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    Default Good reply rate went wrong - Is she sh1t testing?

    Hey Guys,

    I'm pretty new to gaming, so I'm just trying to collect the ideas discussed here and apply it accordingly. I got great reply rate so far on some of the openers I have found here... I'm on Badoo, where my main problem is that most women have only photos and nothing else. So it's really hard to catch into something.

    I have approached only 7+ women. So far 2 out of 3 have answered. Then I have screwed with one of them, where would have you done different?

    Here is the most recent HB7. (The conversation is in Hungarian, I translate back and forth)

    I have opened:

    "
    Hi XXXX,
    If you would have been in the room with 100 other girls who looks the same, how should I know which one is you? How would you stand out from the crowd? Let's start for example telling me what is the ideal weekend trip for you, where would we go, and what would we do there? So I give it a chance that you are also interesting, and if yes, we might talk a little. You might even realize that you are talking to a funny, intelligent and cool guy, who is certainly the perfect man you were waiting for your whole life."

    I was trying to be sarcastic at the end as all women wants the "same" in my experience.

    Her response:

    "
    Hi,
    For me the ideal, relaxing and ultimate trip is when I can watch the sky and the clouds at a field full of ponceaus and cornflowers.
    But I would be also interested, that how many other girls did you copy - paste this message by replacing the names?"

    Me:

    " Certainly for 10000 other girls too, what else did you think? But for sure to 99 others, that's why I have asked how would you stand out?

    But to be serious, the situation is not so great. If you take a look at this website as a man, you will see that I don't need copy - paste. I don't know if the situation is better from a female's perspective.

    Let's get back to our little weekend trip... Are you an agricultural engineer? Ponceaus and cornflowers... You would look at the blue sky and laying around whistling, why you would send me harvesting? We are looking nice... We barely know each other and you already want to use me. I better watch out!

    Now that I'm looking at your photos a little bit (she had no text), you seem to me a smart, kind and sophisticated girl. (That's why I have written. You have lived abroad right?

    But now that I'm looking at your eyes in more details, you have a little daredevilish in you, and a little "Smarty pantness".

    Then all she answered:

    "Write like this: smarty pantness

    ----

    So is she sh1t-testing me? Going to pinpoint something in grammar? Where did I screw up, and how would you rebounce from here. The suggestions are most appreciated. Maybe I was too long.

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    Default Re: Good reply rate went wrong - Is she sh1t testing?

    I think she's actually just playing along.
    She seems to be a pretty good sport.

    To ME, it looks like she's just saying you should add a "winky face" after the "Smarty Pantness" comment.

    I would write back something like "OHHH, maybe I should change that name to "Sassy-Pants"? "

    & include 2 winky faces.

    So, it's kind of a Sh1t Test... but in a more playful way.


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    Default Re: Good reply rate went wrong - Is she sh1t testing?

    Quote Originally Posted by tmalonetn View Post
    I think she's actually just playing along.
    To ME, it looks like she's just saying you should add a "winky face" after the "Smarty Pantness" comment.

    I would write back something like "OHHH, maybe I should change that name to "Sassy-Pants"? "

    & include 2 winky faces.

    So, it's kind of a Sh1t Test... but in a more playful way.
    Well thanks for the feedback. It's great to see the high self esteem (you) reaction besides mine (low self esteem).

    I thought she was pointing out that I wrote her "Smarty pants" as a name with a big "S" and not as an adjective with small "s".

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    Default Re: Good reply rate went wrong - Is she sh1t testing?

    It could be that too...
    But the main thing is, it's not what she specifically meant that's important, but rather, how you react & respond.

    If you come back unfazed, & keep the playful, funny attitude, you'll be rockin!


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    Default Re: Good reply rate went wrong - Is she sh1t testing?

    Well, she has replied. She is actually a spelling nazi. We had a quick convo, this is how it went:

    Me: Ahha, so I should change that name to "Sassy pants:
    She: No. To Ms. Teacher
    Me: Alright, We are at it...
    In retrospective it wasn't such a bad name "Smarty pants"
    And what is the next lesson about?
    She: Nothing, especially if you write properly.
    Me: Huhh, I'm relieved
    If this is the only word that you have found problematic
    She: I log off, but not because of this
    I gotta leave from home,
    Bye
    Me: Bye


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    So what's next step in a situation like this when the target is short and brief and not giving too much to hang into? Also she has totally disregarded my assumptions. At least she has pointed out that she is not leaving because of this. Now the optimist in me.
    Last edited by solbrother; 07-30-2012 at 11:51 AM. Reason: Adding more info

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    Default Re: Good reply rate went wrong - Is she sh1t testing?

