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Thread: Texting do's & don'ts.. the "Conversational Bible"

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    Default Re: Texting do's & don'ts.. the "Conversational Bible"

    T-Mal question for you if you don't mind.

    a week ago, I got a phone number from a girl I met online after I passed all her shit tests (I haven't met her yet in person), and we were texting. I started with normal fun text then we started sexting (she sent me pictures of her naked, so I guess everything was going good). However, when I asked her what's her address when I knew she was super horny, she told me she didn't want to meet just yet because she's still shy. So I kept my cool vibe and kept in contact with her for the following days,and these were the texts we had yesterday:

    Her: so I just quit my job
    Me: really! what happened?
    Her: I'm sad
    Me: don't be! I don't like when you're sad
    Her: kinda hard not to be
    Her I meant
    Me:you see even your thumb typed "" instead of ""
    Her: lol you just made me smile
    Me: Yes smile (her name) life is too short to be sad
    Her: K


    So as you can see we are far from sexting now, and I'm afraid if I keep in touch with her through text to start feel bored and eventually never meet up. So, What do you think I should do at this point? Keep texting more? or is it time to ask her to meet now since it's been more than a week (either invite her over or go out with her for a drink?) If so, what should I write her?


    Thank you and sorry for the long question.

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    Default Re: Texting do's & don'ts.. the "Conversational Bible"

    Don't get in a hurry to rush & meet a girl just because she sends naked pictures....
    That can still give off a creepy vibe if you ask where she lives.

    The best way to handle that is to show appreciation but act like it's not a huge deal.

    That will subconsciously make her think you're used to girls sending you personal pics like that.

    If you asked for her address just because she sent you those kinds of pics, then she's gonna realize you're inexperienced & it's gonna make her uncomfortable too.

    Honestly what I've started doing is dragging stuff out another day or two.... and making her wonder why I never asked to meet up... which very often causes HER to suggest we meet.

    That's when you know she's hooked.




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    Default Re: Texting do's & don'ts.. the "Conversational Bible"

    Ok that's actually an important point. I'll try to have her be the one who suggest the meeting

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    Default Re: Texting do's & don'ts.. the "Conversational Bible"

    You don't have to do that... but it's been effective for me, because I'm relentless with escalation and the girl gets sooooo anxious that she can't wait any more.

    But I also suggest meeting up too.
    You have to pay attention to the degree of attraction & comfort is all.

    It just takes a few times of trial & error to REALLY gain the experience to know "when & how much".



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    Default Re: Texting do's & don'ts.. the "Conversational Bible"

    so in order to build comfort is it usually by saying fun messages or just have a normal conversation through texts? This is actually where I feel I'm getting confused the most

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    Default Re: Texting do's & don'ts.. the "Conversational Bible"

    I RARELY have "normal conversations" over text. That happens occasionally of course, but I try to shift gears as quickly as possible.

    Remember: FUN is the ultimate attraction switch above all else.
    And when a girl is having fun, she's less likely to put up resistance.



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    Default Re: Texting do's & don'ts.. the "Conversational Bible"

    I feel I'm improving, but as you said it will come with experience and practice. Thanks a million T-mal!

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    Default Re: Texting do's & don'ts.. the "Conversational Bible"

    T-mal you're an experienced man, since you're texting is good then I'm sure you got a lot of dates, therefore, I truly like to hear your opinion on this:

    So, I met this girl online for the 1st time in a bar. I ordered a drink, but she order some food in addition to a drink. I'm not stingy or anything, but I didn't want to pay on the 1st date because many I'm not commited to that girl in fact I still barely know her. Second, all good Pua's agreed on not paying on a 1st date. So, when we ordered the check, I told her let's spllit. She said I don't have my credit card sorry. So, I looked at her with a look that I don't believe her, but I didn't do anything I just said I'll pay, and I walked away without waiting for her. Then she followed me and I felt she wanted to make it up for me by saying you can come tomorrow and shit...But I feel I was used. It's not about the money, but I don't like it when girls use the guy and go on a date just for a drink.

    How would you deal with this situation? I could have just paid for my drink and left her, but I felt I still should be a gentlman and pay. (Becahse that's what makes ME feel good). I'm asking this not because I care about the money I paid for her, but because this situation keeps coming up and it's important to deal with it the RIGHT way. I don't want to come across as a provider.

    Thank you for reading

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    Default Re: Texting do's & don'ts.. the "Conversational Bible"

    Hey T-Mal great thread...was wondering if

    “what’s new puddy tat? Whoooooaaahhhh!! Where is this text going? – outie”

    ..would b an appropriate txt u could send an ex after nc

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    Default Re: Texting do's & don'ts.. the "Conversational Bible"

    Been a while since I have been on here, in truth I just had to take a break from it! I was hitting POF and Tinder hard, I got a lot of numbers went on a few dates managed to get lucky a couple of times BUT more often than not most of them got away!!

    Thanks for the reply to a few of my earlier posts T-mal and 29 you advice has been invaluable!!

    I am still trying to get used to being fun and making her laugh the majority of the time over text - when meeting girls on dating sites I think you have to have an element of normality to get to know them and try to build comfort and enhance the attraction so I have been trying to use a combination of random funny playful messages as well as dropping down to something normal then hitting her with something funny or teasing again.

    On occasion I have found that if I send a crazy weird out of the blue random text I might get a reply like huh? WTF?? I think it might just be the fact that most British girls are stuck the fuck up! but majority of the time I would get reply.

    Anyways I have been experimenting with that approach an on occasion just dropping back withing myself and messaging girls naturally, I dont wanna become a robot and I've always seemed to do ok wit girls I just wanna learn to start getting more of them and turning the choice into mine and not the girls as to whether we hook up - sick of these girls having all the power!!

    Anyways, I have hit a major sticking point and that is I have an interaction with a girl on a dating site we message back and forwards everything seems ok I might even get her number...but then..........NOTHIN G!! the texts just stop.......Kaputt... ...fuck all!!

    Why does this happen? is this a SHIT TEST??

    Admittedly I am using the Tinder app, not sure if you T-mal or 29 have tried this thng, but it's based solely on looks and you can only chat to a girl if you like her and she likes you, so you already have an element of attraction.....but the only info you have to go on is her pictures....I dont seem to have a problem matching HB8's and HB9's in fact I am getting a lot of matches but I will message a girl......get a reply.....message for a bit.....then nothing......sometim es I will message a girl.......message for a bit.....get her number.....text for a bit......then nothing......sometim es I will message a girl......and get nothing!

    This seems to be repeating on me quite a lot recently.....now I know hot girls are gonna get hit on a lot so either shes chatting to another dude she likes more than me......my messages get lost amongst the flood of other messages.......my messages suck monkey tits......or she accidentally clicked like on my profile.... could be anyone of those reasons or something else!!

    Whats frustrating is I seem to be missing out on these hot girls and I have no idea why this keeps happening!

    For example I messaged a girl I matched .....thought i would try my natural approach got chatting for a while got her number and she even suggested a meet up......text for a while and then NOTHING!! not a bean from her!! I can post this interaction as an example.

    Now I dont act needy or anything I will leave it for a while, sometimes I will send a message to try and hook them, I might get a reply.....then nothing.....sometime s my attempt at a hook gets no comeback......it's really really annoying me as I feel I have missed out on some A-GRADE ass and struggling to figure this text Freeze Out! I have even considered, for learning purposes just asking them outright why they lost interest or froze me out just for the feedback so I can improve!!

    Any advice on how to stop this happening and how to break out of this vicious cycle would be appreciated!


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