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Thread: Dating a Girl with LSE

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    Default Dating a Girl with LSE

    Im dating this girl I met last January. I think she is awesome and treats me relatively well. Now she is a few pounds overweight and she is also tall..about 5'10". Her body weight is proportionate and she has very good looks. Here's the problem, all her friends (male and female), tell her I am way too good looking for her and well mannered, becuase my girl is kind of a party girl at times. Some her female friends tried to hit on me. Now I am not a conceded person so I dont feel this way about myself and I do like this girl. She feels I am downgrading by going out with her.
    It's been lately that the toxic thoughts those around her put into her head affect the way she feels. Everyone around her is just anticipating I dump her for another woman. I tell her how great I think she is often. How do I help her manage those around her and help her deal with others' negativity towards her relationship with me? Thanks guys.

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    Default Re: Dating a Girl with LSE

    Be her man and stand up for her, if you truly like her. It's not up to them to govern your emotions. That's what being an alpha is; if they don't like her, and you are committed to her, you do what's right and be a leader.

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    Default Re: Dating a Girl with LSE

    I've been working on Inner Game with a couple of my wingmen from the local PUA Community. There are definitely ways to reframe stuff and boost someone else's confidence. She's too tall? You don't like short girls. She's too into partying? You're looking for someone who's outgoing and sociable.

    There are a variety of ways to get people off your back. The best way is to be honest and clear: "I like this girl, and I'm happy with her. You've already told me what you think of her, so I don't need to hear it anymore." It sounds like that hasn't worked. Sometimes making a joke can be a safe way to deflect Tension and negativity. You could even use some sexual teasing with these friends.

    You can run some of the AMOG routines on your friends to assert that you are the alpha: "I'm flattered that you think I'm too sexy for her." or "Listen man, I know you think that you can give me a better back massage than my girl, but I don't swing that way." If they try to explain that they aren't gay, tell them, "You don't have to explain yourself to me." or "It's cool. I'm not here to judge you."

    Eventually they will get bored or you'll find some better friends to hang out with. I've definitely had friends who dated girls that I found annoying. Eventually we either made peace around it or the friendship faded away for a little while. Both options are fine. Letting them disrespect your girl is not.

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    Default Re: Dating a Girl with LSE

    I know it's kinda hard man especially if your surroundings are all negative. It will influence everything. But if you're really into her, work out everything and show her that you really care for her and that you like her. Tell her that the people around you are just jealous of you guys. But here's the thing: She has to fight for you too and not just you. Relationship is not a one way street, You two should both work it out. If you already tried your best and if she still listen to the people around her, that means she's not the girl for you.. she has to be strong too. If it won't work, there are better girls out there that will be perfect for you. Good luck man!

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    Default Re: Dating a Girl with LSE

    how often has other peoples advive worked for you?

    How many times have you had to figure it out on your own?

    How envious is the world today?

    Can you see yourself with her in 10 years time?

    Can you see these friends associated in 10 years time?

    Has these peoples advice ever been good in the past?

    Are they just offering advice about your relationship?

    Can you really trust somebody who is talking down there friend?

    DO these people seem genuine to you?

    do they seem loyal to you or her if they are hitting on you?

    Are these people even worthy of an opinion in your personal life?

    The answer is in these questions, start asking yourself.

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    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: Dating a Girl with LSE

    PUAatmosphere is absolutely 100% right. We all live in our own little "bubbles" of realities. And perception is reality. In PUA it is called "frames." Trying to CONVINCE her or her friends that their views are wrong is STILL falling into the frame that "she is not good enough for you." Re-framing is the most powerful tool a PUA has and I would even go as far as to say that frame control is PUA in a nutshell. Become a master at frame control and your "bubble" will never be breached.


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