    It sounds like things are going good so far.
    She seems to have a funny, sarcastic sense of humor.. which is always cool!

    I'd just keep up the playful banter like you have been, & then gradually work towards meeting up sometime.

    But in the mean time, wait for her to message back, so you don't come across as being too over-eager & needy.

    With the interaction you've already had, she seems like the type who will definitely respond back as soon as she can.

    But if for some reason you don't hear from her after a day or two, just send a playful, funny message to re-initiate the conversation.


    So far, it looks like you're handling everything great.


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    Default Re: Good reply rate went wrong - Is she sh1t testing?

    Thanks so far. So we will see... I don't have high hopes, The Vibe wasn't there...

    Anyways, while we are waiting, here is an another opener with a good reply rate so far:

    "Hi XXXX,
    Are you sure, that you are not a big, fat ugly guy with glasses who is just having fun at reading the messages like "Hi, you are hot!" and alike from lame and desperate men? Because if not, then we might talk a little. You might even realize that you are talking to a funny, intelligent and cool guy, who is certainly the perfect man you were waiting for your whole life." And then I add immediately in a next message: "Hmmm... Maybe you are a big, fat, ugly girl with glasses :O"

    So far it has worked, got a response full of smile faces from an another HB7

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    Default Re: Good reply rate went wrong - Is she sh1t testing?

    Maybe it could have been a good reply too to the "Teacher" after she said that I should call her "Ms Teacher":

    Ahh, so you want me to call you Ms. Teacher? I'm not much into the role games, but only this time I might play along with you. But it will be expensive, as my hourly rate is high!"

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    Default Re: Good reply rate went wrong - Is she sh1t testing?

    LOL!!

    That's actually pretty good! It's a slick way of injecting a little innuendo into the convo, without getting overtly sexual.

    You can keep the basic idea in mind for later on & use that same "role playing" line when she presents the opportunity to throw it in.


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    Default Re: Good reply rate went wrong - Is she sh1t testing?

    Quote Originally Posted by solbrother View Post
    Hey Guys,

    I'm pretty new to gaming, so I'm just trying to collect the ideas discussed here and apply it accordingly. I got great reply rate so far on some of the openers I have found here... I'm on Badoo, where my main problem is that most women have only photos and nothing else. So it's really hard to catch into something.

    I have approached only 7+ women. So far 2 out of 3 have answered. Then I have screwed with one of them, where would have you done different?

    Here is the most recent HB7. (The conversation is in Hungarian, I translate back and forth)

    I have opened:

    "
    Hi XXXX,
    If you would have been in the room with 100 other girls who looks the same, how should I know which one is you? How would you stand out from the crowd? Let's start for example telling me what is the ideal weekend trip for you, where would we go, and what would we do there? So I give it a chance that you are also interesting, and if yes, we might talk a little. You might even realize that you are talking to a funny, intelligent and cool guy, who is certainly the perfect man you were waiting for your whole life."

    I was trying to be sarcastic at the end as all women wants the "same" in my experience.

    Her response:

    "
    Hi,
    For me the ideal, relaxing and ultimate trip is when I can watch the sky and the clouds at a field full of ponceaus and cornflowers.
    But I would be also interested, that how many other girls did you copy - paste this message by replacing the names?"

    Me:

    " Certainly for 10000 other girls too, what else did you think? But for sure to 99 others, that's why I have asked how would you stand out?

    But to be serious, the situation is not so great. If you take a look at this website as a man, you will see that I don't need copy - paste. I don't know if the situation is better from a female's perspective.

    Let's get back to our little weekend trip... Are you an agricultural engineer? Ponceaus and cornflowers... You would look at the blue sky and laying around whistling, why you would send me harvesting? We are looking nice... We barely know each other and you already want to use me. I better watch out!

    Now that I'm looking at your photos a little bit (she had no text), you seem to me a smart, kind and sophisticated girl. (That's why I have written. You have lived abroad right?

    But now that I'm looking at your eyes in more details, you have a little daredevilish in you, and a little "Smarty pantness".

    Then all she answered:

    "Write like this: smarty pantness

    ----

    So is she sh1t-testing me? Going to pinpoint something in grammar? Where did I screw up, and how would you rebounce from here. The suggestions are most appreciated. Maybe I was too long.
    Not at all bro, don't worry about it in fact she seems like a pretty cool chick. Just keep it playful and don't over think it but u should start working u're way up to a date.
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
    _Xavier.


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