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    Default Attn! Suggestions for next move?

    Hi all PUAs or soon to be,

    I'm in a dilemma currently with the HB7. I met her in a social ball and managed to initiate a conversation to her. Sadly however, I wasnt able to Number Close. Nevertheless I re-initiated contact via FB and 2 days later, she surprisingly pm me her number and from there we moved on (texting game).

    We've been texting for 3 days now and things were looking good. I noticed her texts always started off and ended off with "hahas". Was about to arrange for a meet up when.... day-4, things started to go downhill? Her replies timing for texts became longer, and she seems to become distant for whatsoever reason.

    Her first text for day-4 was "Haha nope. Not keen to solve it though, just lit it go whichever it can. Cant be bothered".

    Me: "Lol believe it or not... I'm counseling trained! So if you need someone to talk to I'm all ears" - (showing concern but I think I made a wrong move there... any feedback?)

    She: "haha I just dont want to tell or even think abt it. Just wanna forgot it and pray tht everything gets betterrr."

    Me: "Haha keep it to yourself and hope that it would be forgotten! To be forgotten is forgiven !" (Perhaps too close to the friend zone... but my mind was blank then... once again feedback would be greatly appreciated)

    From then she hasnt replied since. Its been 1 day now and I think I'm having a case of one-itis with this one. Should I text back sometime soon? Perhaps some help with openers? or should I pull a freeze on this one?

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    JJ

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    Default Re: Attn! Suggestions for next move?

    Quote Originally Posted by HysteRicaL View Post
    Hi all PUAs or soon to be,

    I'm in a dilemma currently with the HB7. I met her in a social ball and managed to initiate a conversation to her. Sadly however, I wasnt able to Number Close. Nevertheless I re-initiated contact via FB and 2 days later, she surprisingly pm me her number and from there we moved on (texting game).

    We've been texting for 3 days now and things were looking good. I noticed her texts always started off and ended off with "hahas". Was about to arrange for a meet up when.... day-4, things started to go downhill? Her replies timing for texts became longer, and she seems to become distant for whatsoever reason.

    Her first text for day-4 was "Haha nope. Not keen to solve it though, just lit it go whichever it can. Cant be bothered".

    Me: "Lol believe it or not... I'm counseling trained! So if you need someone to talk to I'm all ears" - (showing concern but I think I made a wrong move there... any feedback?)

    She: "haha I just dont want to tell or even think abt it. Just wanna forgot it and pray tht everything gets betterrr."

    Me: "Haha keep it to yourself and hope that it would be forgotten! To be forgotten is forgiven !" (Perhaps too close to the friend zone... but my mind was blank then... once again feedback would be greatly appreciated)

    From then she hasnt replied since. Its been 1 day now and I think I'm having a case of one-itis with this one. Should I text back sometime soon? Perhaps some help with openers? or should I pull a freeze on this one?

    Regards,
    JJ

    You talked to her at a social, got her facebook, then talked online and got her number. She clearly has some interest in you.

    #1. Just because she doesnt reply for a day does not mean anything. I reguarly go AWOL for 1-2 weeks without replys to anyone. Its easy for people to have a busy day and just not have time to reply, so only a day is not always going to have a reason WHY.

    #2. Ignore the "haha" they are jsut filler is she is always using them. Just mentally replace the HAHA with "so"

    #3. Please do give us more of your text's. I would love to see more of your side of things. BEcause based on these 2 text's your not really doing anything in them. Not building interest, not building repport, not asking her, nothing.. just flat line..

    For example look at your last text..
    pretend you have this fat girl and shes ugly with bad sense of humor but for some weird reason she has your number and is texting you, and you dont have a interest in her but you dont hate her either.... What if she texted you this: "Haha keep it to yourself and hope that it would be forgotten! To be forgotten is forgiven !"

    Its a statement, nothing for you to HOOK onto and reply. Nothing interesting in it, nothing your curious about. Just a boring sentence. You will read it and in your mind you will say "ok" and never reply it........SO why would you expect her to reply to it.
    Go back and read all of your texts from that point of view and think, would I reply to it? This should give you a lightbulb moment of "AHHH" and hopefully your next texts are more intriguing..

