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    afcforthewin is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default How should I deal with this flake attempt?

    Met this girl on a cold pickup with a direct opener (you're cute). She didn't respond to two of my texts. So I called about a week later and she actually picked up. I arranged to meet for coffee today.

    She just texted me that she couldn't make it bc she just got out of a relationship and was uncomfortable dating. Any idea what I should say?

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    Default Re: How should I deal with this flake attempt?

    afcforthewin,

    Play it cool. Perhaps just tell her something like "I didn't really want to hang out with you either...", and then just text her a few days later, trying to hang out with her.

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    Default Re: How should I deal with this flake attempt?

    I was thinking about saying somethin like: appreciate you telling me, but I asked you to coffee not a date. hope your ex doesn't get in the way of us becoming friends?

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    Default Re: How should I deal with this flake attempt?

    Quote Originally Posted by afcforthewin View Post
    I was thinking about saying somethin like: appreciate you telling me, but I asked you to coffee not a date. hope we can still meet up?
    Honestly, that sounds kind of too much "nice guy" to me, but if you want go with it.

    If she flakes, just don't text her for a few days.

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    Default Re: How should I deal with this flake attempt?

    Quote Originally Posted by afcforthewin View Post
    Met this girl on a cold pickup with a direct opener (you're cute). She didn't respond to two of my texts. So I called about a week later and she actually picked up. I arranged to meet for coffee today.

    She just texted me that she couldn't make it bc she just got out of a relationship and was uncomfortable dating. Any idea what I should say?
    I love being super direct... But in this situation, I would play the nice guy... play the friend card, until you get behind the defenses then ATTACK! =)

    "I'm not looking to JUMP into anything also! I would love to get to know you a bit better and see what we have in common. Good friends are really what I value first in my life, above all else. How about tea and cake as friends? But I get dibs on the chocolate cake! "

    I think this will come off as understanding, open, with no expectations and then funny/friendly at the end. Its hard to rush girls that just got out of a relationship, you need to invest the time to build rapport and trust to break the barrier.
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