crazy weirdo! Lol a guys gotta look after himself these days lol

    Well I can give you my number if you like (fail) and my Facebook so you know I'm genuine, by the way my name is ****** nice to meet you (shake hand)

    Her:
    Hi ****** my name is ******* I don't suppose you have KIK messenger do you??

    She gave me her kick mess anger details and I sent the following:

    Me:
    Hey ******** it's ******** the weird tight arsed piss headed POF dude! Ha!

    Her:
    Haha the one and only

    Her:
    How's the hangover?

    Me:
    It's a little better but I'm still suffering!

    Her:
    I'd like to say I have sympathy for you but I don't haha!!

    Me:
    Ha cheers! Make me feel even better why don't you! Lol managed some food finally!

    Her:
    I'd be lying ( didn't quite understand that message)

    Her:
    Awe bless....you must have had a heavy night!

    Me:
    It was pretty epic!! But I've defo had worse so I can't understand why I feel so bad!

    Her:
    Maybe your just getting too old for it haha!

    Her:
    I'll leave you to eat I need to go make something too

    Me:
    Ouch! Talk about kicking me when I'm down! Haha! You scoundrel! I'd still drink you under the table....maybe!

    Her:
    You have more practice at it by the sounds of things! Anyway speak soon x

    Me:
    Ha! Yeah pathetic isn't it! See ya laters x

    (I left it and waited for her to text - it took her until 4pm the nest day)

    Her:
    Hello u

    (I waited about an hour)

    Me:
    Hey what's up? You catch any fraudsters today? ( in ref to her job)

    Her:
    Lol no I'm working on a couple of old files

    Me:
    Ha! Damn! Well you will defo get them next time! Lol how was the commute today? (she travelled to work via an hours train journey each day)

    Her:
    I'm on the train home now

    Me:
    Ha! Are you? Now what kind of train passenger are you?? Mmmm are you a candy crush player?.....no...... are you a loud talker on your mobile?.......nah I don't think so.....a sleeper?.....nope... ...a texted?......maybe.. ...I think your more of a headphones gal! Yep I'm going for that! Lol

    Her:
    Your right! I'm also a bit of a people watcher! Lol

    Me:
    Ha! I love people watching! Pretty amazing what you see sometimes! Trains are a good place for that! Any crazy/funny people on your journey home?

    (This message delivered but she didn't read it)

    Me:
    Oh and do I get a prize for guessing right?? Lol

    ( also delivered but not read)

    I left it alone for the evening as I was traveling away for work the next morning - checked later that night she still had not read the messages - I went on POF saw that she was online - I was a tad puzzled but I left it alone.

    Next morning check again, messages had delivered but she had not opened them - highly confused

    Me:
    Morning commute to Belgium to see customers today for - uggghhhhh

    (30 mins later)

    Her:
    Morning........ooohh hh cool how long are you there for?

    (10mins later)

    Me:
    Until Wednesday night ( it was Tuesday morning)

    Her;
    Tomorrow night then lol

    (I did not reply until Thursday morning when I was back - I was busy with work I could have replied but thought I would leave it till I got back home as not to seem to keen)

    Me:
    Hey how are you? (Prob a dumb text)

    (Message delivered - but not read yet I spotted her on POF quite a few times that day and night)

    Me:
    So how bout we make things easier for ourselves and chat on the phone! How about I call you?

    (Message delivered but not read)

    Not heard a peep from the girl since yet I keep seeing her on POF!

    I know I made a few errors that are no no's but she seemed to respond to me!

    A) she replied to me on POF

    B)she agreed on a date but wanted to get to know me

    C) she gave me her kik contact details and texted me on that

    D) she suddenly went silent?? Why???

    This is where I don't get women!!! Any help on this would be much appreciated!!

    Cheers

    Sidewinder

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    Default Re: Texting do's & don'ts.. the "Conversational Bible"

    Quote Originally Posted by TheDuke View Post
    You need to start multi-threading. You've overused the spelling joke and she's likely thinking, "Wow, this guy's really into spelling. I wonder if there's anything else to him."

    Honestly, this is a classic rookie mistake in interactions. You get an initial opener that works really well, but then you don't know when or how to transition. My best advice is to start transitioning as soon as possible and open as many threads as possible so that you don't run out of things to say.

    There were several great transition points in your conversation that you failed to jump on. But that takes practice.

    When you finally did transition, to snowboarding, it was unnatural and not part of the original conversation. This is the typical male method of communicating (i.e., ticking off parts of a list instead of connecting on an emotional level).

    The other thing is that some of your fundamentals are lacking. For instance, you qualify yourself often(i.e., "I'm just messing with you!," "(intentional spelling mistake)," "( high five----don't leave me hanging!)," etc.). All of these things show insecurity.

    Also, instead of asking for what you want, you went with the indirect, "So any ideas how we can communicate outside of POF?" That's always a bad idea.


    Thanks duke! Much appreciated on the feedback! I kinda thought I did ok on this one as I got her number out of it! But yeah I totally agree transitioning is my biggest problem and I'm still very much an AFC!!

    Any tips or examples on multi-threading? A lot a
    I need to learn cause I've only just started out trying these techniques in the field and online


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