    Another rule of thumb is avoid negative subjects or topic or things she might complain about. Today a girl texted me some crap about her and this drama she had with another guy and I said "I dont know this fellow your talking about and whats upw ith him. I am your pimp not your girlfriend!" You dont need to say that, just keep that in mind... That your hunting her not trying to be her best friend or girlfriend.

    Don't freeze her out, go back over your old conversations and find out where she had interest and what topics you were talking about like when u first met her, when she gave you her phone #, etc. Then the next text you send her refer back to them and get the conversation back on those old tracks she had positive interest in,,,
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    Default Re: Attn! Suggestions for next move?

    Thanks MobileAe for the interesting remarks and advice!

    Just a summary of what went down in day 1.

    Me: Hey ...., This is ..... Do you speak text?
    Her: Haha Hey there!
    Me: (lost my sent text.... must have deleted them due to space constrains) but her collective replies are as follows for Day 1
    Her: haha oops! you havent slept yet? I thought that's like lights out or smt for army boys! Haha
    Her: haha for a hardworking college kid, staying up late isnt really an option. haha! Sleeping is a privilege!
    Her: Haha sorry was working on my assignment. Haha I guess this proves that I'm really hardworking, not just a bedtime story okay! Haha!
    I think I ended the conversation then. Btw it started around 9pm and lasted to 2am?

    Day 2 and Day 3 (couldnt organised the days... I need to change my phone)

    Me: Hey miss hardworking, I went for lunch at a XXX mall and just happen to see the most cutest thing ever.
    Her: Haha oh really?
    Me: (lost some of my beginning sent text.... must have deleted them due to space constrains) but her collective replies are as follows for Day 2.
    Her: Haha they allow dog into the mall?
    Her: Excuse me? I know I'm cute, but definitely NOT a dog!!! Haha
    Me: (I think i went along the lines of her being demanding and playing too hard to get?)
    Her: Lol. Thats not even playing, friend!
    Me: (was blank about the friend word.... but I continued to play the text game)
    Her: Trust me, demanding isnt me. Most of the time I can't be bothered. But.. thats not the point!!
    Me: Intriguing, explain.
    Her: Which part?
    Me: The point!
    Her: Haha nah. Nth Big. Haha
    Me: (lost the text again... I went with the make or break question - local delights or western!) and she sent back in a few mins, I waited out for 45-60mins
    Her: Western! haha.
    Me: I like that (smiley). So you're cute and I can't get over it... So what else is there about you? You're cute and ... what else is interesting or unique?
    Her: Mm, that sound like self praising. haha. I love to eat healthily but always fail. Haha. cant get over my cuteness? Oh i get that a lot. Hahah.
    Me: Lol, talk about practising what you preach?
    Her: Anyways eating healthily is difficult~
    Me: Haha, you dont say.. Back to topic, what is there to know about you?!
    Her: Haha i dont know eh. What kind of things? haha.
    Me: What do I want to know hmm?.. For starters, why werent you here just now?! Was attempting to cook this western spaghetti just now and surprisingly it tasted good. And for seconds, what are your interests?
    Her: For now my interest is ----- and -----. Haha, I love to go beach and cycling. Yea but I cant cycle well, wierd. Really, you cooks? Thats really rare for a guy!
    Me: Im surprised, high five to common interests (smiley with hands). Btw where do you live?
    Her: You like cycling? ----- (the place she stays at). Super random place!

    (lost my sent text AGAIN.... anyways the following below texts are some of the texts that were in between the above for Day 2 and 3.

    Me: True. Then again i cant believe all you have in your mind currently is projects! Ha, so what do you do for fun? I'm sure you have something much more going for you instead?
    Her: Mmm trust me, most of it is projects. Hahahha! Oh well, wekkdays for sch, weekends to play!
    Me: Define fun?!
    Her: just hanging out with friends, nth crazy hahs
    Me: Hmm, yup that sounds about right, real fun? Haha, you know what else is fun?
    Her: hah I have no idea! Anyways sorry for the late reply, I was baking! haha
    Me: Lol! I used to bake quite a fair bit too. You're place must be smelling good atm, stop tempting me! Haha, going back to fun, have you watched HIMYM? You know this could turn out to be legend... Wait for it ............. (left it hanging and sent it)
    Her: Haha nahh, I tried a new recipe today. It kinda failed. haha. Nah, I didn't watch that. Too many series to start on that.
    Me: Aww, was hoping to ask you to leave me some - maybe next time (wink smiley). And wow... missed the legend reference and not watching the series!> Minus 3 cool points.
    Her: Haha maybe next time when i stop experimenting new ingredients. haha Excuse me, minus my cool point? how dare you! hahah!
    Me: (lost my text... but its something about what course do you do and maybe i can add back cool points, and about a early day tomorrowing and saying nights)
    Her: Im in ----------- haha nights!

    Day 3 end and start of Day 4

    Me: (Msg her in the early morning, forgot how i opened...)
    Her: Haha talking about unearthly hours, why are you awake man!
    * After for like half the full day...She mentioned something about busy and etc... and how something happened thats about it (for rest refer to the above mentioned in the first post).

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    Default Re: Attn! Suggestions for next move?

    So with regards your reply post. How should I make my next move then? Knowing the story better with the above summary of texts sent.

    Much appreciated for the help if you can advise me accordingly! Currently I'm at wits end.

    Regards,
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    Default Re: Attn! Suggestions for next move?

    I think all in all it sounds very playful and just friendly. After 4 days of texting, there was tons of situations for you to dhv yourself and neg her and lower her value.

    "Me: I like that (smiley). So you're cute and I can't get over it... So what else is there about you? You're cute and ... what else is interesting or unique?"

    I dont like this because your saying your cute and really attracted to her and you want to know more and u need to know more about her and you really think shes cute. I only use this much praise on really ugly girls that need the comliments, but for any good looking girl.. Your just AFC and turn her into the prize. Clearly YOU are the PRIZE and she should be interested in attracting you.

    Here is some ways I would handle some of the replies above:

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    Me: Haha, you dont say.. Back to topic, what is there to know about you?!
    Her: Haha i dont know eh. What kind of things? haha.
    -----
    I am sure she is a young girl, under 22 and is like most girls.. ditzy and needs directions. So making open ended questions like that, kind of kill the conversation in TEXT u might want to only use those in LIVE situations..

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    Me: What do I want to know hmm?.. For starters, why werent you here just now?! Was attempting to cook this western spaghetti just now and surprisingly it tasted good. And for seconds, what are your interests?
    -----
    I would have went with "Just cooked western spaghetti, turned out awesome. I feel bad you didn't get to taste any" << shows you can cook, and cook well. Soo good, its ashamed she couldn't see how goo it was. Planting the seed of her imaging eating your cooking at your place. Then if she says ohh i want to try, or wish i could, or anything along thaat lines.. u just escalate conversation into her coming to your place..


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    Her: For now my interest is ----- and -----. Haha, I love to go beach and cycling. Yea but I cant cycle well, wierd. Really, you cooks? Thats really rare for a guy!
    -----
    maybe I would have gone "I tried cycling at the beach, but I only made it like 10 feet then the sand was too deep and I had to push " and send a second text instantly about the cooking "Ohh I thought all guys can cook. I love to cook, but prefer to have someone to cook so I can try some new recipes" of course planting a seed and hope she volunteers...


    between the baking and common interests, your trying too hard. You could easily neg her about one of her interests or her baking... try not to show soo much interest or commonality ... when u force commonality interests its obvious.. You need to think a step ahead and let her make the connections.


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    Her: Mmm trust me, most of it is projects. Hahahha! Oh well, wekkdays for sch, weekends to play!
    -----
    I think you missed the most important part here where she said "most of it is projects. Hahahha! Oh well!" that is like a red alert to me... shes trying to be playfull there... your reply should obviously assume something.. "most. haha? that sounds scary! Either your a nyphomaniac (was ex-gf was one!) or your a cleptomanic .. so I have to warn you I have NO VALUABLES that are not bolted down" now she will either ask about the nypho and u can roll into sex talk.... or she will mention the clepo first and then quietly mention the nypho after....


    Anyways.. point is.. so many situations to easily escalate and make the talk interesting... building attracting and rapport...
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    Default Re: Attn! Suggestions for next move?

    I understand. Great... So I need to build more attraction and rapport. But the key issue now is opening again. Suggestions?

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    Default Re: Attn! Suggestions for next move?

    Quote Originally Posted by HysteRicaL View Post
    So with regards your reply post. How should I make my next move then? Knowing the story better with the above summary of texts sent.

    Much appreciated for the help if you can advise me accordingly! Currently I'm at wits end.

    Regards,
    JJ
    Right! back to the point... been a day... now you want to re-open her. But she said something happened and she was busy. You could prob just wait a few more days and she will reopen you.. Most likely give her a day to sort out her shit and then any re-open... she will mostly likely be positive to it and continue on.. so dont be afraid that your loosing/lost her.
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    Default Re: Attn! Suggestions for next move?

    Thanks! I'll keep this open for discussion. Any more tips, help would be greatly appreciated I.e. New openers, how to build attraction and rapport tips and suggestions in this instance. What about phone calls? Is that plausible?

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    Default Re: Attn! Suggestions for next move?

    Hey! Followed your advice and re-opened. Things went well. But I'm currently lost to her next reply and need some help for it!

    Text summary is as follows:

    Me: Hey hard-worker, I hope you're in good spirits today.
    Her: Yeapppp. I havent memorise finish and im late for test!!
    Me: Haha, yep, thought so. After so many late nights, I'm sure you'd be fine (y). I on the other hand am actually feeling "absolutely deadddd." atm, just did my 40 storey vertical marathon!
    Her: Haha really? So cool! Whats your timing?
    Her: And no army stuff today meh?
    Me: I think I'm getting too old . Life isn't about ns, where got time?! But I know what I have time for..
    Her: Haha what do you have time for
    Her: *?

    Hmm looks like I've gotten myself into this situation and she's throwing a sh!t test on me. So how should I phrase it in a way to build rapport and attraction any ideas? And of course beat the sh!t test!

    Much appreciated,
    JJ

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    Default Re: Attn! Suggestions for next move?

    Quote Originally Posted by HysteRicaL View Post
    Hey! Followed your advice and re-opened. Things went well. But I'm currently lost to her next reply and need some help for it!

    Text summary is as follows:

    Me: Hey hard-worker, I hope you're in good spirits today.
    Her: Yeapppp. I havent memorise finish and im late for test!!
    Me: Haha, yep, thought so. After so many late nights, I'm sure you'd be fine (y). I on the other hand am actually feeling "absolutely deadddd." atm, just did my 40 storey vertical marathon!
    Her: Haha really? So cool! Whats your timing?
    Her: And no army stuff today meh?
    Me: I think I'm getting too old . Life isn't about ns, where got time?! But I know what I have time for..
    Her: Haha what do you have time for
    Her: *?

    Hmm looks like I've gotten myself into this situation and she's throwing a sh!t test on me. So how should I phrase it in a way to build rapport and attraction any ideas? And of course beat the sh!t test!

    Much appreciated,
    JJ

    That is the second time she brought up the "army stuff/guys" without you saying the word "army" first. Clearly that is a interest for her.

    You keep on saying statements and giving her nothing to reply back to. You might want to try to be a bit more conversational...

    "Me: I think I'm getting too old . Life isn't about ns, where got time?! But I know what I have time for.." << Sounds like you might have time for... her, girls, fun, sex, something fun it looks to be like..

    Then she playfully replies "Her: Haha what do you have time for" so shes opening this RIGHT UP for you to say ANYTHING.... this is the perfect place to escalate...
    Say something simple and fun like "I have time for a snuggle and movie at my place. Which movie do you want to rent?"
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